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Soon-to-be Trucker's Wife...

Kim - posted on 06/24/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )

My husband and I will be married 5 years in August, and we have a 2 year old daughter. For as long as I've known him, he's done nothing but talk about driving. When he sees a truck he likes, het gets that gleam - you know, the kid in a candy store look. He was a trucker about 9 years ago, but local at the last job, when he left to work for a lawyer. Yeah, a lawyer.

We've been living in a major city and have wanted to move back to the country for a long time. Now it seems we will (and SOON) because he's just signed on to be an OTR driver again.

I'm very scared, and I have no friends I can talk to about this. It's going to be hard to move away from my family, and then to be alone on top of it? I'm scared that I won't be able to deal with it. With the loneliness. We've never been apart for more than a few days at a time - and that's been maybe three times in 6 years. And a terrible 2 year old on top of it? It's all very scary.

So I need to know... have your marriages suffered or gotten better, if your husband started driving AFTER you were married/had kids? Our marriage is good right now - not perfect but certainly not bad - but it worries me. Maybe it's just a touch of paranoia and lack of self esteem.

For what it's worth, his company tries to get their drivers home every weekend. So I know that's good, but this entire situation is very, very new to me.

Thanks in advance, and for reading all of that.

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Mindy - posted on 08/31/2011

Trucking can be very hard on a family when you have kids, My husband works away trucking and he just came home after being away for almost 2 months I did however go up to see him for a week the month before, Most the time we see each other every 3 to 4 weeks and its very hard as I have a soon to be 18 month old and have only been married 3 yrs.. this is how I deal with it, I have to put in my mind that my hubby has to do what he does to meet the bills and hes doing to best he can and thats just how it is. Complaining it make it really worse cus i cant do anything about him being gone rightnow and just have to suck it up.. it gets harder when you friends are married and sitting there and kiss their hubby and cuddle in front of you and say I dont know how you do it. you just do and try not to think about it.. I dont have any family close by and that makes it hard as theres no one to watch my daughter and I dont trust just leaving her with anyone....
Best of luck and try to keep your head up when it gets hard its better for both people..

Ashley - posted on 07/29/2011

I feel for you. My husband and I have been married for 8 years. We have 4 kids ages 3,4,6,7 and he is going on the road in December. He too is obsessed with trucking like I am with Vampire movies:) So we are kindof on the same boat, just loads are different.lol. I wish you the best of luck. All I have learned from preparing for this is, find friends, find someone whom can take the kids off your hands once a week for a few hrs of you time and....most of all, dont stress out. I am use to not seeing mine but for a few hrs at night due to his work schedule and sometimes long distance business trips so I have experienced the single/married life in some ways. Take one day at a time and know he will come home soon.:)