Carol - posted on 09/05/2011 ( 17 moms have responded )
My husband thinks its alright to talk to other women, and this really upsets me. I have told him I find it to be disrespectful to me that he talks to other women, and he turns around and tells me that he thinks its rude and disrespect ful that I wouldnt allow him to talk to another woman, even if its just friendly conversations. I do not talk to other guys because I find that that would be disrespectful to my husband, he claims he dosent care but when he ask who a guy is and I have told them they are friends from high school, he decided to tell me ' No guy is just a friend, they wanted somethign from you(meaning sex etc.).' affirming to me that it wasnt alright for me to talk to guys I went to school with, or went to AIT with. He has talked to women in the past inapproriately and thinks that he didnt cheat ( i consider it to be emotional cheating and from some of the things he said it would have turned into physical cheating) he has physically cheated on me once after we had a fight. I have explained to him that I dont care if he talks to guys, but talking to girls I do not like at all because of his past. I understand that I still do not trust him talking to other women and he thinks its because of their looks and its not, its that their lacking something that makes them male. I have tried to tell him this and he still thinks its because of their looks, which has some importance but not as much as he thinks it does. What can I do to get him to understand this?