How'd you feel when a woman has "feelings" for your hubby?
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Ashley - posted on 12/01/2009
How does your husband feel about it? Is this woman open with her feelings about your husband to other people? It sounds like she needs a reality check. Has your husband told her to leave him alone?
I know I would be irritated. I would talk to her myself and explain that is really inappropriate and to find herself an available man.
Good luck Charmaine!
Lindsey - posted on 11/30/2009
My husbands ex lives with his mother now and they were together for a couple of yrs....
I hate that that is the situation I am in... but I still hear things..
I just remind myself that I won him... he loves me and that's all that matters : )
It used to make me sick.... literally.... It went away with time! And we've been happily married for almost 6 yrs now!
Amanda - posted on 07/25/2011
I would be flattered. As long as you trust him and he doesn't seem to make any sort of move to contact her or talk to her when she calls, then I'm sure it's all good. I am divorced and had a husband who lied a lot and I suspect cheated...but he had a pattern of lying and I stopped trusting him at all. Ive learned from my situation to go with your gut. If you feel he is/has/wants to cheat then talk to him about it. Express your feelings and if he's a trust worthy guy he will comfort you and be calm. When I would try to talk to my ex about my feelings on things he would get instantly defensive, and I would know right away I had caught him in a lie. He always turned it on me, made me feel small...I know now that was his way of not having to remember the truth and by making me honestly believe it was my fault, I would drop it and blame myself for being insecure (which I felt when with him). So, I hope he doesn't act on any of her advancements and good luck with everything. Remember to listen to your gut feelings. They are usually right.
Monique - posted on 12/21/2009
This seems to happen every few years (we've been together 19, married 16 years). It is the girls/women who are in rocky relationships or no relationship that do it. They don't realize what a great husband is until they meet one like mine. He is full of honor, integrity, respect, gentleness, but still super tough and masculine. He's arrogant at times, and can be distant, but a real marshmallow fluff on the inside. It makes other women bitch at their spouses, which in turn usually gets my husband another irate guy to deal with. The funny thing is, my husband is totally oblivious to the majority of undercurrents like this. He tells me he just goes to work, does the best he possibly can, then comes home and does the same thing.
He doesn't realize that the sweet, respectful way he treats me is anything but what should be expected of a man, so is perplexed when a female crushes on him, or a guy gets pissed for being compared and comes up the loser. I don't have any worries. I just look out for his best interests (make sure he isn't maneuvered into anything compromising when "helping" a neighbor, for example. Mostly, I try to show him how much I care and respect him in return, and am thankful to be loved enough to make others wish they were in my shoes (or bed, lol).
Shelly - posted on 12/18/2009
Oh how exciting to know that other women want what I have and they have no chance of getting!!!! I had an experience with a woman that my hubby went to high school with. We went to his 20 yr high school reunion and this women would not stay away from him until I finally stepped in and told her that she had her shot in school now he is mine and I would prefer she left him alone!!!!
Maria - posted on 12/18/2009
After being absolutely married for 20 years, and still being courted, I trust and know my husband well enough that if there's another woman who has "feelings" for him, we just joke about it, because I know our love is strong and resilient enough to withstand whatever obstacle that may come our way. And vice versa. We're still very much crazy about each other, I know I have nothing to worry about! :)
Nichole - posted on 12/18/2009
Hmmm... having the feelings is one thing. If she's announcing to my husband that she's feeling this way, she's trying to start something. And I'm with you, Larissa, my man is a good guy, highly devoted. It wouldn't be about HIM at all, though, it's about the disrespect the other woman is showing you and your marriage. Never happened to us yet, and I've never been to jail yet. But there's a first time for everything... :)
Lynn - posted on 12/15/2009
I have had many female friends talk about how good looking and wonderful my husband is. And how he is the ideal type of husband. But my husband is so obsessed with me, i have nothing to worry about.... Even when we sit and watch tv I will comment about how pretty a girl is that i see on there, and he will point out something bad about her right away.
Lawanda - posted on 12/14/2009
I take this as a compliment to me. I know that this seems like I don't care, but it make me fee good to know that there are other women who see how handsome my husband really is and how he is such a sweet gentleman. As long as she doesn't cross the line by toucing and trying to get his phone number.
Kimber - posted on 12/14/2009
my mans ex is crazylike very very crazy an she is engaged to a different guy now but has still called my man just to bitch him out over shit that happened years ago like before she left to join the navy leaving her 3 month old son with him working 2 jobs to pay the bills cuz she didnt send any money then came back tells him she cheated on him and took the baby away he was almost a year and now wont let him see him bu again still calls to say she wants him.... so i deal with it by beating the crap out of my punching bag cuz if i dont it would be her face
Vickie - posted on 12/03/2009
As long as you trust your husband, you have nothing to worry about. But any woman who would ever dare to even think she'd go after my husband is in for a very rude awakening! First of all, my husband would send her packing & 2nd, I'd have my claws out!
Being able to trust your husband is a huge factor. You should be able to. However, I do get a little irritated when a woman knows a man is married but finds it a challenge to TRY and tempt him. It's disrespectful to the wife and I have zero tollerance for such type of people. Being secure with your marriage is very important, my husband and I are one with God a three stranded cord and blessed covenant. Awesome place to be! I know the difference my ex-husband was a liar and a player. I'm very thankful!
Myrium - posted on 12/01/2009
im a young mother wit a 3 month old son and i have bipolar and anxiety so when it comes to my hubby and a woman having "feelings" for him, im not such a calm person lol but i learned that overreacting and be too "clingy" to ur hubby will push him away. talk to your husband about it and make sure he doesnt have feelings back, if he doesnt you have nuthing to worry about.
good luck :)
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