Traveling Husbands?

Brandy - posted on 02/18/2013

Right before we got married 7 1/2 years ago my husband and his friend decided to start a business. They both had licenses and digress in addiction counseling and mental health so that's what they did. Once the economy tanked so did the business. My husband decided to join the National Guard. His Basic and AIT lasted 6 months and Thanksgiving and Christmas where right in the middle of it. He did miss Thanksgiving but he got to come home for 2 weeks for Christmas. On that 2 week break I got pregnant with number 2. It was difficult at first with him being gone because I was working part time at a pet shop and I also had to take over the secretaria and billing stuff at the counseling center. It was also the first time I had ever had anything to do with finances and ours was a mess. Everything was several months past due and only 2 places where willing to work with us on adjusting our payments and interest. Once my husband got back the counseling place was still doing horrible. His business partner couldn't turn them down if they weren't able to pay. So I would keep track of what they owed in hopes they would eventually pay, most of them did eventually get there accounts paid off. Now he had to find a job. He did qualify for employment but we found out later that he never got it because they didn't explain what he had to do. He did finally get a job 4 weeks later. He was over qualified and it was nights but it was income. Shortly after our 2nd child was born our roommat offered him a job working with him from home (Don't worry his wife lived with us also, lol). It was perfect and I loved it. Then our roommates wife passed away (she was 23 and had an 8 week old son), we still don't know what happened other than her heart stopped. 1 month after that the business decided to move to another country so they both where out of a job. He did do the unemployment right this time though but no luck. He decided to take a job with the military at a training facility that's 1 1/2 hrs away. A lot of times he works late with either toures or running special effects for the military personnel that's training there that week. So he stays there 5 days a week and is only home on the weekends. He does get paid days off so he has been taking more 3-4 day weekends which has helped a lot. Especially since our 3rd is 10 weeks old today, he also gets federal holidays off unless he's one of the lucky ones to get pulled for fire watch. He has been working there for almost 2 years now and has been looking for another job that has comparable pay and benefits that's closer to home but no luck yet. We feel that God is using this time for us to individually grow closer to Him.

Kelsey - posted on 02/14/2013

Need help. I have been married for 7 years going on 8. I have two boys 5 and 3. They don't listen to me and my husband currently works nights. So I'm left alone to take care of them. Now my husband is talking about becoming a truck driver. We are currently a low in come family and he wants to make more money for us. Like every one else in this economy our bills are pilling up. With my husbands job right now i already fill like a signal mom. I get my babies up and ready for school and take the little one to school while my oldest waits for the bus here at home. When they get home most of the time they are ready for naps so i lay them down. By the time they wake up my husband is getting read for work or gone. I get what house cleaning done when i can. From early afternoon to midnight my husband is at work. I make dinner for me and my boys i bathe them and play with them and put them to bed. Every night i get the question when will daddy be home and when will we see him. I currently started school to get my high school so my days are even more full. When my husband is home most of the time he is in bed and on his days off he is in bed. I love my husband very much we have only spent a month and a half apart since we have been together and that's when he went to basic and they sent him home for medical reasons. That time was the worst in my life to be away from him that long. I'm already stressed to the max with my two boys and them not listening to me how much worse would it get if he went on the road? I come from a truck driving family and so does he but I'm afraid that our relationship may not be strong enough for the time apart. I want to support him in what he decides to do. The good thing is i live very close to my family and my mom would be able to help with my boys. I am at a lost on what to do for my family and i have lost all faith in getting my boys to listen to me please help. What do i do?

Shantelle - posted on 06/06/2011

my husband worked away from home ( and will agian starting in september until may agian) he was suppose to work 3 weeks away then get 1 week off, and at frist i was good with that, but then it changed to months, he left the day after our wedding september 25 ( so he left on the 26) and didnt get home until the end of november, It sucked..i think i cried everynight, i needed him and wanted him, not to mention i was pregnant and wasnt having the best pregnancy. it was hard, he came home for 2 days then left agian until christmas eve, then left agian on the 26th, he wasnt suppose to come home until feb 20th the day before my due date, and had 8 days off, to hopefully be at the delivery and spend a bit of time at home, but i went into labour on january 28th, and had our baby feb 1st so he came home on the 29th and was home for the birth and like 2 days after, he then came home may 3rd and will be home until september, we probably wont even have our anniversay off together! it sucks and its hard but somehow i manage! im glad he is home now though he still works from 6 am until 7 pm, he is home to put the kids to bed and cuddle me!

Heather - posted on 04/26/2011

My husband is in the Army, haha. Plenty of traveling involved! :/

Amy - posted on 04/23/2011

My husband goes up and down the Mississippi for 6 weeks. He doesn't set foot on land except to fly home to us in Tulsa. We have been doing it for around 3 years now.

Leanne - posted on 04/26/2010

I am married to a truck driver, he is gone 6 days home for 3. You get used to it, the first while I cried alot but now it is all good and we make the most of his days off :)

Wendy - posted on 04/18/2010

I have known my husband for 22 years, married 19 years in May, and the last 5 years he has been forced to be over the road truck driver. Due to the economy his company was bought out, we transfered from RI to FL then a lay off. So now he is home for 2-3 days every 2-3 weeks. For 11 years as our kids were growing up he worked nights and I worked days. He was the BEST Dad and when my youngest was 11 he had to go back on the road. It has been really hard working full time and being there for my teenager. Even though she is in high school it is soo important to be in her life. My husband and I talk at least 4-6 times a day but my kids prefer to text which is hard on him. He is trying to get a local job but cannot sacrifice medical benefits and a certain salary we have become accustomed to. Communication is key. I have to do it all: bills, laundry, extra curricular activities, groceries, etc etc. But my husband says that is what attracted him to me: I am a very independent woman. But I am very lonely especially moving away from family and friends 2 1/2 years ago. It's also hard on our sex life - trying to fit it in between activities and the monthly. I miss the simple cuddling and touchy stuff the most. I really long for the economy's upturn so I can have my family life back which I hope it is before my last daughter goes to college or I will be really sad and lonely in 2 years:(

Swasti - posted on 04/16/2010

I have been there and done that for 7yrs of my marriage...I used to miss my hubby like crazy when he used to be away for days sometimes but the amazing thing is that it taught me how to be independant and made me strong...But funny enough when he started working from home all the time i couldnt wait for him to get out of my face..hahha

Heather - posted on 04/15/2010

On occasion my husband has to go on business trips, but not very often... It's hard. I don't think I could handle it if it was all the time...