Newly Wed Game... any tips?

Lynn - posted on 10/08/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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So my hubby and I were watching the Newly Wed Game a couple nights ago.... and one of the questions was something about the thing your husband doesnt like. two out of the three women stated the hubbys dont like the nagging and complaining that the wives always do. My husband and I both looked at each other in shock. How horrible is it that they are on the newly wed game, which means they have been married less then a year, and already know that they themselves are a gripe?(that was in fact the first thing the hubbies guessed, was that their wife was a gripe) I just dont get what good nagging does. When a woman nags, its a bad way of informing their mate of their disappointment or displeasure. Woman nags to get her way, even if it helps her get her way, the hubby is only doing it to get her to shut up in all honesty. So then the wife is happy is got done but the man had to do something because he was sick of listening to her gripe. So then he will be snappy, or use that against her. Sooo.... I would like to hear other womens stories of how they have resolved a problem without nagging.... example: sitting down and talking about it, stopped doing a certain chore so the hubbies will see it build up, joked about it and got over it..... etc

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Brittany - posted on 10/18/2011

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My husband as actually asked me to get after him about things. He is forgetful when it comes to cleaning things, even things he wants cleaned. I don't treat him like an idiot over it, I just remind him that he wanted to get X done. If he looks worn out, I don't bring it up. 9 times out of 10 it isn't the end of the world for it to wait.

I don't really expect much from him chore wise. He's pretty good about doing something right away if asked, or at least in the same day.

Karen - posted on 10/17/2011

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Thanks! It was nice reading your post. Most women nowadays don't have the time or patience to be effective in their communication with their spouse. I will have to admit, in the beginning I would say, "There are some chores that have been on the list for a while, check out the list". When he would see just how long ago I had asked him to do it, he would apologize and get it done right away. It took some patience on my part in the beginning to just shut my mouth and let the chore list talk for me, but it was well worth it! ;)

Lynn - posted on 10/17/2011

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Thats awesome! He could see it, without having to hear it over and over! And thats so smart of you to put a date on it, i think that would make him a little more aware of how long it has been. hehhehe.. this is great!

Karen - posted on 10/17/2011

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My husband is as busy as the next. When there are things to do around the house my husband would always forget that I even asked him to do anything. LOL, naturally I started to become frustrated. I decided nagging wasn't a healthy way to get him to do anything that needed to be done. I made a list of things for him to do and hung it where he would be able to see. I told him that when he was done with the chore he could cross it off so I would know. LOL. This unfortunately worked all of two days and soon the list turned into a book! I decided to revise it. I put the date in front of the chores so he would see the exact date I asked for it to be done. At the end of the chore, I left a space for him to write in the date that he did it. This worked like a charm. Being able to see a date that I requested the chore to be done made him get the chore done in a timely manner. WAY to GO me and Yay for my honey! A million plus fights avoided!