Tiffany - posted on 07/23/2010 ( 29 moms have responded )
My husbands family is very strange. They believe that if one family member goes somewhere, the entire family should be there, example... My hubbys gpa dies in the hospital. The hospital called for his gma to come to the hospital to see him before they sent him to be preped for funeral things. Well at 3am, we get a knock on the door sayin we had to go to the hospital, get there to find out that he died and they said we NEEDED to be there. There we 26 people in a tiny consultation room made to fit like 4 people in, to look at him before they took him out of the hospital... there were friends, family, and it was just so unnessesary and unappropriate. The hospital was very angry that so many people showed up. Not to mention the hospital was over an hour away. The reason i bring that up is to show how "different" his family is so that no one tries to take up for them by saying "oh they are just a close family" ncuz its way beyond that. Anyways myquestion is, How do I let him know that it is perfectly fine to have more than 2 kids? His family has him believing that people are only suppose to have 2 kids. In his heart he want 3 like i want. He has even admited to it. But after years of his family saying "More than 2 kids is crazy and no one should do that" has made him fearful of having more than 2. We currently have a 2 1/2 year old, and a 10 month old. I want our 3rd and last to have the same age diff as the ones we have now which means id need to be preg in september. He is terrefied. I want them all close, and while i am still young so i can carry my plans outn of having my kids, gettin them in school when they are 5 and then going to school myself once they are all in school during their school hours. (The college is next door to the elementary here) But he is scared and i really am stuck in a place where i dont know how to fix it. He wants the next one soon, but i believe he is worried about his family being upset where i could care less. Its our life, we make the decisions. (oh and by the way, his family are telling everyone we are done having kids andwhen i say we may have one more they talk ovr me and say "No they arnt, they have enough" !!!!!CRAZY!!!!!!