Dawn - posted on 08/21/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
Over the last 6 months my husband and I have started to have some problems. He is unsure of his feelings for me now after 8 years of marriage. My husband is a stay at home dad who goes to school full time and most of his classes are online courses. Almost 2 years ago he slipped two discs in his back making it impossible for him to work. Granted over the span of this time since then he has occasionally attempted to get hired somewhere but they never hire him. To put this in perspective my husband weighs approximately 460 lbs and stands 5'10" so either its because of his looks that they refuse to hire him or is injury. Granted social security disability does not deem it an actually disability since the usual person that has this happen is able to have surgery to get the discs put back in place but we did not and still do not have insurance so they had the discs go back naturally. What a lot of help that did, lol, granted they have slipped less and less out the longer it has been since the initial injury but my husband has also tried not to do things that he knows will slip the discs out of place. He permanently does not have skin sensation on the front of his shin. I know a lot of my problem is that I am in a job that I actually hate just so that we can have a roof over our head but at times I am so pissed off that I have to keep this job and he can't find work that I just go off of some of the smallest things not just on him but on our 7 year old son as well. To top if off two years ago we had to take my brother-in-law in after my mother-in-law passed away suddenly so that he didn't have to go into a nursing home because he has a mentality sometimes of the three year old but other times he acts his age. My brother-in-law does help out with rent and utilities and occasionally cooking but still only brings in disability checks which aren't all that much (approximately half of what I make a month he gets in ssi payments). I don't know what to do and am not sure if anyone has had a situation similar to this in any way that could give me some advice. As it stands now my marriage may not last to the end of the year.