Brandy - posted on 02/09/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )
I am 19 raising my 14 year old sister.
She is a mess.
I've had her since October 2010 and things just get progressively worse as the time goes by. I can't get her to respect me as an authority figure or to do what I ask. And my demands aren't unreasonable.
She has a list of chores daily. For example, yesterday her chores were to put the laundry in the dryer and start another load (5 minutes), unload the dishwasher (10 minutes) and vacuum the living room (5 minutes). I work a crazy shift that starts anywhere between 2&4pm and I get home anywhere between 11&130 Saturday through Wednesday. So I'm not there to crack a whip and micromanage her, so nothing gets done.
also she is terrible in school. she is very intelligent and speaks her mind.Sometimes she speaks her mind too much, which makes me wondering she has a social filter at all. I think her vice principal has me on speed dial.
I can't get her up in the mornings either. I've tried a reward/punishment system and understanding and tough love. Nothing works.Every morning I get some new ailment she has developed overnight and a debate as to why she shouldn't have to go to school. in our state you can only have 15 days excused or unexcused that you can miss before you fail your grade and your parent goes to jail. She is sitting at 12 right now, and only two of them were legitimate sick days.
Any suggestions would be helpful, though this is the tip of the iceberg.