How do I get my teenage daughter out of bed to go to school

Annalee - posted on 09/22/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I get tired of every morning telling my 16 year old its time to get up. She used to be so good at getting up and being ready but this year has been different. Any suggestions?

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Suszanne - posted on 08/27/2010

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We have a system that gives the kids ample time to get up. We are foster parents, so we have a large mix of children in our home at any given time. We call on the children 3 times each morning. We don't yell, we don't whine, we simply say "First Call" - we don't even turn on the light yet. Then 10 minutes later we give "Second Call". I start breakfast and when it's ready, I give a "Third Call". Anyone who wants to eat with us comes to the table at that point. This system makes our mornings so peaceful. The system is not perfect, but it does go a long way to make our day start out so much nicer.

Good luck in whatever you do!

Aramanth - posted on 04/25/2010

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My daughters are 14 and 15 and find it very hard to get up in the mornings.

We sat down and worked out the latest they had to get up in order to be ready for school. Then set the alarm 30 minutes BEFORE then. I go in and call them 15 minutes after the alarm goes off. 10 minutes later I turn on their bedroom light and they KNOW they then have 5 minutes to get out of bed and ready for the day.

They also do things to make their mornings easier - for instance, they lay out their clothes (school uniforms required at their school) so that they don't have to search for anything in the morning, it's all there for them. They also shower or have a bath at night, that way they can just do a quick wash in the morning and be ready to go without having to factor in showering and drying hair.

Jodi - posted on 04/02/2010

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I found out my daughter was sneaking the computer at night and that's why she was tired. It may be just "beauty" sleep but only you know your daughter. If it is only that she needs her sleep, then definately don't hesitate to send her to bed earlier. Most teens require 10 hours of sleep. Good luck!

Mandy - posted on 09/22/2010

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i like suzanne's idea. that sound like a really good idea and im going to try that out on my daughter. Usually when kids complain about getting up it is because they are sneaking and staying up later then they're suppose to. otherwise, has your daughter's behavior changed at all. something at school or with her friends might be bothering her. is she's feeling a little down? or maybe it's hormones. you know the world's against me and i feel so depressed i cant possibly get out of bed teenage drama. tell her to stop be emo and get out of bed because it's a beautiful day and the worlds not going to end just because she's a teeneger lol. or if you get her talking maybe she really does have a serious problem and she is depressed. no one knows better than her why she won't get up in the morning any more. ask her. if that doesn't work you might want to ask her doc about things you can do to get her back on her regular sleep cycle.

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Christina - posted on 03/11/2012

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i never had this prob with my teen daughter. i have it with my 8 year old son. buy a spray bottle and put water in it. it only took a few days for him to get up when being told in the morning. now hes ussualy up before us.

Felicia - posted on 03/09/2012

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Hydrolics under the bed is my next option! Like the ones they use on the cars!

Samantha - posted on 03/07/2012

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you guys and your parents are awesome...from when I was about 7th grade my parents just slept in and I had to wake up, get ready, make breakfast, eat, and get out in time all by myself...only the TV as my companion.

Lala - posted on 02/05/2012

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Send her to bed earlier, take phone and PC at nite. Set her alarm that wakes her up in time. If she cant get up on time on school days, then send her to bed early on weekends. I wish KI had this problem mine is so much bigger. I am actually successful in this department

Ramona - posted on 08/13/2010

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I am big on letting natural consequeses take over. So, you try and she refuses to listen. If she is late to school, then there are detentions, etc... that will be doled out. And, my rule was, if you were late to school, then you had to be in bed 30 minutes earlier than usual. The next time an hour!

Jenni - posted on 05/03/2010

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Hej Ana,
Does your daughter went with your car, school bus or walk to school? I often sat down w my teen daughter, 15.5 yrs old, and since I work from hme, she has to decide, got to school with private car n feeling comfy or go w school bus and wake-up/ leave early? She sees the pros and the cons, and she said w private car, and I say okay then we agree abt the timing, and she sets her own alarm 30 mins before leaving time to school. She woke up, dressed up and am waiting ready w b/fast n her lunch packed.. times-up, off she go! IF she lates 5 mins, I deduct USD5, 10 mins 10USD and so on.. before she was complaining loosing her allowance (imagine the whole wks?), now she doesn't because she's on time :) it works for me, but am not sure if workable with other teens. Hugs, jenni

Amy - posted on 03/25/2010

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I like the Cow Bell idea from Sabrina : ) Anyways I have the same problem with my 18 year old daughter. She has the hardest time getting out of bed for school. She rides the bus and a lot of times she misses it so then I have to drive 5 miles to get her there and it really frustrates me!
Have you tried an earlier bedtime, or taking things away that are important to her like cell phone or i-pod or electronic games, computers?

Sabrina - posted on 10/01/2009

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lol. those hormones demand sleep dont they? ahhhh....
well, i say, put the alarm clock ...2 if you have to....on the opposite side of the bedroom so she has to get up.
now, if she s like my kidlett, she can sleep through the annoying buzz. sooooo, i resort to the old school ways on my dad.
pull off the covers, may be a little invasive, so just take the pillow out from under her head. OPEN THE BLINDS! let the sun shine in. open the window. a little chill for a min, is ok, like coffee for teens,gets the blood flowing! whooohooo!
now, my dad, silly as he is...use to make chicken and rooster noises. sometimes, barking noises and meowing. i think he used a rubber chicken once to scare me awake. he would call out...the bus! the buss is here! never mind i walked to school! lol
sometimes I use a bell...its a COW BELL, bought it at target. painted her name on it as a bit of a joke and threatened to use it. I will if i must.

basically, dad had the right idea. he caused an entire sensory shift with humor, ( probably for his own sanity) in about 60 seconds flat!

If im feeling nice and motivated I threaten her with a hot plate of pancakes .... she had to come get it anyway.

one last tactic, as a student of child development and a busy mom....
something called "natural consequnces"
you make the choice, you deal with the consequences.
tough stuff eh? i prefer the rubber chicken on the pillow. barking was neat too.

Jennifer - posted on 09/22/2009

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Ummm, threaten to take away her myspace or her cell? Oh! My mom once poured a glass of cold water on my face.... believe me I was mad but I was up!

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