Working Husband/ Stay at home mom

Samantha - posted on 11/16/2010 ( 34 moms have responded )

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My husband works all day and when he comes home he is always exhausted he never understands how tiring it is having to stay home all day with our 1 year old, clean and cook. I am currently in the hospital with our 2nd daughter (she was 5 wks premature) So he has been staying home from work to take care of our oldest.... He thought it was going to be a vacation. lol He complains about not being able to do anything, & how she wears him out. I think it's funny now he got a taste of it, I think he'd rather be at work all day. lol

How are your husbands with staying home all day with the kids? Any stay at home dads?

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Bobbi Jean - posted on 01/04/2013

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Years ago when I was recovering from surgery, my husband stepped in and took care of everything. His biggest frustration was having my two children (son 4 and daughter 3) tell him constantly that that was not the way Mama does it. After two days of this DH and I decided that it was time for chores for both of them. DH also started answering each protest with--"When I start to look like Mama, I'll do things exactly like Mama. Until then, you are stuck with the Daddy way."

Jdsmith - posted on 12/31/2012

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Just like anything, once you have the routine down, it gets easy. The hardest part about staying home with my daughter is finding where here mom has left stuff(wife had both of her winter coats in her car when she did not even have the baby). The main reason that the job is so difficult is that once you have it down, you get bored. This is the problem with women.

Patricia - posted on 12/29/2012

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Even though he doesn't know how to clean properly he sure knows how to take care of our Daughter. He has never had a problem with anything from sitting for hours in the emergency room with her throwing up all over him, staying up all night when she is sick and I am sick, generally just wanting to be with her. I am thankful. He is a wonderful Father and Hubby.

Lynn - posted on 12/14/2012

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I live in Las Vegas... And its well known that the unemployment rate here is crazy. What i am noticing around my neighborhood is there are a lot of stay at home dads that have wifes with great jobs. There is a neighbor that lives behid me and he and his wife have 4 kids... He has become a stay at home dad... she is a probation officer... and he gets them to their sports, gets the to playdates at the parks... gets them to school, gets their homework done, gets them to bed. I guess i was just kinda surprised to see it happening so much since I am a stay at home mom (i do daycare) and since I grew up in a family where dad always worked, mom had part time job, cleaned house, cooked meals, and all that...

Melissa - posted on 12/14/2012

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Yeah but what happens when momma can't anymore, lets say when you get old or what have you. Something to think about.

Patricia - posted on 12/13/2012

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I have spoiled my Husband have always done everything for him even those first 10 years that we were childless so if I am ever down look out. Luckily our Daughter is 10 and can help him now!! God bless him he tries, but he says We need Momma!!! :)

Melissa - posted on 12/07/2012

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Awesome! My husband does the same! He does it with out a single complaint! He is so awesome!!!

Melissa - posted on 12/07/2012

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My husband is wonderful! He works all day and comes home and takes over with no complaints! We have a 9 year old and a 3 month old. He does laundry,dishes,pretty much is a big help and never ever complains, he takes over on the weekends and takes care of the baby at night even though he works all week, and he is happy to do it! I am truly blessed!

Jacinta - posted on 12/04/2012

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My husband is great with the children,he too thought that staying home with them would be a vacation he took a three days off work when I had to go spend two days with my mum after hse had just had surgery and couldnt do much and my dad is far to old to give her the help she needed after her op.My husband was so happy before I left he said "finally I can have a vacation from work" I laughed.When I came back on Wednesday morning he could barely keep his eyes open and the house was a mess! Two days and Kaden and Kyver (my twins who were 1 and a bit at the time) had absolutely ran rings around there daddy the dishes were a mess only half done,the washing hadnt been done and toys were every where.He said to me the next morning "how do you do it? Kaden wanted me to play cars and Kyver wanted me to read him a story they both needed a drink,there was a ton of laundry that I couldn't even get to and they wouldn't nap!" I laughed he looked forward to going to work the next day lol he loves his boys but they are a handful more than daddy was expecting!

Ashley - posted on 11/25/2012

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My husband can't last 5 minutes with our 5 month old daughter. I'm a sahm and all she wants is me. I'm always home or with them so the second she cries and he doesn't know what to do, he passes her to me. It gets annoying some times because all I want is an hour break. That's it. Our family lives an hour and a half to 3 hours away so I wouldn't dare ask them. Plus I don't trust my parents or his to do what we want with her.

Rachel - posted on 11/02/2012

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Mine is perfectly fine with it. He doesn't do the same kind of cleaning that I do but I'd rather he was with the kids than cleaning anyway. I think woman are just better at multi tasking that stuff so we can get it all done. lol.

Stifler's - posted on 12/26/2010

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We have this family dynamic. Dad works, mum stays home. Damian lies about how good Logan is when I go out. He's like "Logan was excellent all day, you're lying about how whingey he is and how he won't nap etc.". Yeah right mate, you've been with him one day. Not every day! HAHAHA.

Julie - posted on 12/24/2010

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Steven also works all day long, and i stay home with Landon. It is defiantly tiring, and i know he is tired fr working all day, but he knows it is his duty to be a daddy. He comes home from work and takes over for me, which i LOVE and i know i am very lucky for that. i can actually have a bath, or read, or do whatever i want to do. We are both Landon's paretns and working and staying home are both tough jobs, but we get through it!

Alexis - posted on 12/20/2010

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My hubby is awesome with our son, he is fed, clean, changed, played with, bathed, gets his naps and all is wonderful with my hubby and my son. However not a single thing in the house gets done. I was really sick one day and my hubby wathced my son all day while I stayed in bed to recover. Again my son was well taken care of and given a lot of attention but the house looked like it had been hit by a hurricane...I don't think they realise that there is more to taking care of the lil one, like maintaining laundry and clean dishes....

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Leah, I could not have said that better! I feel the same way and have since I realized it to be that way! :)))

Stephanie - posted on 12/16/2010

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My husband is a very hard worker, and I'm very grateful that he lets me be a stay at home mom, while he goes off to work. I love what I do, and don't find it so tiring (at the moment). I just wish sometimes he would give me more breaks. I went shopping at night for Black Friday, and my 3 month old Would Not sleep for Daddy. My husband got really frustrated. Luckily his sister was at our place at the time.. to finally get my son back to sleep. The next day my husband was super nice to me. I think he realized how hard it is.. Especially in the middle of the night when you are sleep deprived, and baby won't stop crying... I'm just extremely lucky that my son is such a great sleeper! My hubby doesn't wake up to our son crying, ever, but I know he loves to spend time with him.... He just can't wait until he's older, less fragile, and able to tell him what he wants instead of trying to figure it out, lol.

Shauna - posted on 12/15/2010

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HA! My husband is great at playing with the baby when he comes home from work, but i honestly dont think i would want him to spend all day with our son!!!!! Im sure the baby would be fine, just woulndt have things done the way i would want them and im not sure what he would feed the baby, i would be scared to find out. Some guys are just better to be left with the manly stuff and let us women take care of the house.

Nikkole - posted on 12/14/2010

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My husband works 2nd shift 3pm-12am so he helps in the mornings but his help is sometimes not so good lol he will wake up with the kids once or twice a week and when he does he will lay on the couch and fall asleep and we have a 3yr old and 5month old our 3yr old is VERY well behaved and will sit and watch cartoons in the morning and my 5month old will be in her bouncy chair asleep and when i wake up im like HUNNY you CAN NOT FALL ASLEEP lol he tries but there was one time when i went to work and didnt get off till 10 and he was calling seeing when i was leaving because my son was crying for me LMAO i had to quit after working 4 days :P

Robyn - posted on 12/14/2010

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My husband works a 3 on/3 off schedule, so he is home with us about half the time. Sometimes, he "hides" in the bedroom most of the day because he can't handle the noise 4 kids make in everything they do. LOL But most of the time, he is a great dad and husband. He helps out around the house, plays with the kids, and gives me a break when I need it. He is really good about standing up for me if the kids don't like something I say, even if he doesn't necessarily agree with me. I love that I have a husband who is so good with our children!

Wendy - posted on 12/13/2010

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My husband sounds similar to this:



"My hubby is great with our son and extra kids all day! He was had our son, my best friend's 3 kids, and my much younger brother and sister for the day! Yes, that is 6 kids and 1 adult, out and about for the day! I think at the time they ranged in age from 6 -14. He did a GREAT JOB! Got love a man that can do that."



My husband would love to spend more time at home with our boys if he could. Even though I never expect or even ask him for help after he gets home from working long hours, he is still an amazing dad and very involved in their daily lives. If I wasn't able to care for our sons during the day, I could rest assured knowing that he would find a way to make it work. He never gets frustrated or appears overwhelmed. I wish I were half the person he is!

Jennifer - posted on 12/07/2010

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My hubby is great with our son and extra kids all day! He was had our son, my best friend's 3 kids, and my much younger brother and sister for the day! Yes, that is 6 kids and 1 adult, out and about for the day! I think at the time they ranged in age from 6 -14. He did a GREAT JOB! Got love a man that can do that.

Leah - posted on 12/07/2010

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Haha, I love it. I am also a stay at home mom with a working husband. He felt the same way until I had to leave for the weekend... He looked like he had been hit by a mack truck when I got home. I found this to be very amusing. He still thinks its easier for me bc I'm "used to it". He is a wonderful husband but I have come to the conclusion that all men, and I mean ALL men, are like this. They just cannot take the pressures that we can. They won't admit it, and thats okay. We know who really runs the house!!

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I worked for about a year while he stayed home with our daughter who was under a year and that whole time the house was always a mess and the dishes werent done. My daughter was never dressed just a diaper and a tshirt lol. Im not complaining... if she was alive I was happy. But everytime he says "I was a stay at home dad for a year and it was easy" Im like HELLO you didnt do everything I do... like clean and cook and get her ready. So of course it was easy to you! you made it easy! haha

Nelly - posted on 12/05/2010

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Now that the children are grown up, my husband really enjoys spending time with them, but when they were younger he complained that it was tiring and exhausting but he always made me feel that I was a wonderful mother and wife and to this day he always tells me that we have great kids because of my hard work

Brenda - posted on 12/04/2010

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My Husband was a stay at home Dad for 14 years. He was/is great with the kids (they are 19 and 15 now). I think the difference is when some Dads work and come home they want to sit and be quiet; but when I came home (as tired as I was), I just wanted to play with the kids and be around them. Most Dads are good with a day or two but they are just not made to handle it all. My Husband does say that working is easier HEHE.

Sarah - posted on 12/04/2010

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My Husband works all day all week sometimes he just has sundays off. but he knows what it is like to stay home all day with our two yr old and one yr old but i have to say he manged it really good he cleaned the house cooked and has them all cleaned up as well i was proud of him i asked him how he did it without having a hard time like i do he said he turned on Nick Jr fed them and gave them a snack that was all Geez he says he dont know why moms say its so hard to stay home all day i told him the kids dont see him so much so when they do they love every minute of it and decide to be really good for daddy!

Kristian Amber - posted on 12/01/2010

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My husband and I just got married this past February and he just loves my boys! I met him when my oldest was about 4 months old and he used to babysit him for me so I could work. Now the boys are 7 1/2 and 5 this Sunday, and we are expecting our little girl in March. He loves hanging out with the boys. Anytime that he's home, if he goes somewhere he'll take one or both boys, and if I need to do something he'll watch them. They have a lot of fun together and to them he is their dad. They call him dad and show a lot of respect to him. I can't wait to see how he is with our little one! I know he'll be great with the baby too. It is easier with the older boys, they all play games together and they help him with different chores that he does around the house on his days off. I feel really lucky to have a guy (finally) that appreciates family time and loves being around all of us and spending time with the kids!

Lynn - posted on 11/28/2010

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My husband doesnt often have our child on his own. He works full time, so any time he is not at work, if i want a break from our son, he and I go out, and get a babysitter. Although every now and then when he comes home, he can tell i have had a long day, and tells me to go lay down and take a nap or read and I jump at the opportunity. Our son is 4, so he just watches tv with him, or goes in his room and plays trains with him... Now my husbands cousin just had a child a year ago next month, and he is a stay at home dad 3 of the 7 days a week. And he loves it...

Nikki - posted on 11/27/2010

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Mine freaks out if I am Gone more than 5 minutes I am a SAHM and he works we have a 2 yo and a 1 yo

Celissa - posted on 11/27/2010

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My husband would love it! He loves to hang out with our baby! He works 5, 10 hour day's right now (usually 4 - 10's) and when he comes home he's exhausted. He always takes Jace though and lets me do what ever I need to do. He pretty much takes him over on the weekends too. Most the time anyway. He's been alone all day with him a few times and he did great. He's a really good daddy. =) He always tells me I'm lucky to get to be at home with him. I'd have to agree. I love being a SAHM. =)

Samantha - posted on 11/16/2010

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multi task. lol exactly. That's what I tell mine but for some reason he just can't. lol What takes me 1-2 hours to do... takes him alll day.

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My husband has breakdowns. After one day he's losing his mind, the house is a disaster, the kids are fighting, and he's wondering what went wrong. I tell him he just needs to learn to multitask! :) Yeah, right...

Katie - posted on 11/16/2010

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My husbands great with our 7 month old daughter, however he hasn't stayed home with her all day. He's taken her grocery shopping and to church by himself, and that's about it. If it was up to him, he would love some alone time with her, I'm just not ready to part with her. However whenever he gets home from work, he always takes her and gives me a break to do whatever I need to do, or just take a nap. He's a wonderful husband as well as father.

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