Gloria - posted on 08/09/2009 ( 26 moms have responded )
Everything we need can be found in the Word of God;
face yourself completely through the Word. It is sufficient, having all power, instruction, deliverance, joy, understanding and everything you need. Know it, understand it and it will set you free.
Hebrews 13:4, "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge." In marriage two come together as one; it is like your two hands, the left cannot commit adultery with the right. The right and the left hands are free to touch any part of the body, they are as one. In marriage the body is holy, there are some things God would not count as sin that would be repulsive or unclean to your mate.
Some women become extremely upset because they feel that their husband lusts after them, but there is no such thing as an evil lust of a husband for his wife. A power exists in a woman's life to keep her marriage together, and she must use it through love and not through obligation. Never cheapen yourself by using sex as a bargaining agent to get something you want, a prostitute does that. Sex should not be considered a duty, when two people love each other it is natural for them to have sex, God planned it that way; it brings a closeness in marriage that nothing else can, a holy union completely lacking in guilt. Sex, if used the way God planned, creates a tenderness in the heart of the husband that can be found in no other way. The holiness of God brings about such a tenderness that it is almost unbelievable.
1Corinthians 7:2,5 ".......to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Defraud ye not one the other except it be with consent for a time that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency." The Word of God emphasizes the role of sex before and after marriage; however, some women, because they are afraid of enticing their husbands, hide in closets to dress. It makes no more sense than the right hand hiding from the left. How can two people be comfortable when they feel they must hide from each other: "Oops, here comes my husband. I've got to hide!" God did not intend for barriers to be placed between couples, it robs them of any true closeness. There should be no strangeness between the husband and the wife, God has made you as one, Jointly'