Happy Marriage.

Shannon - posted on 04/26/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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I have this wonderful husband. He supports me in everything I do. Lately I have been unhappy. My husband has been trying to do everything he can but I just don't feel real happy. I feel stressed all the time. I stay home with my step children. I love being home but I feel like there is more to life then being a stay at home mom. How do I make myself happy again.

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Nancy - posted on 05/23/2010

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One more thing don't get me wrong I always wished I would go back to school and get a career in teaching something that I always wanted but when u can't u just can't and that time will come when it is right for u . now that my both kids are going off to school I will start attending school and will full fill my dream. But just take it a day at a time and u will see everything will fall into place how u want it .

Nancy - posted on 05/23/2010

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First of all you need to make time for yourself not everytime but once in a while go out and groom yourself , do ur nails sometimes a woman gives their all to the fam. that we tend to forget about ourselves and that's when we start feeling un happy. . We are woman and we need a little touch up once in a while. I am a stay at home mom and we tend to have the same routine everyday .... but u need to make it fun re model a room , do a little paint job , touch up the house . You need to occupay yourself with something diff. or else u will be easily bored. Put the kids in sports while they are in practice try to get fresh air , we need to get out of the house once in a while. All those things have helped me alot and enjoy my life at home and enjoy my kids while they are small because they grow so fast in life♥

Rodena - posted on 05/08/2010

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go pamper yourself . plan a day just for you. go to a nice spa or hair shop and get something new. then buy yourself something, even if it's a large starbucks latte. you will start to feel better.

Alexandra - posted on 05/03/2010

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Whether or not you work or stay at home it is very important for you to have your own identity - something other than "mom" or "wife". You need things in your life that are just for you and that don't involve taking care of others. If you can't or don't want to work full time or part time you could always volunteer or take some classes on subjects that interest you. Do things that enrich your life since you spend a lot of time enriching others. Always remember that the best mother is a happy mother! That's the most important thing. My mother worked (she's a doctor) and I have an incredible relationship with her so I don't believe it is necessarily best to stay home, especially when your kids are in school all day. Whatever you do make sure you are taking care of yourself. Your husband and children will only be better for it!

Dima - posted on 05/01/2010

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i thnk if your kids are big enough go for work ...it will let time pass easily n you will have new subjects to dissc ,,,new frnds u will meet n thngs will be better...

Wendy - posted on 05/01/2010

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sometimes you just need to hear those few wonderful words "you are a beautiful, wonderful, amazing woman that is there to help everyone before herself. you are loved and appreciated" even though you may not be told this everyday i can garrantee this is thought by those that you love and caare for. i have been married for nearly 19 years to my loving husband and we have 3 beautiful children and there is always going to be a time when i get stressed but the thought of the fact that i have the most wonderful job in the world helps to make it better. you have done even better by being a good step-mother which is very hard you know being a step-parent, so understand that you are wonderful and things will always go back and forth as life is like a rollercoaster ride lol sometimes its fun sometimes it scares the crap out of you. good luck with all the advice that has been given and god bless the bond that you have with your family. and just to let you know i have had a step-dad in my life for almost 30 yrs that i love very much so as a step-child i will tell you hang in there my dad and think its worth it.

Angela - posted on 05/01/2010

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How old are your stepchildren that helps alot with a way to answer what you can do there are so many differant things you can do with or without them mine are all in school so I tried working but employers are not willing to work around the childrens hours and are so ugly about time off school so I quit and am now volunteering (no one forces that and you get a thank you for your work and time :) ) if you still have little ones they have programs at libraries and churches of things to do and mommy groups are out there too so many things If you would like to talk more just email me angelapayne2008@yahoo.com

Lynn - posted on 04/28/2010

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I would suggest making a goal every day. If you say "TOMORROW I AM GOING TO GO TO THE PARK FOR A FULL HOUR WITH THE KIDS< AND THEN HAVE A PICNIC", when you get home, you will feel like you have accomplished something that you have had planned.
My plan lately has been to clean out our garage and take everything to the goodwill..... well, i am still working on that plan. hehe. it gibes me a goal though! ;)

Jamie - posted on 04/28/2010

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Well I take a little time each day for "me time". I almost have a once a month girls night and date night. I feel that my place is in the home and trust that I have made the right decision but it was mine to make. My Dh wanted me at home but he let me make the choice. Maybe you could work a little part-time or take trips to the park and or library during the week. Remember that you are doing this for the good of your kids and that is very noble. I also make my little one help me with chores so we have more time to do stuff after school work is done.

Dee - posted on 04/28/2010

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i know exactly how you feel but the kids are mine and he's the step daddy.he works 10 to 12 hours a day so i can stay home with my kids.i feel bad cuz he works so hard to support us but when i ask him if he wants me to get a job he says no.He's so great.I'm so lucky to have found him and i wouldn't give him up for anything.my kids love him like he their own dad.

Emma - posted on 04/28/2010

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I know exactly how you feel. I have the best husband ever and her does everything to make me happy, he coos, cleans, looks after me and the girls when I'm unwell and even when he's off work which his a busy for him as he does shift wors and nearly 12hours each day over 5days and also does alot of overtime. (I appreciate him so much which he knows.) I'm too a sahm and sometimes it's pretty stressful because the children are always in need of out attention. I suggest maybe you try getting a little job to get you away from the sahm'in and so you can become yourself again rather than 'mum' if you get what I mean lol. I hope this suggeston helps if looing for work is not an option see if a particular day at a paricular time you and your husband can have 'child-free' time to relight that fire :)

Heather - posted on 04/27/2010

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I would recommend looking at being a stay home mom like a job. Because that's what it is. Make yourself a schedule for cooking, cleaning and such. That really helps. It gives you a goal each day, and it helps you feel like you've accomplished something instead of just doing the same thing over and over. Being stay home parents is the best thing we can do for both our husbands and our kids! Use the opportunity to be the best mommy and wife you can be!!! Then pick up a hobby. Something that you can do for you, playing piano, sewing, scrapbooking. Something that will let you have some you time!

Carolee - posted on 04/26/2010

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Go out with your friends at least once a month. Go out at least once a month by yourself, also. You need a day here and there to "remember" who you were/are before the "mother" label came into play. My husband gives me at least one day a week (usually two... both days he's not working... because I'm pregnant right now) to do whatever I want. He actually puts a little bit of money aside so that I can count on having those days. It helps me a lot.

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First let me start by saying that I too have a wonderful husband who has told me on several occasions that he wants to do any and everything to make me happy. By his wishes, for a little over a year now I have been a stay at home mom. Not to get too personal but think about what it is exactly that stresses you out. My boys are 6 and 9, and trust me I enjoy going shopping, doing laundry or whatever to get out the house for a little bit. I love staying at home too but after a while its like OMG....this kitchen is a mess again, their rooms are a mess, dirty clothes are everywhere! Didn't I just clean this? How is that dirty already? LOL So what I did was I started looking for a part time job. Also, I was wondering if your age is a factor? Maybe you're not ready for the "stay-at-home" position. Just a thought.

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