Help my 14 yr old daughter just told me she smokes pot!

Kimberly - posted on 01/24/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I was and always have been scared for this day to happen. The point that she is doing drugs, terrifies me because well, obviously there is alot of stuff out there that can ruin your life... I am proud of her telling me, but at the same time it hurts me deeply, I thought I was being a better parent than that...

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Melanie - posted on 04/28/2009

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most kids try it. but some stick with forever i have some friends who did it at that age and they never made it through school they quit....i feel long time usage comes from something wrong and bothering them in there home life or school life ...try to see whats bothering her and yes it is a gateway to try other drugs for sure good luck

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hi Kimberly... I too am sorry that u are going thru this.  Like everyone else said...BE THANKFUL for the fact that she trusted to tell you. THATS HUGE!  Take it from sum one who did smoke pot......it truly is what they call it..... the gate key to using other drugs. Once they try pot... which seems harmless, they try other drugs with the same attitude. I dont have some great wisdom to help you with your daughter just my own experience, I did try other drugs, not many, but i was too scared to do anything like acid. I know this day will come for me, i have a 13yr old... I have heard of parents taking their kids to see a drug rehab facility... that usually straightens them out into thinking that could happen to them. There is movies out there to help you and your kid figure this out. Keep us posted.

Kimberly - posted on 02/06/2009

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Thanks for the support, it is good to know I am not alone and yes I am very happy that my daughter did tell me. I know she is under alot of stress right now. That is the reason she gave me for even trying it in the first place.  i just hope and pray that that is the worst drug she tries. It is a scary world out there, much worse than I can remember as a teen. It pays to be open and honest with your kids. I was once told that  a person cant be a parent AND a friend, but honestly I believe that a persons kids should be your BEST friend....

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I can completely relate as I had the same thing happen right before Thanksgiving. My daughter confessed to smoking cigarettes and pot. She says she isn't doing either anymore but I am not sure I believe that. I also had the feeling of "where did I go wrong"? We talk to her about all of this stuff and how bad it is for her, especially as her body is developing but she still tried it. Be proud that she told you, that indicates a GOOD PARENT! And remember that we are responsible for the effort not the outcome. We can only control so much of their lives, they are going to make their own decisions and we do the best we can to give them the tools to make the right ones. Hang in there!

Lory - posted on 01/25/2009

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Hi Kimberly, I am sorry you are going through this. Please do not feel you are not being a good parent. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, it's impossible to protect them from everything in the world. You did something right, though...she trusted you enough to tell you that she was smoking pot. However, you must not allow her to misuse that trust to keep herself from getting caught by the law. In my experience, teens do not think things through; if she knows about the consequences of drugs, both physical and lawful, she will have more information to make better decisions. If she trusted you enough to tell you, she most likely trust that you know what you're talking about and may have been seeking someone to confirm what she already knows: that drugs are bad all the way around. Good luck in dealing with this and please post again soon!

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