Over the road or local??/

Denise - posted on 03/03/2009 ( 23 moms have responded )

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My husband is mostly local but sometimes he is gone overnight depending on the load. Would you rather have your husband local or over-the -road and are they still working the same amount of hours or has it declined alot???????? My husband is only working 2-3 days a week now.

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Byn - posted on 04/24/2011

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hi- my husband did otr and switched to dedicated so hes home every other- every 2 nights and home most saturdays and honestly i cant even say whitch is better, money wise its better on dedicated then local or otr but him being gone so much is still hard. sometimes though i think its easier when hes gone, usually after hes been home its like starting all over with my boys being upset daddy had to go, but its a steadier pay and work with him being on dedicated then it was local or otr..

♥Lena - posted on 03/15/2011

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My husband has been OTR now for almost 2 years, which sucks for all of us because we have a 5 yr old together who misses him like crazy and needs her daddy and we have another on the way due in July.....I would LOVE for him to have something local or if he could at least some home more than every 3 weeks, get very hard and is even harder dealing with him gone while pregnant. We just haven't had any luck finding a different job for him here in MI and oh boy does it suck.

Terri - posted on 02/07/2011

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My Hubby is OTR O/O Subcontracted with a moving and storage company. I'm lucky if he makes it home 1 or 2 days out of a month.

Karen - posted on 01/21/2011

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When I met hubby he ws over the road. After we got married he went to local. Things have slowed down, he drives hazmat. Rarely they will send him out of town, for a few nights he hates thats as do we. Right now he has a dedicated run and that means he is usually home to see Son off to achool then he sleeps till it's time to go back to work. However it's harder on my SD. We only see her on weekend and they have him working on weekends as well. So she gets less time with him.
I couldn't handle if he was to go OTR full time. I think I would be insane.

Abby - posted on 10/08/2010

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my husband is rarely ever home...hes also an OTR driver goin from coast to coast and home only 2-3 days...i would so much rather have him local..we're expecting a baby and would like him home to spend time with the kids we already have..his mine and ours..but i know it pays the bills..

Jennifer - posted on 06/17/2010

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mine is local, but he spends 6 weeks away at one point of the year and that is so hard as the kids miss him so much. and as a truckies daughter i know what its like. you just have to make the most of the time you have together.

Katy - posted on 02/19/2010

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Did your husband start over the road then move into regional? I am so over mine being gone all the time and so is my daughter.

Desire - posted on 02/13/2010

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My husband has done both over the road and regional/local (overnights). When things were busy I'd prefer over the road because at least I'd get 3 or 4 days straight with him at a time, instead of 2 hours a day before he had to go to sleep. He hated it though because he missed the boys. But with the economy the way it is we have a good mix. He's here when the boys wake up and gets the oldest off to school and can stay up until the baby takes his nap. Then we can have dinner together before he goes to work at night. And for the last month or so he's only working 4 days a week. The $ situation is a little more stressful but it's worth it. He didn't get to really spend time with our oldest until he was 2. But now he's able to be here for all of the baby's first and really enjoy him. It's worth it. I'd pick this local schedule over OTR any day!

Mary - posted on 01/15/2010

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My husband drives locally but works 12 to 14 hour days. So he only really sees the girls on the weekend.

Baylie - posted on 09/05/2009

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I would love my husband to be local.. but where we live there isn't really any work for local drivers. So he ended going over the road, I don't think it's that bad. I dispatch his loads as well as his coworkers loads. But he is home every weekend, it just gets takin used to.

Cindy - posted on 07/24/2009

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My husband used to have a dedicated run. Now hes back on the board. Hes gone for weeks at a time but the economy sucks so bad that he is spending more time at the truck stops waiting for a load than he is driving. Its declined!!!

Jody - posted on 07/24/2009

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My Fiance' is working for Crete and he works over the road. He is usually gone for a week at a time. But ~ he can be gone for 2 or more weeks also! He works the midwest region of the U.S. He was home for health reasons for 20 days, so now that he is back to work, we may not see him for like a month!! Don't that just suck?!!

Michelle - posted on 07/19/2009

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My husband is local but he works 60-65 hrs a week (5 days). We have 2 young children that require a lot of care right now also. We have a 7 yr old son that has PDD- Asperger's and a few other disorders, and a 4 1/2 yr old daughter wither asthma and Bipolar Disorder. I am like a single mom almost. He comes home, eats, showers, and hops in bed. The kids usually see him for a few mins. and they spend a lot of time with him on the weekends. He has been driving a truck for 12 yrs. We have been married for 10 this yr. I went w/ him over the road for about a year after we got married and it was the best experience of my life. I got to see a lot of the US that I proably will never see now that we have children. It was a rough life though! He has been local ever since.

Serena - posted on 07/07/2009

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My husband is OTR. It has it's ups and downs. He has only been doing it for just under 2 years so we won't be trying locals until next year. Pretty much every company here requires 2 years OTR min :-(. Yes, it has slowed down and we have also experienced some trials and tribs with his company taking adantage but, he is still pulling enough to make ends meet (so far)

Laura - posted on 06/24/2009

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my husband is a o/o and he is gone usually 3 nights a week, we pull containers.

Stephanie - posted on 06/11/2009

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Quoting May:



My husband is an owner operator who is never home and when he is he is usually sleeping.  When we met he was driving  truck but was home ever few days, he switched jobs a few times being gone longer and longer.  Then he found a job driving where he was home every night; I loved it!!!!  We decided to start a family, then he decided to buy a truck; long story short  we now have 2 trucks, 2 trailers, and an employee.






  I find it hard not to resent him at times.  I know he is doing what he loves.  But, now we have 2 small children who never see their Dad, and when he is with them, they drive him crazy because he's not used to being around them! 






I'm sure there are other moms in my situation.....does it ever get easier? 



 



My husband drives over the road and we just our first baby together in December.  He loves driving over the road.  It is what he is meant to do, but it is so hard on me.  He had to leave the morning after I had our baby and because I didn't get any rest in the hospital, I had to stay another day due to my blood pressure spiking.  I didn't have anyone to help me at all after I had the baby.  Now our baby is 6 months old and when my husband comes home and the first time he holds our baby, he cries like he is scared.  It just breaks my heart because I know my husband is torn between providing for his family that he works so hard for or spenidng every waking moment with his son.  I just try to help balance everything out.  We are currently looking for a local job or even a dump truck driving job, something where he would be home every night or even every other night.  He was supposed to come in this weekend and the guys he drives for made him go back out to Colorado and won't be home until next weekend. 



When the economy got slow, his boss dropped his pay 8 cents per mile.  Then in late January they gave him a penny raise and not even a month later, they cut out paying for dead head miles.  Now they are saying they are going to buy another truck and hire another driver and won't be able to afford the employee taxes so they are going to make him file a 1099 on his taxes.  We have got to find him someone else to work for.  This sucks.  I hope it gets better, May.  I don't think I am going to be able to handle much more of his employer taking advantage of my hard working hubby.  Sorry, but I just got so mad when I wrote what they have done to him.  It just sucks.  I hope things get easier for you.  Doesn't look like ours will until my hubby finds another job.



 





 

Denise - posted on 05/20/2009

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May - I totally understand. My husband and I owned several trucking companies and there were times that even though it was local he was gone from 3am to 8pm - just depended on where the load got dropped off too. At the time our two children were elementry ag or younger and it was tough on me. I often felt like a single parent. to answer question - it does get better cause the kids get bigger and do not need as much from you. You have time to breath without a child hanging all over you.

May - posted on 04/08/2009

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My husband is an owner operator who is never home and when he is he is usually sleeping.  When we met he was driving  truck but was home ever few days, he switched jobs a few times being gone longer and longer.  Then he found a job driving where he was home every night; I loved it!!!!  We decided to start a family, then he decided to buy a truck; long story short  we now have 2 trucks, 2 trailers, and an employee.



  I find it hard not to resent him at times.  I know he is doing what he loves.  But, now we have 2 small children who never see their Dad, and when he is with them, they drive him crazy because he's not used to being around them! 



I'm sure there are other moms in my situation.....does it ever get easier? 

Shawna - posted on 04/07/2009

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My husband is over the road. He's never gone for more than a week tho. Home every Friday. It had slowed down ALOT, he was only workin maybe a few nights a week but its picking back up. I do miss him, but I think it makes us appreciate each other alot more & plus we get breaks from each other. Ha ha! :)

SteveandAmanda - posted on 04/07/2009

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ive been on both ends of the spetrum my husband started out over the road and he was gone all week, sometimes more it all depended on the loads.i was a new mom and very lonley, but with a cell phone it was nice to talk when we wanted, and my daughter and i could go with him when she was older. Now he is a local driver and works 60 hours a week. I wonder sometimes if he was better off over the road because he comes home eats takes a shower gets maybe a little down time before he goes to bed and starts over. He even works on saturdays to make some extra money to pay things off with the economy the way it is you never know what is going to happen. There is alot of stress with his job right now because of the economy. I'm guessing its that way for all companies right now.

Marie - posted on 03/16/2009

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Hi Denise, my hubby does scotland, london and the lakes so pretty much up and down the country but is always back the next day usually to do the following night.Hes on a rolling rota now which gives him 5 days in a go off which is good when you have children, plus i miss him too. X Marie mum of 13 yr old girl and 15 yr son and hubby of 17 yrs xx

Donna - posted on 03/13/2009

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My husband is over-the-road.  I like him being over the road but it does get lonely.  Right now I still have a son at home and he keeps me company when he is home that is.  We would not be able to survive with  local runs though.  Over the road is how his company makes the money.  He delivers food and other products but they pay by the items unloaded.

Jessica - posted on 03/12/2009

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My husband started out over-the-raod. He was gone 6 to sometiems 8 weeks at a time and only home for 3 or 4 days; sometimes less if they needed him back! And during that time he went coast to coast hauling all sorts of items. Once he even went down to Florida and delivered stage props for a Disney Theater Show.....He had to call the kids and brag that day! LOL Now he has an exclusive account with JC Penny. He drives all over the Mid-West, Monday thru Friday and he's home only on weekends. At first, I missed him like crazy! I didnt know what to do with myself, but now that he's home every week and he has a cell phone and we can talk a lot, we slipped into a rutine and it works. I still miss him, but it sure makes our time together precious! =)

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