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Kristie - posted on 06/04/2012

I will be married for almost 10 years(june 24) and we met while both of us served in the U.S. Army stationed over in Germany. Tell you why he's a good guy he drove 400 miles each weekend to pick me up from my post and take me back to his(my post didn't have much things to do on it) and hardly complained!!!

Angela - posted on 05/13/2012

I'm married, I like being married and I prefer it to simply sharing my life and a home with my partner. BUT .... I think some people on this thread are a bit "elitist".

Why would it drive anyone crazy to hear a couple that weren't legally married to refer to one another as "my husband" or "my wife". It doesn't bother me, it's none of my business!

In the UK, where I live, most couples who live together and are NOT married do NOT refer to one another as husband and wife - in fact most would make a point of correcting anyone else who used these terms to describe their partner!

As Lynn so rightly says in her opening post, "I am not judging people. I am not claiming to be better or worse then anyone. I am just Supporting happy legal marriages."

Some people who have posted on here are behaving as though marriage is some exclusive club and we seek to disrespect those who don't belong - especially if they regard themselves as unofficially married!

My husband is a great guy. He was wonderful before we married. Marriage hasn't made him "better" - he was already marvellous! I'm fortunate to be his wife, but mostly I'm fortunate to have his love! That's the most important thing!

Peggie - posted on 07/17/2010

Happily married for 17 and a half years to the man of my dreams! :)

Joshua - posted on 07/16/2010

I am happily LEGALLY married and have been for a year and a half now.

Elizabeth - posted on 07/13/2010

My husband is an Russian Orthodox priest who is very busy with his parish but he always makes time to do some laundry or help put groceries away or even do grocery shopping. He doesn't even need to be asked. He's absolutely wonderful!

Lisa - posted on 07/09/2010

Thank you for a place to tell others about the wonderful man I married. We have been married for 10 years. My husband is wonderful. It took us 8 years to concieve a baby, Bayley who was stillborn and another year to adopt our beautiful baby girl Sara who is 16 months and through it all he stood by me loving me supporting me even though I suffered depression. Fertility drugs make me an Ogre. but he still loves me and I am so glad to call him my husbnd

Mammaw - posted on 07/08/2010

There's nothing wrong with how you feel, Lynn! There are many sites out there that don't uphold the standards this site does. All us happily married couples with children & grandchildren support this effort. We help each other deal with big & small issues in a serious way.
I may offend but, my opinion of a LEGAL MARRIAGE is between a MAN and a WOMAN. That's just the way I was raised.

Kelly - posted on 07/02/2010

tru that

Debbie - posted on 06/25/2010

I agree Lynn. Marriage is that special bond between a man and a woman. My marriage vows are very special to me and I honored them. My husband and me will be married 30 years on the 29th of July. I love him dearly and he's very good to me. i wouldn't have it any other way but being married to him. That means he is taken for sure.

Latasha - posted on 06/20/2010

Hello ladies my name is Latasha & I've been married for 2yrs to the most wonderful,kind,gentle,caring,giving,honest,reliable,humble,dedicated,sharing,stable,compassionate,compromising,and most importantly God fearing man he's my soulmate& I Love him very much...I thank God everyday for placing him in my life;He has made me a better person(attitude wise)And I know as long as we keep God 1st in our lives there aint nothing that we can't conquer Together...

Meagan - posted on 06/03/2010

Hi! My name is Meagan and I am very happily married to a wonderful man. He has legally adopted my son and now we have an adorable 2 month old baby girl to love. It took me a while to find him, but when I did, I didn't let go!! He is an incredible father and husband, so caring and sincere.
There is a level of commitment that you take on when you accept the challenge of marriage. I do not judge the positions of others, as I was in a much different situation when I had my first child, but I never knew how rewarding a good, strong marriage could be until now. I applaud all those women who continue to set the example for us!

Lynn - posted on 06/03/2010

Welcome to the community Crystal!

Crystal - posted on 06/02/2010

I so agree oh and I'm Crystal

Liz - posted on 06/01/2010

I am married to a wonderful man whom I married 2 in a half years ago..We been together for almost 6 years, we have a beautiful baby girl together.He's everything I want in a husband and more. He makes me so proud to be his wife and I love him with a my heart..He's a wonderful father as well.

Kakesha - posted on 05/31/2010

So True! I have an Amazing husband! Educated and Honest, Great Credit, Works out, Great Chef, Cleans, Handy Man, Sews, Great dresser,And is very helpful and into our daughters life (not biologically his, but you could'nt tell by their relationship!) He manages the money and pays every bill on time! If I need something like wanting to go shopping or out with the girls I just let him know how much I need and I get it. He takes my car to get it washed, detailed, oil changed and fill up the gas tank with out being asked. He Maintains our beautiful landscape (front and backyard) because I am scared of the bugs! All he asks of me is to keep the inside of the house clean and do the laundry! Everything else is taken care of! He opens the door for me, Always tells me he LOVES me, Loves for me to go out to eat with him and his buddies for UFC fight nights! And I have started to actually like it after going once a month to the resturant this past year! We have family movie nights, play card, board and video games together. We attend Church together. We take mini weekend vacations as well as week long vacations! He sends me dozen of flowers to my place of employment as well as our home! He takes very great care of me when I am sick. We go grocery shopping together! When I am upset he notice very quickly and helps me resolve my issue. He still makes me smile when he I see he is calling me! I still laughs at his jokes. My family loves him! His family loves me! I had an amazing Mother-N-Law (R.I.P) she passed 58 days befor we got married=( I love spending time with him! He is soooo Great to me and my daughter that we say "our daughter" I am Truly Blessed to be Married to My Soul Mate for 3 years (4 years this June 24th!) We been together for 8 years now! We don't argue over money, bills, or friends! We have small disagreements over me not being happy while in my cycle or because I can't figure out what I want to eat for dinner. He starts talking about the problem right then and their and then were right back Smiling and loving each other! We have a Wonderful Marriage! And finally I have a place to Brag about it because other women here share my same Problem which is A GREAT PROBLEM TO HAVE!!!!!!!! I know in my heart we will be together until we pass on to Heaven ♥

Sally - posted on 05/31/2010

Congratulatons, by the way!!! Does this mean that you get to make googly-eyes every day now? I beleive it is great role-modeling for your son! He'll benefit from these experiences and really appreciate what you and your husband are doing for him when he is an adult like 24 and 30. (This was in response to the mom of the 13 y/o who loves her retired military husband.)

Tracey - posted on 05/27/2010

here here!! I am happily married woman of 25 and half years and do not like my HUSBAND to be called my partner or anything else I married him he is my husband!!!
and btw I know I've bragged on him already here but he is the most gorgeous, loving, giving and understanding man that God put on this planet sorry girls he's mine!!! LOL

Melodie - posted on 05/07/2010

17 years married to my best friend and wonderful soulmate. When they say "for better, for worse" there should be no questions. LIFE happens and if you have the right person in your life who wants to be with you, thick n thin, then by all means what is the big problem with signing on the bottom line and making it legal?? For all the unhappy ladies, if I could bottle/clone my man for you I would be a rich lady! Encouragement to those struggling and hope for those involved...LIFE happens for a reason to those who are committed to it.---Enjoy!

Portia - posted on 04/27/2010

I am a happily married woman! and I believe that being married makes a lot of difference to a relationship! it makes a couple stronger and better! getting married.. walking down the aisle was one of the greatest, most beautiful feeling! and of course... having a baby!!! hehehe... ;)

Lynn - posted on 04/26/2010

I am confused by your statement Jessica. I Like saying what a little too much?

Jessica - posted on 04/26/2010

oh my gosh I think you like saying that a little too much. being blocked should happen without saying why. What is with people likeing to be in an exclusive club is beyond me?

Jemena - posted on 04/16/2010

Ditto! I second that! Sounds like you've got a great guy! :-) Husbands who bless us with serving us selflessly are a dime a dozen - I'm always so thrilled when I hear about victorious relationships (those who battle through the ups and downs of marriage TOGETHER!) Hooray for you that you're part of that lucky group!

Lynn - posted on 04/16/2010

You are very welcome! It sounds like you do in fact have a wonderful husband. Congrats!

Donna - posted on 04/16/2010

Hi! My husband and I have been happily married for almost 18 years and lived together for 3 years before that. We never used the terms husband/wife before we were married. To be honest, he had been married twice before and my parents were divorced with my dad being remarried and my mom living with her boyfriend whom she called her "common-law" husband (he finally agreed to marriage this last August after 30 years). We didn't think we wanted to finalize our relationship "just in case". My (now ex-)stepmom's grandmother cornered us one night, and being a loving, strong Christian woman, asked us point blank why we weren't married and wouldn't we like God to bless our relationship. He proposed a couple of months later, we were married later that year and have been happy ever since. Yes, it takes work and we've had rough spells financially, but knowing that we would always work together and not give up has made all of the difference. I am now a SAHM for the last 10 1/2 years because we agreed on it before our kids came along and he works extra to make that work. I love him so much. The reason those of us who are on here are bragging is because our husbands DO treat us as equals and they willing (most of the time) do things that a lot of people see as "women's" work. My husband took care of our 2 kids the first week we were home each time because of my c-sections. He never complained, he even relished it! Okay, I could go on, but I'll save it for another post! :)

Thanks for starting this group!

Jemena - posted on 04/10/2010

Ah, of course.

Alise - posted on 04/10/2010

Holy Orders= ordained bishop, priest or deacon

Jemena - posted on 04/10/2010

Alise -
What are the Holy Orders?

Alise - posted on 04/10/2010

Awesome! I must give some praise to my husband here. He became Catholic for me and our son. The journey with him has been amazing...

The seven Sacraments in the Catholic Church are:
1. Baptism
2. Confirmation
3. Communion
4. Penance (confession)
5. Matrimony
6. Holy Orders
7. Anointing of the sick

Marilyn - posted on 04/10/2010

i think an official commitment, means a lot. It really says something about the person who asked to marry you. They trust you, to handle their affairs, they trust you to have their children. i agree with Jemena Marriage is work, It makes legal matters a lot easier.

Jemena - posted on 04/10/2010

There's definitely something to be said for making that official commitment. Without it it seems / feels like you've got an easy out if things get difficult and you want to end it. Marriage is not easy - things DO get difficult - but you work through it TOGETHER.

Courtney - posted on 04/10/2010

I agree! It drives me crazy when my husbands friends say "This is my wife" when they haven't gotten married.

Jemena - posted on 04/09/2010

Alise -
Well, I have no doubt my marriage is blessed by the Lord, and unless there's something really screw-ball-y within Catholicism, I'd say we "fit" their view of a valid marriage - or haven't broken any laws Catholics would have a problem with. (other than not being Catholic, that is). :-)
Yes, I agree that it's crucial that God be invited into these life-events. Marriage is HIS idea, after all, and only truly works/lasts/is freeing and fulfilling if He's at the center of it, every day, for the rest of your life.
Again, for my curiosity, what are the "seven Holy Sacraments?" (matrimony, communion . . . . . ) The only other I can think of that would probably be one is baptism.

Alise - posted on 04/09/2010

Jemena- It's awesome that you're curious about different Christian faiths. Fortunately, my view on marriage is not based on my own thoughts or opinion, they are founded on the Universal Church's teachings and Tradition. The Catholic Church recognizes legal-only marriages as well as marriages from other faiths. And interestingly, if you were married within a Christian ceremony, your marriage is also valid in the eyes of the Catholic church and, of course, in the eyes of God! Because both my husband and I are Catholic, matrimony is considered one of the seven holy Sacraments. But having your marriage 'recognized' is different from it being 'valid' in the Church. As a Catholic, having an 'invalid' marriage means that you have committed a grave sin, meaning that you have broken your relationship with God and therefore cannot receive other Sacraments, like Holy Communion. So, having our marriage valid in the eyes of the Church was, not only important, but necessary according to Canon Law. It may sound nit-picky. But don't you think that it's awesome that God's presence are in these life-events?

Jemena - posted on 04/09/2010

Alise -
Just out of curiosity, do you think the only way to be married in the eyes of God is to have your marriage convalidated in the Catholic church? (sorry, being a non-denominational charismatic, I don't know all the specifics of Catholicism, though I have some relatives that are Catholic, and some who are Mormon (yikes! - sorry Mormons, no actual offense meant by that) some Baptists, AG's, CofC's, you name it - even some JW friends). I'm always trying to learn more about the silly little differences between the different denominations.

Alise - posted on 04/09/2010

We've been married for almost 9 years and just got our marriage convalidated in the Catholic church on Easter Vigil. So, not only are we legally married, we are married in the eyes of God!

Leah - posted on 04/07/2010

I agree with that. I am happily married and me and my husband were together for eleven years before we had our son and got married

Jemena - posted on 04/07/2010

Amen, sista!

Elizabeth - posted on 04/06/2010

I wouldn't worry about what others say. I have been married for 4 years legally and do not believe that anyone should take that title until they legally take the vow to be together forever. I have an amazing husband and 2 amazing little ones. My husband will do anything in the world to make me happy. He works so that I can go to school, he stood by my side when we had only been dating for about 2 months and I told him I had cancer, and he has stayed strong through every surgery and all other health problems that come along. He may not bring me roses every night but when he knows I need a little pick me up he brings me something he knows I will like for instance a new book or seeds to plant flowers. He gives everything he can to help take care of our children. Every morning when I wake up he says good morning beautiful and then gets ready for work and every night when he comes home he tells me he loves me and picks up our kids to give them kisses. He is truly amazing and he is the love of my life. I could not imagine even one day without him.

Maria - posted on 04/04/2010

I think that if people arent leagally married and they refer to their partner as a wife or husband- THEY SHOULD JUST GET MARRIED! I mean, if they love each other enough to refer to their partner as a wife or husband they really should just become each others wife and husband! :)

Jessica - posted on 04/02/2010

My name is Jessica and I was married in my family's Catholic Church three years ago to the best man ever!. I actually didn't want to get married because I'd seen too many marriages go down the toliet to waste my time and money on it. And I also saw how my father would yell at my mother, expect her to bring him beer and not "allow" her to do things that she cared about.

But my husband changed my mind. And since I wanted to make him happy, we had a wedding. Since he wanted to make me happy I didn't want an engagment ring, sexist garter games and I wanted to keep my last name along with his name. And with wanting to make eachother happy we became blissfully happy. Now we have a little girl and he is wonderful with her and me. We agreed not to yell, say bad words and drink around our children. And we respect those choices we made for our family. I love him and could not imagine spending my life with anyone else.

Kathy - posted on 04/01/2010

It's funny some one said something about legally married. my husband and I were / are in love so we knew we were going to get married, but between our parents being in three different states(CA CO FL) and we were in WA. we did the Justice of the Peace thing before we had our wedding. we didn't tell our parents till after we found out we were pragnet, about two weeks before they came up for the wedding. all our wedding stuff has Jan 07 on it, but our paper has Oct 06 on it. I finally got my name changed on my drivers license last year

Angelica - posted on 03/30/2010

im happliy married since december 11 2008 :) my husband is in the army working hard to support our family

Pam - posted on 03/29/2010

I have the most wonderful husband ever. During the birth of our Youngest son Braxton, both Braxton and I got the Group B strep infection. Two hours after birth, our baby was wisked away to the NICU and I took a turn for the worst. My uterus ended up getting infected and I had a fever and pain in my hip area that was undescribable. For the first 5 days of Braxton's life, I wasn't able to see or be around him due to a fever and the inability to walk. I was bedridden. When I did get to see my baby, it was with the use of a walker and the assistance of my loving caring husband. the whole time I was bedridden, he spent those days and nights at the hospital on a lumpy couch bed thingy. He would take the breastmilk I pumped to the NICU and feed Braxton. NEVER once did he complain or gripe about the situation. He became the rock I needed in this horrible time we were in. I thank God everyday for the MAN he put in my life!!

Cassidy - posted on 03/26/2010

I am happily married :) and I also hate when other people who aren't married change their last name or their relationship status as married when they are only dating.. not even engaged just dating.. but I can say whoo-hoo for the $800 tax refund I got back this year for getting hitched!!

Ave - posted on 03/26/2010

i agree that if you're not legally married you shouldn't apply to your other half as a husband.

Lenash - posted on 03/24/2010

I am happily married and my husband is very supportive, very caring and i love him so much!

Jennifer - posted on 02/28/2010

I agree with you.

Amanda - posted on 02/28/2010

hey ladies hi out there!!! yes my name is amanda and i'm married to the love of my life he is my hubby my better half my soulmate and my honey and my lover and the best thing that ever happened to my life we have been together for eight yrs and married for three yrs and i can tell u he is the best a woman can ever ask for he took four kids that were not his and have raised three of them as if they are his own and took over being there father, and hes been there for me and my kids and di'm there for him no matter what we have gone through and still strong for each other. i can keeping on about this all day but he is my other half and my love

Ruwani - posted on 02/22/2010

hi, it's very good to know that there are happily married couples left on earth!!!
believe me I am from Sri Lanka( a beautifull country in Asia), and we always think that in western countries, they don't value marriage and family.
Guess we are wrong.
I am married for 7 years and have 2 kids. Our kids mean the world to me and my husband. He is the best father ever and the most loving husband on earth!!!!!

Geri - posted on 02/16/2010

Point! I have been happily married for 10 years (sucks but it is the second time) well our 10th anniversary will be HAPPILY celebrated on 10/21! We have been through alot in the last 10 years and it is amazing the differences between the first for 12 years ands this one now at 10 - I have found my SOUL MATE!