Melissa - posted on 08/30/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
My daughter was unexpectedly born 6 weeks premature, she was perfect no premature problems, which they were concerned about. We were released from NIC after 2 day and sent home on the third. We were home about two hours when I was nursing for the first time and she went limp, was not breathing or responsive. My husband and I both have had cpr training but both freaked, mostly because she was so small (4lbs 5 oz) . We have a local hospital a couple blocks away and they grabbed her from me and started cpr. After lot of test they determined that she hadn’t developed a choking / coughing reflex do to being premature. My milk and come in and it was my first feeding since then. Needles s to say feedings, sleeping, everything caused me a lot of anxiety. I am doing better she is now almost five months and has developmentally caught up! I am giving you this back ground so you can understand the current friction. My husband however doesn’t think she should ever be upset or cry (he has also never been around or held a baby until ours was born.) He is self employed and is home almost all the time which is a blessing until she gets tired and frights sleep or if I pump and try to warm a bottle. I don’t know how to help him with this but an anger papa bear comes out and has caused many fights between the two of us! I am worn out and am looking for help! It has really come to a head with me trying to implement a night time routine. Even thought I am doing the Sears method, she still tries to fight naps and especially bedtime. Any suggestions he says he just wants her to be happy and see her smile but I don’t think doing the “easy thing” is the right thing in the long run!