Anybody else who got married young get this question?

Mae - posted on 12/14/2012

I had never got that question because most of my family knew that i was told I was not able to have children. (we did have one but that's another story) I also had just returned from Iraq so there wasn't enough time for me to get pregnant, but i can see how that would get annoying.

Tanya - posted on 12/04/2012

I got married at 17. 23 years later we are still married. In the beginning of our marriage people always asked that question, but as time goes on and you grow with your spouse and children the question becomes less and less. Although, just recently I accepted a new position and was getting to know my boss when she asked the same question. The best thing to do is throw it right back at them. When they ask " Did you get married because you were pregnant?" The best response is "No, why? Did you?" That'll shut them up.

Patricia - posted on 12/01/2012

My sister in law got married when she was 15 and been happily to the same man for 25 years today!! She was not pregnant. She graduated from Highschool early and very mature and smart for her age. Her Hubby was 21 at the time and in the Navy. They have 4 beautiful children. My Brother in law got married when he was 18 and married for 35 years with same lady and has 3 beautiful girls.



My Husband and I waited a bit longer he was 25 and me 23 and married 20 years now with one beautiful daughter 10.



I don't think age should matter

Luthien - posted on 11/27/2012

My husband and I were older when we got married. I was 26 and he was 37. I was 2 months pregnant. We had sent out the invitations and didn't want to wait to start trying for a baby given our age. The first month we stopped trying not to have a baby, I got pregnant. Some members of my family judged me. "Oh, so that's why your getting married" I would politely correct them. "No, you received your invitation in February. It's June now and I am only 2 months along. We just stopped trying not to have a baby. Who knew I was so fertile!"



The comments are hurtful. How dare they judge anyone! They cannot possibly understand being in someone elses shoes. If you love that person you should be with them married or not. Have a baby if you want. As long as you can be a good mom and provide for your family then what the heck is their problem??? Yeesh, they need to get over it. Not their life. It's yours so live it the way you want to!

Ashley - posted on 11/25/2012

I was married at 18! I got it all the time....we went to the Justice of the Peace. I even got that question from my family...who know me and know I'd never even kissed a guy until I was married! My mom told me when I finally did announce that I was pregnant (a year and a half after getting married) that she thought that's why we got married in the first place! His mom said that the only reason we were going to get married was for the sex! That was not the reason at all! It aggravates me to no end!

Rachel - posted on 11/02/2012

That would annoy me as well.

I was pregnant with my second child at our wedding. I let everyone know at the wedding about the pregnancy but felt the need to tell them all that we got engaged BEFORE we knew we were pregnant because I didn't want people asking if that's why we got married.

Heather - posted on 11/01/2012

No.....in some states you would but not all. Although that was almost 21 years ago not sure about whats legal today.

Daisy - posted on 10/31/2012

So did you ladies who got married at 16/17 need a parents permission?

Daisy - posted on 10/31/2012

So did you ladies who got married at 16/17 need a parents permission?

Heather - posted on 09/27/2012

Yes!!!! I was also 17 when I got married my husband was 18 and we were high school sweethearts. And that is the question we were asked for years, or if we ran into someone from school in those first few years they would ask " so how many kids do you have now??" It always made me mad, why was it so hard for them to understand that we got married because we loved each other? We would always tell them no we have 3 dogs and 2 fish but no kids at least not yet!!! We were married 6 years before we had our daughter and then 17 months later we had our son :) Our next anniversary we will be married for 21 years!!!

Tiffany - posted on 09/10/2012

No. I got married when I was 20 (still young compared to most of my friends) and a lot of people, friends and family alike, thought I was just getting married so that my son would have a father. I was a single mother living at home with my parents and 15yr old brother. I had started dating my husband, who had been my friends for a few years, about a month after my son was born. We got engaged a month after that and married 15 months after that. Of course I wanted my child to have a father, but we were just fine where we were and there was no lack of a father figure. I got married because I fell in love with a man who loved me and he loved my son as his own. 12yrs later (this Sunday) and we are still married. He was able to adopt my son and we have 2 other children.

Mellisa - posted on 07/28/2012

omg...I would have made some rude comment back and walked out!

Kristie - posted on 05/25/2012

that is the question my husband got from his father when he called and told them the news. He asked do you have to or areyou doing it because you want to. I was 21 and Aaron was 23, wtf does it matter if I was knocked up(i was but didnt know). not like it's the 50's. that bugs the crap out of me. It's not like I had to tell him I was pregnant, being in the Army I could of gotten child support from him. Our dna is on file so...... people ned ot mind their own business. just like I dont have drivers license it's a big deal to everyone(mainly his dad), none of his business why i dont have it

Angela - posted on 02/09/2012

Don't worry too much about this. My husband and I married at 50. We had a few jokes in the lead up to our marriage saying we didn't want a long engagement but wanted to get married as soon as possible. A relative asked me "Why? Are you pregnant?"



We also joked a bit about getting pregnant a lot once we were married as well. Always good for a laugh!



By the way, he's my 2nd husband. I have 4 grown-ups kids from my first marriage!

Sarah - posted on 01/09/2012

When we got engaged, yes.

Lynn - posted on 12/31/2011

lol @ Brittany........ you go girl!

Brittany - posted on 12/30/2011

My husband and I were 18 when we got married. We were still in High school when we got engaged and when the other girls found out thats what they asked me. and no I wasnt we didnt even have our first until 5 years later in our marriage. Some people are just stupid.

Rebecca - posted on 08/25/2011

lol...i was engaged when me and my now husband planned a baby but nobody said that...times have changed now tho hun...People should never marry for kids that is sick!

Victoria - posted on 08/23/2011

I haven't gotten that question yet.
But I was engaged to a boy before my husband and when we told his step dad he asked me if I was pregnant. I said 'no' and he was like 'Oh. Okay then! =)'

Patricia - posted on 08/18/2011

I get questions like "why did you marry so young?" or because I look young "that's your husband/son?" Some times I just want to scream at people that it is none of your business, or My husband and I eloped on my 18th birthday, mind you he is 7 yrs older than I am. we will be married for 8 yrs now in Oct. Oh and we had been married almost 4 yrs when our son was born! Other people need to respect our choices and whether or not it is our mistakes in the long run don't concern them anyways!

Lynn - posted on 08/16/2011

HAHAHAHA! So..... i told my husband about this post you have started. and he has the perfect response for you to tell anyone who asks that... when they ask that question, reply back to them with "What, are you writing a book?"

Tasha - posted on 08/03/2011

I didnt get married untill I was 20, but my husband and I had only been dating for a yr and picked a date only 3 months after we got engaged. I was not pregnant, but people thought I was. My daughter was born 10 months after we got married. 4 yrs and 2 more kids and I still get odd looks when i tell people how long we have been married and how old our oldest is. I just ignore people. Everyone has their "dark secrets" and if they are asking you this then what are they hiding?

Rheba - posted on 08/02/2011

Rachael, they do, but, it's not illegal to get married so young, my grandmother (guardian) only had to sign the back of my marriage license.

Rachael - posted on 08/01/2011

there you have your perfect response then, you got married because you had been together for a long time and there was a deployment upcoming. I thought parents/ a judge had to sign approval for marriage under age 18. You learn something new every day. =)

Rheba - posted on 08/01/2011

Yes indeed ;)

Jessica - posted on 08/01/2011

Gotta love Military life!

Rheba - posted on 08/01/2011

Racheal, 17 is legal in most states, as is 16, with a judges order, even 14 in some states. However, for my situation, we'd already been together a long while and holding our engagement monger would have meant more than two more years due to military duty.

Rachael - posted on 07/31/2011

I think that is a terribly rude question and think it is ridiculous for anyone to ask. That said, 17 is SUPER young, not even of legal age in the US so to many people that is an absolutely foreign concept. If we were discussing you having gotten married so early I might ask what made you decide not to wait another year, ( just from sheer curiosity.) The way I have phrased it to a friend who got married in a hurry was that if you love each other so much today why not just have a longer engagement you can still love each other as well engaged as married, as dating ect.

Jessica - posted on 07/29/2011

I was 19 when I got married and I get the "Why so young?" question a lot. I just tell them the truth, which is the same answer for why I didn't finish college. We'd been dating for 5 years already and he was going into the military. If we didn't get married before I figuratively wouldn't exist as far as the government was concerned and it would be much harder. That and I would have to wait 4 years for him to come back to the states. So get married and follow him overseas or have a 4 year long distance relationship... I had emancipated myself and been living with him and his family for 2 years anyway, my family was more saying "Finally!" (in a good way) for the marriage than anything bad.

Rheba - posted on 07/26/2011

All the time, I ask how it would be possible that I got married in April of 2009 while pregnant, and didn't have a baby until August of the next year. I tell them that I got married for the same reason that most other people do, I LOVE my husband and want to share my life with him.

Hope - posted on 09/11/2010

I met and fell in love with my husband when I was 16 and we got married a month after I turned 19. I was pregnant at the time but I became pregnant after we were engaged and we just moved up the wedding a little bit. We didn't get married because we were having a baby, we were having a baby because we loved each other and wanted to be together forever. Sometimes it is hurtful to me that people so blatantly act as though the only reason I am married is because I got pregnant. We love each other, we ARE GOING to spend the rest of our lives together and, honestly, if I could have I would have married him at 17! I don't see why it matters to people how young you are. Age doesn't matter as long as you truly love each other and are committed to spending the rest of your lives together. We just get to have more time with the one we love because we found them at a young age! (Oh, and we've been married for 2 and a half years, couldn't be happier, and are planning for another baby soon!)

Jennifer - posted on 09/11/2010

My husband and I got married 2 days after my 18th birthday (he was 19). We've never been asked that question because whilst we had started trying 7 months before our wedding, I didn't fall pregnant until 8 months after as I have PCOS which affects my fertility.

Ariana - posted on 09/10/2010

I got married at 20, and I get the same question, It is the worst question. I know how you feel. We got pregnant, planned 6 months after we were married and I still get that question. We were happy that we did everything the way our parents taught us, and its just sad that a lot of people dont believe us. We got married in February and are baby is due in March, we couldnt be happier, no matter what others say! I love our life, and we worked very hard to get everything we have.

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Helen Katrina - posted on 09/09/2010

i get that, i was actually 8 months pregnant the day i got married to my man, i was 18 he was 19. people asked if it was just because of the baby. but we just reply no its a little thing called love =). there will always be people who question others decisions for some reason. it may get annoying but we no the truth and in end thats all that really matters. xx

Pallavi - posted on 09/09/2010

hahah its so funny at how people wanna poke their nose in ur personal matter...I got married when I was 21--my frds and family were shocked..they thot i wudnt get married that early...coz i was pretty focussed in life...I got married because i really really luvd the man and cudnt let him go--heheh

Christi - posted on 09/08/2010

i get that question all the time. My family even asks me if thats why i got married. when i tell them i actually get pregnant rite around the time i got engaged they call me a liar. dont let people who ask stupid questions get you mad. it stops hurting after the first million times :)

Alice - posted on 09/02/2010

I've been with the same guy since I was 15. (i'm 21 now) We got married fresh out of High school, I was only 18 and 1 month. and even though we had been talking about getting married for a while, we heard the same question over and over! "Are you pregnant? Why else would anyone wanna get married so young." We'll be celebrating our 3 year anniversary on October 13th and we just had our first child. Pay no attention to what other people say.

Stephanie - posted on 09/01/2010

My husband and i got married a month after i graduated high school. I was 18. Everyone thought I we got married because i was pregnant because we only dated 6 months. however we have together for 8 years this past june and we have a 2 1/2 year old daughter. So its safe to say i was not pregnant when i got married. So the first year i was married the question was "did you get married because you're pregnant?" The answer was always "i am not pregnant" After a year the question became "when are you going to get pregnant?" or "why aren't you pregnant yet?" People are always going to ask stupid questions. The only joy i get out of it is to answer their questions in a way thats makes them feel as stupid as their questions are. Good luck.

Allie - posted on 08/31/2010

I happened to be 4 months pregnant when I got married (@19) and people ask me the same question. I did expedite the wedding plans and probably didn't go as elaborate as I would've had I not been pregnant, but the date was set regardless of my being pregnant or not. I do find it pretty rude of people who suggest that I would marry just because I was pregnant. I love my husband more today than I did when I married him 3 years ago and my love for him will only keep growing!

Brittany - posted on 08/31/2010

Thankfully I haven't gotten asked that question... but I do know that when I told some people that I was pregnant soon after we were married they thought I got pregnant before... (it was a honeymoon baby). There was that aire about them where you just know what they are thinking. Sadly I lot the baby at 8 weeks.

Aimee - posted on 08/28/2010

I got pregnant at 18..and waited till the next year to get married....but the whole time all i heard was "when ya getting married?!" like i was tainted because i didn't have the same last name as the father of my son...people are so rude!

Christine - posted on 08/27/2010

i met my husband when i was 15. we were married when i was 19. he is 4 yrs older than me. had our first child when i was 26. been married now for almost 12 years. and even the preist who married us asked if i was sure cause im still young. i couldnt be happier. i knew i was going to marry him then or 5 yrs down the road. we have 2 children with one on the way in dec.

Heather - posted on 08/27/2010

Me and my husband got married after we had our two beautiful sons, and being together for 3 yrs, we got married because we loved each other and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. No one in our families said the whole "your too young" mostly because we'd already been through alot and i have only my husband to thank for getting me. through my first two pregnancies, and on his side all his sister married very young at 16 and 18 so us getting married at 22 really was kinda "old". I don't let some of the looks we can get or questions bug me, because we both have long happy lives ahead of us that we get to spend together! ♥

Candi - posted on 08/26/2010

I was wondering the same thing...I was 20 and the hubby and I were engaged when pregnant with our first, people would ask the same exact things. Now, eight years later we are still madly in love : ) You are not alone on that one!

Tania - posted on 08/25/2010

I got married when I was 16. We had a 4 month old daughter. We married for love. We dealt with comments about us being so young & married and because we were a bi racial couple. Marriage lasted 8 yrs & 5 children.

Keturah - posted on 08/25/2010

I`m 33 years old I married my husband at 17 also we are happy and still in love.

Patricia - posted on 08/25/2010

Well I was 17 when I married my husband and he was 22 but I was pregnant at the time. However we were engaged to be married before I found out I was pregnant so it didn't matter to me what people thought of it.We just bumped up the wedding date to make it easier. We had a lot of people say we wouldn't make it through our first year b/c we were young. But its now been 14 wonderful years and we are still happily married.... even outlasting the couples that married later in life lol! People will think whatever they want anyhow so to me and my hubby we are just content to let them talk and prove them otherwise.

Angela - posted on 08/24/2010

My husband and I got married in 1991, I was 20 at the time. All the questions started about are you pregnant. Then they started in on our parents about when was the grandchild due. Then when we didn't have any kids (by our own choice) it was when are you going to have kids, then when we had a child four years ago(we love her to bits) the question turned to did you need ivf (we had been married for nearly 15 years by the time she was born) and the answer is no we did not. It is not their business when you start your family. Everyone does it in their own way, sometimes they are ready and sometimes not, so what is right for you. Also if they like to start these rumours ask them if they are available for babysitting and see the reaction.

Jamie - posted on 08/23/2010

I get that question all the time. I always respond the same way... "I got married at 21 for love, and didn't have a child until I was 23. I had been married for 2 years and 1 month before delivering my little girl. I was pregnant for 9 months. So stop judging me for a couple of seconds just long enough to do the simple math." Then I walk away. lol. Maybe not the nicest response, but I get tired of it. I don't judge mother's who aren't married a lot of my friends weren't... I just hate that question.