Winter trips are coming!

Kathy - posted on 10/28/2008 ( 12 moms have responded )

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The snow is coming soon!!! I always want to go on a trip with my "Sweet-Pea" before the snow comes, but...once again we couldn't work around our scheduled life of soccer...school...teenage daughter...just ain't happenin! I love him so and miss him much. He usually leaves Sunday and returns home either late Thursday evening or Friday. I fear his winter trips due to NOT his driving but others who put his trips in dangerous circumstances...those who don't understand that 'transports don't stop on a dime'! AND...also the animals deciding to cross when traffic comes along....in front of the truck driver. I have such an increased feeling, this time of the year, "What if this is it...as he leaves our home?" Do you feel what I go through as well?

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Tiffany - posted on 01/16/2009

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Velvet,



That's for sure.  I didn't think that I was going to be strong enough when he left, but it's amazing the strength that you have, that you didn't even know was in you.  I thought raising 2 kids without him around 24/7 would be hard but it is ok and I have learned that I am very strong and can depend on myself.

Velvet - posted on 01/16/2009

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Tiffany,

My Hubby is always tellin me not to worry, but your right how can you not worry, the wind has been very bad this yr too. It's just as stressful for them as it is for us. Not for the faint of heart thats for sure.

Tiffany - posted on 01/16/2009

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Velvet,



That is exactly what my husband says, how are you suppose to stop 80,000 ppounds or whatever the load may be on a dime, when you can't even stop a rig with no load that fast.  He says the worst of them are in the mountain area's when you are driving on a very narrow and windy road and the asses are on your ass.  I try not to worry to much, but how can we not.

Velvet - posted on 01/16/2009

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Tiffany M

Ty and Same to you and your Hubby , We All need all the Help we can get these days. There are ppl out there that don't understand that they can't stop on a dime!!!

Tiffany - posted on 01/15/2009

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My hubby is new to truck driving, actually is still in his training period and he has had to endure some very bad weather so far this year and winter for the northern areas is not even half way through.  I am scared for him for the fact that some drivers just don't know when to quit and the cars that continiously ride his ass because they figure he is in a truck and the lights don't bother them that far up.  We have been living in FL since 05 origianlly from NJ so he is use to driving on bad conditions but this winter has been harsh this year thus far.  I pray for my honey and all of yours everyday that God will kepp them safe while out there.

Daisy - posted on 11/21/2008

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I went with my husband once out to Colorado (we live in Ohio). It was nice to be with him every day, but I did not like being in the truck non-stop, nothing to see in some area's, the small bed we had to scrunch in, the disgusting showers in some smaller truck stops, and not being able to go to the bathroom when ever I wanted to. Next time I go with him will have to be closer to home, and for a shorter period of time. It also inconviences who ever stays home with the kids, mine are so involved in activities, it would be hard to expect anyone to do what I do by myself all week. I do not go through the worry that it sounds some do, but I do get frustrated by all the close calls I hear about. My prayer is that his time will come when he is closer to home, and after he's been able to switch to a trucking job that allows him to sleep in our bed everyday. With the industry like it is though, we are struggling between wanting him to be home more and the thought of him losing his seniority while loads are hard to come by.

Velvet - posted on 11/06/2008

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Hi Kathy,

I have never driven a truck, But I love the smell of diesel, My hubby said I am too funny.

I bet the smell of the trees is out of this world. Now if they bottled it that would be good.

I am also a bit of a tomboy, so much so that a few years ago my hubby bought me a set .... Told me that I had earned them after raising the girls. I am a stay at home wife now LOL. I scrapbook, make cards, take care of 5 dogs 2 cats and soon we will have our first grand child. We can't wait. Trucking right now is not good, slow,slow. I hope it picks up soon. It's hard all around.

well go to run

Kathy - posted on 10/29/2008

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Velvet...you couldn't have said it any closer than to what I would describe my"Sweet-Pea"...he has deisel in his blood as well! I absolutey know what you mean by the road calling them. That's how I describe it...lol. Thank you for believing I have what it takes to be a trucker's wife:) Do you / have you driven truck as well at any time? I haven't ...I just pull it ahead / back it up if it needs to be moved if he's too dirty to get in from washing it or ? I've always had a tom-boy side to me. I timber cruised for some time in my teen years then my pa who worked in logging got me a job operating processor. I decided to stay home with my child once I found out I was expecting. Trucking has the same impact on my "Sweet-Pea" as logging did on my father and I. We loved the smell of freshly cut timber and we also like our machines...

Velvet - posted on 10/29/2008

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Hi Ladies;)

I am sorry to hear that you have not been able to get some one to give you a break,

I have been married to my trucking hubby for 21 yrs . I have not had the life that you have so I feel for you and I am glad that you have found someone to love you for you.

Having said that, you know a great thing that you have and it would make you Panic because of whats happening when has a close call, Its normal to feel that why after what you when though. I would have been bawling too.

Your Husband sounds like mine, he has diesel in his blood. His heart wants to be home but if he's home to long the road calls, lol I have been home alone and doing it all for to long. It's normal for me now,( it only took 21 yrs lol) I Don't mind it. It take a special person to be married to a trucker and a strong one too. Just gettin thought the stuff that you have , I know you have what it takes. Good luck, it dose get easier with time.Keep Praying it helps me alot. We all need faith.

Kathy - posted on 10/29/2008

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Hello Ladies:) I have gone on trips with him...like a year ago...maybe longer. I keep to myself nowadays as people are just too busy just like myself. Sooo, therefore I don't have anyone to help watch my girls while I go on a trip. My parents live 5 hours away and are busy too so they can't come here. Others have hectic work schedules that would just make it too much for everybody involved. I'm hooped. I love the trips and was hoping to go before the snow flew but...? I've been in a couple close-calls with him and don't want to experience that with winter conditions. It drives me nuts when I'm speaking to him on the phone and all of a sudden he's cursing from a close-call that just took place whether from animals or people...I panic and tell him "I gotta go" and let loose after I'm off the phone...thinking what if...? I'm young(33) and lived a rotten life up until I met him. I never thought life could be so perfect(pretty much) and I fear 'losing him'... my Prince Charming! I fear death even in others I don't even know. I care for everyone out there. He hasn't been in a bad accident(knock on wood) and I pray he doesn't! He's been driving for approx. 30 years..yes he's older(16 years). He was in accident about 4 years ago... he was heading out to grab a load of logs...came up to a bad corner that wasn't graded properly...an oncoming truck came around in his lane as he pulled over as much as he could putting himself onto the soft-shoulder leaning into the ditch...picking his truck up and slammed him to the ground. Meanwhile, I was on the ferry heading into town..I was notified by the crew I had an emergency phone-call, so I took it..the ambulance was on it's way there already the call said and nobody could tell me how he was..I was so shaky, bawling and felt numb as if the world had stopped. Even as I speak I get teary-eyed thinking back to then. It ended up he was just a little banged up with pain to a previous dislocated collar-bone, some bruising and sore ribs. I keep thinking "that" actually was nothing compared to what could have happened.

Velvet - posted on 10/28/2008

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I loved going with my hubby, I Hear you on the other drivers, I worry alot in the winter, Praying that the next phone is not a bad one. Mine has called me on his cell from a snow bank, he said that he took the snowbank over the car full of kids. That was years ago, We have had some close calls, But I know that he loves it. Yes I do feel what your going though. I try to understand He loves his job .

Brenda - posted on 10/28/2008

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Yes dear I do feel the same as you do. I think that you should get someone eg a grandparent a good friend to stay with the kids so they can stay in a routine and go with your hubby. It is an experience that you won't soon forget! It is a way to see exactly what he goes through on the road. I have gone with mine but only on short trips as it was very hard to be gone for 2 - 3 weeks with him and two kids at home. I could only go if the kids went to a friends place over night or for the weekend. But I got to go it was a blast!

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