Let's be honest here...what part of the housework does your man do?

Cheryl - posted on 02/28/2010 ( 112 moms have responded )

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My husband is a wonderful husband, father, and, yes I have to admit it, house keeper! I stick to the laundry and the cooking, but he definitly has an up on me in the housework division. When he gets into it my house is simply spotless! And he doesn't mind doing it! Of course I love my husband for many, many reasons, but a man who helps me around the house it truly appreciated!

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Jenny - posted on 03/04/2010

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First; we both work, similar jobs that pay about the same. I've taken a stand not to be the planner of everything, like so many women are, because that is the most taxing job for the mind. I'm responsible for laundry and Lukas´ clothes (buying , cleaning, laying ut for the next day), and he's responsible for keeping the fridge stocked and figuring out dinners and cooking dinner. One of us puts Lukas to bed while the other one does the dishes. He takes care of paying bills, shoveling snow and car stuff. I organize and plan our social life, gifts, flowers etc. We're lucky enough to have someone help us with weekly cleaning. I think we're doing almost equal shares in the home, with him doing a little bit more. The again, men are stronger, so it figures they should be able to carry a heavier loud, right? (Last sentence is me trying to challenge some of the prejudices in the US, where I believe most of you come from. In Norway, men and women are more equal, but even here, the women usually do most of the house work.)



I also have to say, that to really share the house work equally, you have to transfer the full responsibility. Don't 'ask him to help you with chores', it's his home as much as yours. Accept that the baby isn't wearing matching clothes. (10% of men are colorblind ;-)) If it is his job to cook, you can't interfere with how he does it, but be supportive and encourage development. I had to endure not very good cooking for half a year, then he developed some interest and skill. He will use the wrong towel. But honestly, it works anyway... Men don't see crumbs. And we have to learn to accept that if we don't want to be stuck with all the work.

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April - posted on 04/09/2011

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My husband.. cooks. he's a great cook. He helps me if i ask but i prefer to do it. I'm a "if you want it clean do it yourself" type of person. He's a great cook though. YUM! LOL

Signe - posted on 03/11/2011

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My husband does the cooking (I burn things, even soup) and the laundry. I do the dishes and we both clean up the home.

Darlyn - posted on 02/28/2011

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I am very greateful having my husband as he is very helpful with everything in the house.. I dont even have to ask him to do anything. he just does it.

Laura - posted on 02/20/2011

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My husband cooks, vacuums every second day, does the dishes twice a day, puts laundry in whenever there's a load and cleans the bathroom once a week. He also fixes anything that gets broken, and has built me 4 bookshelves and a coffee table. He's 25 :)



I work nights anywhere from 40-50hrs a week, so I don't really get much of a chance to help him clean. I also have scoliosis AND kyphosis (a sideways spinal curve and a forward curve) so I'm not even supposed to be lifting my daughter :(

Fathima - posted on 02/18/2011

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hey,my husband was the worst you cud think of,when just married...but things do change! and now helps me a lot...with kids around,he needs to,doesnt he?...but these days it seems like,i'm the lazier one he literally does EVERYTHING....he just finished with the mopping while i held my pooping,feverish,6mnths old .......luv him lots......

Tanya - posted on 02/10/2011

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My husband will help with cleaning and cooking as well as with our now 3 children for about 2 weeks straight at a time. All of a sudden he'll drop the ball and not help with anything. So when I let him know not so nicely how I feel and what I expect, he'll start again the next day. Just the fact that I keep going and don't stop pisses me off when he stops. If we're in this together, we're in this together...not just when we feel like it.

Jacquelyn - posted on 02/01/2011

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My husband is so sweet and doting! he will come home and do anything and everything. He always asks " whats my list today?" and always with a smile.. there are days i can tell hes exhausted and he will still want to jump in.. Though on those days i tend to send him to his desk for some game time.. Together we tend to split all the duty's in half.. i am so thankful for him, hes such a wonderful husband and Daddy!

Katherine - posted on 01/31/2011

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we should turn this around on those mothers/ woman who sit back and let the husbands do the house work. I cant complain about my husband he does his share around the house and with the kids.

Azza Jamila - posted on 01/26/2011

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Before we had the maid, hubby washes the clothes because of my scoliosis my back hurts a lot after a few loads. He would also lift the furnitures if I have to sweep or vacuum under the furniture.

Lynn - posted on 01/25/2011

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I generally do a good bit of the housework. But I now have a job, so it was nice coming home from work last night at 1030 p.m. and thinking as i driver home "Ugh, my feet are killing me and i need to do the dishes and pick up a little bit at least" and I walk in the door and the house is SPOTLESS! I love my hubby!

Sandy - posted on 01/25/2011

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It depends on his mood, but because I work at night and he works days we work on it as best as we can. Generally speaking he does 100% of his own laundry, some of mine and I do mine and the kids and any he doesn't catch that he needs for work. He probably has 75% of the dishes (dishwasher) and does all the vacuuming/steam cleaning of the floors unless I see something drop. He hates to sweep but does it so that he can mop if I miss it. I do most of the shopping and cooking, but he will on occasion do both.

I have the kids from either nap time or when they get up from nap time til bed and he has them in the AM so I can sleep which includes getting them ready for pre-school. I do most school functions and prep, unless they specifically ask for him.

Either my hubby or our room mate grab the trash & recycling every week so I don't have to.

I don't think either of us dust, which is why I need to badly! He does most of the yard work, mowing, etc. I do the weed eating and the mowing when he's too tired/too busy (tho he feels guilty somehow when I do).

I get the largest chunk of baby/toddler care tho, baths, cloths, bedtime stories (cause of our schedules) he gets breakfast/snack and sometimes lunch. I get lunch on.

I generally do the bathrooms, and that type of cleaning cause he's a big old germaphobe and hates the bathrooms with the exception of keeping the mats clean & dry.

We split home fixing/home repair or do it together depending on what it is.

Annaliese - posted on 01/21/2011

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Taking out the trash and loading and unloading the dishwasher.He sometimes helps with vacuuming the house but my husband works so hard and i try to just let him do 1 chore per day except the weekend.

Jamie - posted on 01/19/2011

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I Have a wonderful Husband i have just started school and we have two children ages 5 and 1 and Tyler is great he has help me out so much with them and the housework!! I am blessed to have such a great man in my life! hardworking and helpful!

Gillis_carey - posted on 01/11/2011

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i feel lucky with my great husband! he does the cleaning of our 2 bathrooms, vaccums the house, always takes out the garbage, sorts and takes care of all our recycling, goes out to chop, split, pile, dry and bring in wood for our fireplace, cooks about 1/2 the time, does dishes about 1/2 the time....lots of stuff! If it didn't feel weird I would send his ex-wife a thank you card! lol they broke up before i met him and wow am i glad they did! he is the BEST guy for me!!!!

Stifler's - posted on 01/09/2011

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mine is always at work so while he's gone i do the laundry and dishes and vacuuming etc. he takes the bin out on bin day/empties the house bin, cleans the toilet and mows the lawn. I'm supposed to wash my car but he usually ends up doing that too. Last time I was pregnant he cleaned the shower for me too because I was too fat. He helps with Logan heaps too.

Chasity - posted on 01/06/2011

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Mine does the cooking everynight and takes care of the kids once he gets home from work.

Wendy - posted on 01/04/2011

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I do everything around the house that I suppose the traditional housewife did once upon a time. But I take this responsibility upon myself because I want to and I love having everything taken care of so my hubby doesn't have to worry about it. He works almost as much as he breathes, so we often will hire out to take care of the yard or for other "man jobs". If he didn't have such a demanding job I know he would help and do it very well. In fact, I still think he is a better cook than I. When we first met, his house was always spotless, his suits were always pressed and his meals were always healthy and delicious. He did hire out for some of the cleaning but for the most part he did it himself. He didn't start working so intensely until we had our first child! Bless his heart...he's my HERO!

Jennifer - posted on 01/02/2011

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My husband is fabulous. He walks our three dogs morning/night and does so in the cold weather with no complaints! Every night as he puts our daughter to bed, I will do the dishes and set up coffee. Once she is sound asleep, we work together to pick up the toys (dog & child). We try very hard to do things together so that one person does not feel like they are carrying the brunt of the work.

Brenda - posted on 12/30/2010

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my husband does the mowing, take care of the money and on the weekends he looks after our 5 month old little girl to give me a break.He is amazing!! we share other chores between us, if something needs doing the first to see it takes care of it.

Tah - posted on 04/13/2010

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my husband is the cleaner..he will turn on music get rid of me and the kids and clean the whole house top to bottom. i would be lying if i said that i didnt love it and disappear to the park or museum with the kids with bells on..lol

Lori - posted on 04/13/2010

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Takes out the garbage on garbage days, helps me put away clean clothes and will make the bed if I don't have time to. Every once in a while I can get him to pick up a dirty dish. His favorite household duty is helping me in the kitchen or throwing something on the grill. I'm sure that there's more than from time to time will help me do but the truth is that my husband is away from the home A LOT so I'm not too sturn on him per say to "help me"

Brenda - posted on 04/13/2010

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I have a wonderful Husband, who is good at cleaning. I do the Laundry, cook dinner & we share washing the dishes, he does everything else. He doesn't work due to the economy right now I'm the one that works but he supports me in other ways with taking the children to school making their lunch & housekeeping. We work together. God has truly blessed me. Before him I was a single mother for two years before he came into my life.

Julie - posted on 04/13/2010

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My husband helps with EVERYTHING! He cooks when he can, takes care of all of the outside work, the cars etc. he vacuums, does laundry (still can't quite master the folding part) and occasionally will do the dishes. :)

Patricia - posted on 04/13/2010

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My husband and I work as a team with everything so that we can make sure that everything gets done that day. The one chore that he cleans every week is the bathroom I don't like cleaning it but he doesn't have a problem so when he is doing that by himself I am looking after our 2 children. (20 months and 3 months)

Jennell - posted on 04/11/2010

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I think that my husband and I share equal responsibility for all of the housework. We both just pick up where the other left off and we get it done.

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I HAVE BEEN BLESSED!!! I HAVE PROGRESSIVE MS AND LIFE IS NOT EASY. MY CHILDREN ARE GROWN (21 YEAR OLD STILL AT SHOE BUT ENGAGED 2012 WEDDING AFTER BOTH FINISH DEGREES) MY HUBBY WILL DO ANYTHING I NEED DONE ESPECIALLY WEN THE KIDS OR FRIENDS ARE COMMING. REGULARLY DOES LAUNDRY, DISHES, COOKS, CLEAN BATHROOMS (YES TOILETS & WASH CURTIANS TOO,) VACCUM, DUST, CHANGE SHEETS, ANYTHING I NEED, HE USED TO SHOP OR TAKE ME SHOPPING BUT MOM MOVED IN WITH US AND DRIVES LOCALLY SO SHE WILL TAKE ME NOW.

Natalie - posted on 03/23/2010

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My husband and help each other out!!! He is the primary cooker though. Hes good at it and loves it and im not a huge fan. He has always helped me around the house he hates laundry and bathrooms but lately he has been doing everything since we moved and i have a 30 min commute to work and home. I come home and he has everything done and dinner on the table, and this is after he works 12hrs. He is very good to me, but before our move we would share all the chores and on weekends is family cleaning day we all pitch in...I love my hubby so much!!!

Jennifer - posted on 03/23/2010

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My husband does everything. If it weren't for the fact that I have to remind him some days that we both live here and I am capable of helping with house work he would forget I am here and do everything his self. Of course there are days he tells me to go relax that he has everything under control, but i still make sure i help. I love him but sometimes he bugs me when he won't let me help with the house work.

Heather - posted on 03/22/2010

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my wonderful husband does anything and everything even after coming home from work when i am home yes i do the work but when we both work we both do the dishes,laundry,whatever it takes i am very blessed to have such a great husband :)

Jen - posted on 03/22/2010

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My husband is absolutly amazing, he does everything, but were a team. When the laundry needs done One of us (usually him) will take all the laundry to the laundry room, and get it started, and I will go and switch the laundry, then we do the folding together. As for the trash, its whoever gets to it first. Dishes, is kinda the same as laundry, one of us will start it and then we will both put the dishes away together. As for everything else, mopping/vacuuming again its whoever notices that it needs to be done first. Its really wonderful to actually have a partnership, he truly is an amazing man!

Jacqueline - posted on 03/21/2010

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my hubby is very helpful, he does laundry, cooks and some cleaning if i ask him too... he takes the trash and is the best husband and father i could ask for.... i don't tell him enough....

Laura - posted on 03/21/2010

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i work day shift, husband works second shift, he gets my kids off to school ,does the laundry, housework , and sometimes gets dinner started for me. He also does most of the outside work. The grass,dog stuff and the pool I truly am a princess. Sometimes I feel a little guilty he does so much and puts in as many hours as I do at work!!

Liena - posted on 03/19/2010

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My husband is so wonderful. He does so much around the house. He does most of the grocery shopping, cooks, laundry 50% of the time, dishes, and not to mention gets our daughter all bathed and fed for dinner when I'm working late. He doesn't complain either even though I know he's tired doing this stuff sometimes. He studies at night for his graduate online classes after our daughter's gone to bed and after we eat inner. He's an amazing man, husband and father. I know I am so lucky.

Diana - posted on 03/18/2010

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my husband watches the boys at night while im at my part time job (gives them a bath,cleans up the dinner dishes, puts them to bed) on some weekends he will do a mini spring cleaning. sometimes finishes the laundry for me.

Jennifer - posted on 03/18/2010

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My husband is wonderful around the house. He does the dishes when they get to be too much for me and he fixes everything and anything (even sewed the zipper back into his jacket when I couldn't). He doesn't typically only does the manly chores around the house but I know I never have to ask twice.

Yesenia - posted on 03/18/2010

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HONESTLY he does EVERYTHING in the house.Laundry, cooking, vacuuming, dishes, mopping, dusting,clean bathroom, shopping and everything else...He ROCKS!!!

Taralee - posted on 03/18/2010

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My hubbie faithfully cleans the kitchen and does the dishes. But he will also happily do anything I need him to do. Are we not so lucky to have PARTNERS in this life that do their share.....with a smile!!

Kirstie - posted on 03/18/2010

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My husband does everything even when i already did it, from kid,laundry,doing girls hair painting fingernails,cleaning wherever it is needed he will do.

Claudia - posted on 03/17/2010

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i just love my husband. we both work, but i am currently enrolled in school (for the last three years). when i get home from school twice a week, the kids are all done with homework, baths taken and tucked into bed. the dishes are done and he evens mops the kitchen. i just could not ask for a better husband.

Natalie - posted on 03/17/2010

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I can not complain my husband does everything he help with all the laundry cleaning cooking and name it i would not change him for nothing my husband his the best husband that i could have could not ask for more.

Stacie - posted on 03/16/2010

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My husband does anything that I ask him to do for housework - and I'm limited on what I'm allowed to do now because of placenta previa so I appreciate his help sooo much! I wonder though, how do I get him to help without having to ask? I worry that I'm going to sound like a nagging wife and try not to ask for help too much or expect perfection, but if I don't ask it doesn't get done. (He's got a much higher threshold for messiness than I do, and I'm no neat freak so by the time I finally ask it's past the point of needing to be done, KWIM?) Any suggestions on how to broach this subject or ask without sounding like a nag? THANKS!

Teresa - posted on 03/16/2010

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also he is an excellent cook. I hate to cook, but he loves it, just does not get lot of time to do so.

Teresa - posted on 03/16/2010

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my husband works crazy hours, but the other day he was home sick. I came home from school and the floors were clean, pictures hung , garbage burned, laundry done,and a spotless kitchen. All while he was sick. that is what I call a :special dad/husband. Thanks so much for all you do for me and the boys. I am so blessed to have him in my life

Heather - posted on 03/16/2010

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sweeping mopping vaccumming!!! all the stuff that i dont do as well as he does (i miss corners apparently) and then i do all the other stuff and we usually cook together and put the dishes away together with our boys so i think its a very eual division of work and we get to spent alot of family time together in the kitchen

Amanda - posted on 03/16/2010

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Since the day Rich and I moved in together it has always been, I cook, and he cleaned the kitchen. I do laundry and he folds and puts it away (99.8% of the time). While he's doing the after dinner clean up I give the kids their baths and get them ready for bed. If we went out to eat that night I will wash the kids and he will dry them off and get them dressed. We split vacuuming 50/50 and he normally does the mopping in the kitchen when he cleans. I have the house cleaned (minus dishes) by the time he gets home from work. If there is a mess made after that we clean it up together. I do the grocery shopping, so he unloads them and puts them away. He always helps with the kids when he's home.

Rose - posted on 03/16/2010

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I am one of the lucky ones my hubby does anything i ask him to do or help with. He don't mind either. Sometimes its done half ass but he still does it. Alot of the guys now a days that i hear of wont even pick up a piece of trash off the floor without complaining that there stay at home wife that takes care of the kids all day should be doing it cause they worked all day. BLAH BLAH BLAH!! I love my hubby and everything he does for me and my daughter he really truly is a great man and i feel lucky to have him =)

Leanne - posted on 03/16/2010

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Wow lucky girl! Must admit my hubby is also a brilliant father, great husband and does the dishes for me every night, he also helps me with the laundry on Wednesday nights, which is mommy's night off, I am truely blessed too!

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