A pat on the back

Dreama - posted on 04/15/2010

I agree with Melanie. All marriages have problems. Some more than others. It is a work in progress. And yes, the minute you stop working, so will your marriage. I have a wonderful husband, but he is not perfect and neither am I.

Lynn - posted on 04/11/2010

I can easily tell you what my best moment with my husband was and my most painful moment with my husband was. The day I knew I had to keep him, was three days after we met, i hada be rushed to the ER and he stayed on the ambulances tail all the way to the hospital, And he called into work just so he could be by my side the whole time I was there. And we had only known each other for 3 days.... And the most painful moment I have ever been in with my husband was actually seeing him cry for the first time. His dad was trying to drive 1500 miles to come see us, flipped his lid in the heat, and was seeing people that werent really there. My husband got a phone call from the hospital telling him all of this and he just balled that his dad was in this situation. That killed me. To see my husband cry.

Jemena - posted on 04/10/2010

Yup - all the more reason to consciously make efforts to say positive things. (to anyone - our husbands, kids, friends, relatives, strangers . . . ) If you want a certain behavior, the only way of getting more of it is to point it out - to notice it - to make a big deal of it - positive reenforcement. As easy as it is to nag or practice negative reenforcement, it just doesn't work as well - and it weighs on you and everyone around you. I've found the more I love on my husband (and son) and build them up as men, with respect and pride, the happier we ALL are.

Melanie - posted on 04/10/2010

All marriages have some problems people will argue. I think you need to work at a marriage as soon as you stop the marriage is over. Men just think we nag because we like doing it (maybe that's just me lol). I think we should be proud of her husbands esp when the do wonderful things for us. I have to agree with Jemena it is easier to recall negative memories than happy ones xx

Jemena - posted on 04/09/2010

Moms with marriage problems, I guessing.

Gabriela - posted on 04/09/2010

What does MWMP stand for? I was a little confused about that.

Gabriela - posted on 04/09/2010

Yes I will brag away! I have three children and when my husband and I met the ex was way out of my life. He took the role of dad and went with it even though he doesn't have any kids of his own. My girls love him and my son looks up to him. He needed a real man in his life and my husband fit the bill. He makes sure he takes care of the girls' cars and he also makes sure their boyfriends respect them or else!! Woman shouldn't be overly negative towards their men. I find that when I give him encouragement instead of negativity, it goes a long way.

Jemena - posted on 04/09/2010

Hmmmmmm . . . . . . . you think so??
:-)

You know, when you ask someone what their worst memory is (it's usually easier if you're referring to something specific, like in a sport or school or with a certain person), and they can always come up with their answer quickly. However, if you ask them what their best memory is, they think and think for a lot longer and sometimes can't really come up with one! It's just the way the human brain works - our brains can recall negative memories much more quickly than positive! This could be why women have the stereotype of being naggers!

Christine - posted on 04/09/2010

Perhaps the bad mouthing of their husbands is a vital reason they have marriage problems in the first place.

Jemena - posted on 04/09/2010

Great husbands are always so humble! :-)

Lynn - posted on 04/08/2010

When i told Jeremy that i started this community, he asked me why I am lying to all of you ladies...... LOL

Jemena - posted on 04/07/2010

Word should get out about those stats TO the men! They, too, might be surprised that there are so many women out there who appreciate them. :-) It might help battle the "nagging wife" stereotype we've seemed to earn for ourselves (as a sex).