How to deal with crazy mil?

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/13/2011

She's obviously mentally and emotionally abusive towards your son and it's good your husband notices. It's sad that she doesn't notice the abuse she's dishing out to her own grandchildren. She's so hel bent on grouchy and miserable she has no idea how bloody lucky she is to have grandchildren who live near her. I'm on the opposite end of the country from my mom and I live in Canada while she's in the US. As crowded and annoying as it was sometimes I bet my mom would love it if her granddaughters were back near her. Yes she has my brother's son, but it's not the same as having your whole family.

You can only hope and pray that some day she'll stop being so selfish and mean spirited and come to her senses.

Savannah - posted on 11/13/2011

I meant check the police station to see if we can get a restraining order. She hasn't been involved(positively) in my children's lives at all. Meaning that everytime she's around my oldest she scares him to the point of making him shake and she's only seen my youngest once for 5 minutes when I was still in the hospital with him (he's now 3 months old)

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/13/2011

Checking into what? Just so you know in order for your MIL to qualify for grandparent rights she has to be able to prove that she's been involved in the children's lives since birth. I don't know if you have to be divorced from the father do do this though. I only know about it because when I was doing custody with my older daughter's father his mom tried to get visitation and claim her rights as a grandparent were violated.

Savannah - posted on 11/13/2011

Yes we've told her she's not allowed our children or in/around our house...No I haven't been to the police...believe it or not I didn't think of that idea. Thank you. I'll be checking into that this week!!

Lynn - posted on 11/13/2011

Wow. It sounds like you have your hands full. Are you still keeping her out of your house? If she isnt allowed in your house and she is still acting this way, maybe your husband should tell her that if she continues to act in this manner, that you guys will also change your number.

Have you been to the police station? If not, go there, and explain to them in a mature way that your MIL is a wack job and you dont want her on your property, and they should be able to explain to you the proper legal steps to take.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/12/2011

Too bad you can't drown the bitch. Sorry that was wrong.

Look into grandparents' rights in your state to see if you can legally keep your children from her except for occasions where she'll be watched. If you have to go to family court to do this then do it. This woman sounds like she's quite capable of doing mental and emotional damage to your children if she's allowed to do so.

I am glad your husband sticks up for you. But I'm also wondering if you've confronted her yourself and told her that her personality and her attitude are the reasons she has no contact with her grandchildren. And she will have no contact with your children until her attitude changes. If you make that threat though make sure you have researched Grandparent rights in your state or province. I only know New York's.

She should probably be glad she's not my MIL though, I would've confronted her the first day this started.

Brittany - posted on 11/10/2011

You might still be able to get a restraining order if you can proove her actions are mentally traumatizing your 2 year old. Which from what you've said I think she most likely has.

The only other thing I could suggest is to move and not tell her. Or move far enough away that she can't just pop over.