Nose piercings!?

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Help, please. I'm new here and I'd like some outside thoughts on a big confrontation going on between me and my 16 year old dd. She's an awesome kid, we've always gotten along, excellent student, very responsible, mature for her age. She has 2 ear cartilage piercings, as well as 2 ear lobe piercings in each ear. I have no problems with pierced ears. Suddenly she wants her nose pierced. She wants studs on each side of her nose. Sorry, I don't mean to offend anyone with nose piercings but I just don't like them at all. I told my daughter she could do it when she's 18 but she's having a fit and wants it right now. She has bad allergies and allergy season is approaching. I see infection, blowing the studs out, etc. She says she knows she will eventually take them out when she has to (like for getting a job, which she plans to do this summer!) but claims there will be absolutely no scars and it will be no big deal. I've looked online and this just isn't true. It depends on the person and their skin whether there are scars. Oh, she's also been prone to keloid-type bumps at the sites of her ear cartilage piercings. I am imagining those on either side of her nose now when I look at her. Yuck. Initially I think this obsession began with a friend of hers wanting her nose pierced. My daughter told her friend that she did, too, but when she got hers done, she was going to get 2 piercings to be 'different'. Well, the friend decided that's what she would do, too. So my daughter wants it NOW so she'll have it before the friend who she feels has stolen her idea, her style. We've talked this out and discussed how this is NOT a good reason for wanting a piercing. She claims now that she doesn't care about the friend or what she does but just wants to do it because she's a teen and will never have the opportunity to express herself this way later in life once in college or in a career. She cries herself to sleep because she's so angry about my saying no. I truly don't understand what has created this total obsession or why this is so important to her and she hasn't explained it to me either. I don't like her thinking that how she looks is the only way she can express who she is. Yes, yes, I know that this is how nearly all teens think--it's all about their looks. But why couldn't it just be a haircut or color or clothing? Can someone help me by arguing either for or against this double nose piercing so I can look at this from a fresh perspective? It's starting to damage our relationship which is hurting both of us. Am I being foolish for saying no or is she being foolish for getting so obsessed? Thanks very much for your input.

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Nancy - posted on 10/15/2012

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I think she is old enough to take care of one. If you're not sure, research infections with you're daughter.

Let her be who SHE wants to be, not who YOU want her to be

Mandy - posted on 09/22/2010

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well all i know is that your daughter is not going to listen to anyone tell her about how painfull it is, how annoying it is, or how ugly. your daughter thinks that its the coolest most beautiful thing in the world and whether its now or later she seems to have made up her mind. if she's doing as well as you say she is why not meet he half way. let her have one tastefull piercing on one side of her nose. she'll have to have a larger nose ring in the begining until the sweeling goes down, but see if she would put a nicer smaller less noticable stud in later. some of those suckers are really small and not so bad looking either. unless it's the one that looks like the thing they stick in the bulls nose. those are a little to much and i totally agree that she shouldnt have that done until only she has to look at it everyday. when shes out of your house! as for her allergies tell her if she cant be patient and at least wait until allergy season is over its a definite no and she only has herself to blame for for the answer you gave her. also with the scaring she isnt going to listen and it wont make her change her mind. I know that when i tried to pierce my own nose at 16 the hole closed after i got sick of it and took it out and i did have a tiny scar. there are no raised bumps just a little discolored area that i can cover easily with make up and thats all its ever been. no worse than that.

Cecilia - posted on 03/04/2013

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Well you have two options. #1 hide it. Take it out when you're around here. Don't speak of it at all.

or #2 Tell her. Explain that it doesn't make you a bad person. That you still love your little sisters and would like to be a part of their life. If they want you to remove it when around your siblings, agree. It's a simple request. If it's been done for about a month it would need to be out for more than 24 hours for it to close. If she does fully blow it out of the water with her reaction, remind her that you are family and love each other and being hurtful doesn't help.

As far as how can you make her okay with your choices... I don't think you can. My foster mother still looks at me in a certain way. she doesn't respect my choices most of the time. I just shrug it off (it takes practice but it can be done) realize you don't approve of all of her choices either.

But make another thread of your own and more people will be able to answer your question more directly.

Amy - posted on 01/03/2013

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nose piercings, you either love them or hate them. I think your doing the right thing, telling her to wait when she's older. its not like you've let her get nothing done, she's got piercings on her ears. hopefully she soon understand that your doing the right for her

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Anna - posted on 07/08/2014

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Wow I had my daughters nose pierced when she was 12 she wanted one, so I said yes

Cyrae - posted on 11/14/2013

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Hello,
I really would like to help you see both sides. I am a mother now however my parents let me get my nose pierced when I was 15. I was the type of kid if they said no, I would have been fine with it. I started working that summer and forgot to put it back in so it closed up. I am 28 now and decided to get a little diamond in about 2 months ago. It is such a quick process and does not hurt at all( everyone's pain tolerance is different). I never had a scar or problem from before. Honestly, most people that have issues with their piercings take it out to soon or do not properly care for it. The moral of the story is if it's just a little piercing, I wouldn't mind because if they are active or really responsible they will probably let it close up due to their activities. I think the real issue is the reason they want the piercing. I just thought it was cute personally. I also was not one to give in to peer pressure, my parents knew everything I did was because I wanted to. If you notice they want the piercing to fit in, want tons of piercings, or isolating themselves the nose piercing is the least of your problems. They may have serious issues going on. I agree with picking your battles and a TINY piercing at a reasonable age( 15 or 16) is a minor way of expressing themselves which is very normal.

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QUESTION FOR MOTHERS OF 20 YEAR OLDS: I am a 20 year old daughter raised in a very conservative family. I had some pretty traumatic things happen to me throughout highschool and as a result became a reject of the school. I am now living happily as a punk in my own apartment. I have weird hair and no fashion sense but I'm finally happy. Anyway, I just pierced the side of my nose last night without my mothers knowledge. I am very nervous to see her again because she doesn't know and would completely overreact. I use the term "overreact" loosely, as she was raised southern baptist so I guess it's just normal for her. How can I make her okay with my choices and not alienate me from my little sisters (which has been done in the past and still continues today.) I'm very lost right now, please help.

Cecilia - posted on 12/28/2012

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when i was a teen i also did my nose. the studs wont come out when you blow your nose. If you are concerned they do have backs for them. They are pretty steady. i got keloids on my upper ear also and my nose didn't do that and it closed and no one can tell it was ever done. Maybe it has to do with cartilage... The nose you're just doing tissue unless you do a barbell across the nose..

I'd say at this point be glad she is asking you and respecting you by not just doing it anyways ( i did that and as an adult i realize i could have really hurt myself by letting a friend shove an earring through my nose)

Either way it's up to you to pick what is best for your daughter. I see nothing wrong with making her wait. By the time the ordeal is over she might forget all about it and never do it.

PJC - posted on 12/02/2012

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well - I cannot offer advice to anyone, as each person and family and so forth is different. I just wanted to explain my situation. I have a 14 year old daughter who has emotional disorders and is obsessed with her looks and has low self esteem very badly. She has wanted piercings since she was 11 !!! So feel grateful your daughter is asking you at 16 and not 13. After two years of nagging me, I let her get her belly button pierced (she really wants her face pierced) and a week ago I let her get her nose septum pierced. That to me is very extreme, and I realize that most almost 15 year olds do not have this, but I do not have a normal kid. I had to hold her off two years!! I know by the time she is 18 she will probably have multiple things going on. She has OCD and severe emotional disorders. She takes "NO" to those types of things very personal, like your daughter, like I do not accept her for who she is or what she wants to be like. To her it has nothing to do with age, but with acceptance. It may be helpful to offer a compromise to her...say one nose piercing instead of two. She seems old enough to me and I do realize it has become very trendy for piercings (I hate them personally but I'm 45 and I grew up in a different era) My older very conservative 18 almost 19 year old daughter just got her earlobes and nose pierced, and it looks fine. You may discover its not as ugly or big a deal if she gets it done. And likely when she is older, she will pull it out and it will close up...when they grow out of it. At least with one, you can buy your time for the 2nd one later (she may not even want it later) and see how it heals etc. it takes responsible care and it hurts and if it gets infected and she pulls it out, there is no chance of another one and she will learn a new lesson. Nose studs are pretty common and considered cute - be glad she isnt radical like my 14 year old wanting angel bites, septum piercing, etc !! I wish I was in your shoes!



Good luck to you. She just wants to look cool :)

Gina - posted on 11/23/2012

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My daughter has just turned 17, she knew that we wouldn't allow her to have a noise peircing, we did say when shes 18 and left home she can do what she likes. Anyway shes text me to say shes had it done and won't take it out. I have a slightly younger daughter whose been pushing for her belly button to be peirced and we have said the same thing, shes going to kick off big style if we let the eldest keep her nose peircing. I don't like then but I don't have problems when I see other people have them but I asked my daughter to wait, shes gone behind my back and I have told her she takes it out lets it heal up and when shes older she can think about it then. She has no idea what her future holds she cannot wear it to cadets and its caused arguments and I am cluless whetehr I am doing the right thing by making her take it out.

Becca - posted on 11/05/2012

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I know im not a mom and should probably should not be on here. i am 14 and have wanted a nose peircing scince i was 9 all i want is a small dimond stud and my mom thinks scince i have sensitive skin it will get infected or something but i think if i promise i will clean it every morning night evening or any or my freetime it should be fine.i think it is our body and we should be able to do what we want with it and if we have the money saved we should be able to get it i even found a little tiny rinstone and stuck it to my nose with fake flesh(from halloween)on my nose to show her it is barley noticable i think another reason she doesnt like the idea is because i am a tom boy and like to horse around i love to play football and ect. but i think that she thinks it will get hit in my oppinion it enhances your outter beauty its not different than make up it is removeable so if you dont want her to were it if you are going somewhere formal she doesnt have to my cousin got her nose peirced and then my aunt liked it so much and thought it was so cute that she had to have one all you guys are moms so im just trying to change the perspective of the way you guys see it okay thank you very much but my mom is coming so byee;)

Jessica - posted on 09/06/2012

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I think that is it not disgusting and actually think it is beautiful. As long as my child (almost 16) is responsible and respectful then i have no problem with her getting the piercing. No you are not being foolish for disagreeing with her, but i also don't think she is being foolish for being obsessed with it. To me, she doesn't seem too young for the piercing because she is old enough to get a piercing then she is old enough for other responsibilities as well. For example, if she scars that is not your problem. She knew of the possibility, therefor, she should be able to deal with it. If there is infection, also not your fault. Same with if she loses it. It closes up or any other problem. I like to put my personal opinion aside because she is old enough to know the consequences of her actions.

Shelly - posted on 06/10/2012

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I am just soaking up all this conversation. My 14 year old wants her nose pierced and has for about a year. My gut instinct is that if she gets a tiny one, that it's no big deal. I don't feel it's a battle worth fighting. I do fear, howeve, that it will lead to wanting more and that I am not ok with. Her dad thinks it is trashy on a kid and doesn't want her to get it done. I am tempted to agree to let her on her 16th bday but she wants it's so very badly. I feel it can be taken out so really it is temporary. She is going through some other social issues (relocation and lack of acceptance by the cliques). I honestly do not think this is why she wants to get it done but I do fear it will isolate her even more...like she will be stereotyped (inaccurately) as some rebel, goth or emo chick. Its bad enough that her preferred wardrobe is classic rock tshirts (Zeplin, Doors, Beatles). You'd think she was some burn out teen but she is certainly not. She's just trying to find her way. Ugh!

Shelly - posted on 06/10/2012

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I am just soaking up all this conversation. My 14 year old wants her nose pierced and has for about a year. My gut instinct is that if she gets a tiny one, that it's no big deal. I don't feel it's a battle worth fighting. I do fear, howeve, that it will lead to wanting more and that I am not ok with. Her dad thinks it is trashy on a kid and doesn't want her to get it done. I am tempted to agree to let her on her 16th bday but she wants it's so very badly. I feel it can be taken out so really it is temporary. She is going through some other social issues (relocation and lack of acceptance by the cliques). I honestly do not think this is why she wants to get it done but I do fear it will isolate her even more...like she will be stereotyped (inaccurately) as some rebel, goth or emo chick. Its bad enough that her preferred wardrobe is classic rock tshirts (Zeplin, Doors, Beatles). You'd think she was some burn out teen but she is certainly not. She's just trying to find her way. Ugh!

User - posted on 05/26/2012

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I felt the same way about it not being a battle I wanted to fight, but my daughter chose to do them and now at 18 1/2 she has gauges in her ears, her nose peirced in 3 spots, above and below her lips and the latest is her cheecks. YES her checks. I wish I would have stood my ground when she was younger. She is such a beautiful girl inside and out(was scouted for a model when younger) but I can't help but only see her piercings when I look at her.
Good Luck Moms

Sheryl - posted on 10/02/2010

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Oh boy!! My daughter is now 18...same as you, at 16 for some reason she wanted a cute little diamond in her nose!!! Well, both me and her dad said NO...nothing to your face! She was persistent, and finally I said over my dead body will you do anything to your face.....her friends mom(a lawyer) said...i would not hire you! I think that got to her. I told her she could get a belly button piercing instead...Of course she did not want that at the time. There was a period of time where she would not let it go! I think it is there way of trying to find themselves...wanting to be different/rebelling. Well she decided to do the belly button and loves it still 2 years later! After a while she just saw that I was not gonna budge on this.
She did make one comment that haunted me..."you know mom, when I am 18 I can do what ever I want!"
Well, she is 18 1/2 now, and just mentioned it to me the other day. She simply said..."I still think about getting my nose pierced" I said nothing.
Bottom line....Hold your ground...she is 16! You still have control. Don't know if this helped...but i hope so

Cari - posted on 09/09/2010

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I got my daughter's nose done about 6 months ago (she'll be 15 in a week), it obviously hurt A LOT because she passed out, and the guy that pierced it "professional" must have expected it, cause he caught her head from hitting the tray next to the bed. I personally would not do the nose. Your the mom, you make the decision, but it depends on your lifestyle. =) Happy Piercing.

Suszanne - posted on 08/27/2010

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You really need to pick your battles on this one. We use the mantra: "if it's not life-threatening or morally threatening, it can be discussed". On a personal note, my daughter had to earn the money outside the home for all her own piercings. She has a very small jewel in her nose and several ear cartilage piercings. She paid for all of them. I had my nose pierced and it hurt a lot and 6 months after the piercing, it wasn't healed, so I took out the jewelry and never looked back. I have a small scar that hurts when touched, but no one who doesn't know I had a piercing can tell it's there.

So in short, is this something you want to fight with your daughter over? If not, have her earn the money for the cost and the jewelry and have her do the research on nose piercings. She may be adamant, but then again she may reconsider.

Good Luck!

Val - posted on 08/24/2010

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my 15yr old daughter lauren used to go on about getting her nose peirced and her belly button done,it always ended up in an argument until one day we were going to town and she started going on about having her nose done,so i said ok come on then i will take you she said nothing for a few minutes then said no ill go another time and i said no its ok well go now seeing as were near the shop but she mumbled no she would have it done when she was a little older so my bluff worked with her it also helped me as i know lauren doesnt like needles and i was telling her how much it hurt having it done.

Anne Marie - posted on 06/27/2010

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I agree with the mom's that say pick your battles. I have a 16 year old daughter who wants her lip peirced. I have the same issues many of the other mom's have here but I also know that my daughter will just go and get it done by who ever where ever, the school bathroom if she has too. I would rather pick the place she has it done. i know this is part of her rebellion as a teenager and I have confidence in her as she is generally very responsible as it sound like you daughter is, that she will take care of it. I have sever relationship problems with my daughter and really a piercing is the least of my concerns. I think my daughter is depressed and has other emotional issues, this won't cure them but it may help her to open up if she realizes that I am willing to meet her part way. My husband is totally against it and I am just trying to convince him that this is the way to go. What is more important that we have a clean place to do the peircing or that she gets it done in who knows what conditions, and what type of infections can she pick up if not done in a clean environment, as a nurse some of these infections can be life long, take your pick the possiblility of a scar or an infection, cause she will be able to find someone to do it for her. i wish you luck and know what you are going through as I am going through it myself.

Cindy - posted on 06/26/2010

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I let my daughter get one for her 16th birthday. She, how is deathly afraid of needles, said it didn't hurt at all. Just after she got the piercing, she got her first job and they would not let her wear it while working. So she had to take it out before her shift everyday and it was hard at times to put it back in. After about a month, she lost the ring and didn't replace it. Though she loved it, I think it was the idea of having one that she liked the most. I haven't noticed if it left a scar, though I'm sure she would have told me about it if it did.
You can always compromise with her. My daughter's was the smallest stud and it was kind of cute. If you decide to let her have it done, agree to only one to make sure she likes it and when she turns 18 she can have the other side done if she still wants to.
It's ridiculous all the things that these girls want to do to their body not realizing that they will probably regret it later on, but sometimes, you just have to pick your battles. There are some things that I tell her she has to wait until 18, or even when she is no longer in my house cuz I don't want to see it, like a tongue ring, and she doesn't argue with me. Like I said, I believe it's because you just have to pick your battles and stay firm on your decisions. She'll respect you for it!

Alycia - posted on 06/15/2010

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she's 16, I think if she wants a piercing she's old enough to make the decision herself, they're just small studs on her nose, there's definitly worse piercings out there.
Most jobs have no problem with small piercings like ears and nose or even eye brows and if it dose interfear with getting a job then she could always just take them out during her shifts.
Kids will be kids and pretty soon she'll be out of the house. I think you should let her.

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My stepdaugher wanted her nose pierced as well.Only one hole! She is 15 and had been asking for a couple months. She cannot wear earrings cause her ears get infected. She does well in school, is very responsible, has already figured out what she wants to be when older and which university she will go to.,she babysits and the money she gets is split between her new puppy, university,tithe and spending. So Her dad and I agreed to let her get it done. I got it done too. We did it ourselves, at home. I took mine out cause it was bugging me (I had my nose pierced twice before). But hers is still in and she didn't get any infection or didn't lose it. It has been a little over 3 months now. She is still happy with it! Now if she wanted two holes, I would have said "no" just cause it wouldn`t look proper. One hole/piercing is more acceptable then two! And as for the scarring, like I said,I had mine done 3 times now and I don`t see any scars! Anyway... this was our choice1

Angie - posted on 06/10/2010

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My 12 year old step daughter is getting hers done at the end of the month when mommy dearest gets her child support. My husband is very against it and has told his daughter he has huge issues with it. We have decided that she is not allowed to wear the peircing at our home. I have a 14 year old daughter at home that wants hers done now because the younger daughter is getting it done. NO WAY! We have told our kids that they can do whatever to their bodies they want once they are 18 and no longer living under our roof, but until then no destroying thier faces! We are not against body piercing in general as our girls have their ears done and cartledge too. I used to have multiple piercings and we both have a couple tattoos. We just feel that kids are too young to make such choices that could leave scars or lead to wring ideas about them. Sorry....just my opinion!

Angeline - posted on 04/21/2010

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sometimes it's hard because nothin is right and nothin is wrong. i have always let my children be who they want to be but i always ask them for ten reasons why the want to do it and i give them ten reason why i don't think they should. so i ask them if we can meet in the middle and figure out a solution so we both can be okay. we need to always think about how they feel and what we should do as parents. as a parent always remember they could want something way worse.

Joanna - posted on 04/20/2010

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I had my nose pierced at the age of 19, i had only had it in for a couple of weeks before it became infected and i had to remove it. However i think the reason for this was because i caught a cold a few days after having the piercing. One of my daughters will 14 in a couple of weeks and she's desperate to have her nose pierced I do not have a problem with it atall but the school does, the dress code only allows ear piercings. Also her dad is not keen either. Do other schools allow nose piercings then?

Shirley - posted on 03/03/2010

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if your daughter play school sports, she'll be required to remove it. And while it's possible to replace it with a plastic temp.once it's been in for 2-3 months. it's painful and doesn't always work, making it a painful messy re-entry..she may want to cosider that before any piercings.

Adrianne - posted on 02/14/2010

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my daughter wanted it done. I had done my own nose. I did hers. she left it in for about 6 months and let it close up. Everything is NOW fine!! Amazing how things run there course.
if u let her get one make sure it is extremely small!!

Teaque - posted on 02/08/2010

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My daughter got her nose pierced for her 16th birthday.She said it wasn't painful.I really didn't want her to do it.She only keep it in for about one month.She got a bump on her nose panicked at took t out.Sometimes we just have to be parents and not feel guilty.I hope this helps.

Katie - posted on 11/30/2009

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My daughter is 17. She bugged me when she was 11 to get her ears pierced so when she turned 12 I took her to have them pierced. She wore earrings for a short time and then quit wearing them. Her ears have closed up now. About 6 months ago she asked for her lip to be pierced. I said no that she could do it when she turned 18 and used the same arguments everyone here has used. I finally gave in if her dad said it was okay. Dad gave her permission and she pierced her lip. It only lasted about a month. She took it out one night for work and was not able to get it back in, it closed up. She wasn't very happy about it but has not had it redone either. I think the novelty wore off. Some battles are worth fighting and some are not. My daughter is an honor student, works part-time, is very mature and responsible. I would say ask yourself if this is really worth fighting over? Weigh the pro's and con's, every child is different.

Tami - posted on 10/24/2009

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I think this is a hard thing to help you with. I have facial piercings nose, tounge, and a labret (chin). I have had these piercings for over 16 years. I have never had any problems with any of them and when I remove them for occasions where they might not be appropriate you can't tell they are there at all. Of course there was some pain involved when getting them but it is not horrible and lasts for less then a second if you go somewhere reputable to have it done. (The tounge would be the exception to this.) When my fourteen year old daughter asked me if she could get her eyebrow pierced I was slightly concerned about what the healing would be like on the fleshy part of the face but she didn't seem concerned about it. Needless to say I took her to have it done and she had no problems what so ever. She is a girl that plays sports year round and she found out that it just wasn't practical when she had to keep taking it out and putting it back in again. She had it for about three months and then let it close up. My daughter decided she would get it done again when she was done playing sports. That was two years ago and I am happy to say she is still piercing free, getting ready to graduate a year early, on the honor roll, and pretty much still the best kid I know. I guess what I am saying is you can make this as big a deal as you want to, but there are bigger battles.

Kerri - posted on 10/23/2009

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Well, my oldest daughter got her nose pierced when she was 15. She eventually took it out and it healed up just fine. I agree with you totally that every person is different and just because her nose healed w/o a scar does not mean that every person out there will be so lucky.

That is your right as her parent to tell her no. I know that other parents let their children get their ears gauged and personally I think that looks disgusting.

If you do not want her to get it done, I would just try and stick to your guns. She will be 18 soon enough :-)

Tara - posted on 10/22/2009

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My 13 year old has wanted to get her nose peirced for the past year ,I originally said no but she is a good kid who is good in school doesnt get into trouble etc. She has made the argument that im a hippocrit because I had my eybrow done when I was 18 and i have my nose pierced for several years and my tongue done for 11 years now .i am relieved that her nose is all she is asking for as her little friends have there tongues done...are you kidding that is terrible any way I think we are gonna wait for the nose until she is 14,By the way out of all the peircings Iv had done Nose,belly buuton eybrow ,tongue ,the nose is the least painful and realy the only thing my child will be getting while she lives in my house

Rebecca - posted on 09/15/2009

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i have 2 nose pierceings and the only way they are painful if u have a stud put in instead of a hoop the hoops dont hurt as bad and as for that it depends on the persons pain tolerence i got my 2nd one done a year after i turned 35 and well i havent had no problems with them... she is 16 and i have a 15 yr old who wants hers done and i told her no that she can wait till she is 18 and leaves my house i dont have anything against it but as for the job interviews ya it would be a problems cause if u cant get it in by yourself u have to have it dont professionally usually isnt that much to get done either but that is a choice that u and her need to come to terms on good luck i would tell her no not till she is 18 at least . and can do it herself . she wants one so bad my mom didnt like that i got mine done but like i was out of the house and 35 yrs old too so its a matter of choice us kids dont do a lot of things u moms like for us not to do.

Vicki - posted on 09/13/2009

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Well, in my case, my daughter did win me over! As her present for her 16th b-day, I took her to get her belly button pierced. Yes, belly button. Luckily she changed her mind on the nose (for now) because of school dress code, job interviews, etc. Like Diane said, we checked into a couple of places before deciding where to have it done. There are some differences in the way it is done & some shops I wouldn't eat a sandwich in let alone have something pierced/tattooed in. LOL! Good luck to all who are facing this decision & may you make the "right" choice for your family.

Diane - posted on 09/13/2009

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Hi Terri,
I have a seventeen yr old (going on 30) lol...any ways when she was 13 she wanted her nose pierced, I told her no not till she was 14 at least. she was ok with it, then I relized she has a nickle allergy, I decided to go ahead and do it sooner with her, so if she had a reaction it was during summer break and she would't have to deal with it at school. I did put a few restrictions on though...only one side, she agreed, only small studs or gems, she agreed, and absouluty no hoops. she was fine with all of it, so we went to the body piercing shop and had it done. yes it will hurt, your nosal cavity, and membraes are very sensitive, her eyes will water, but the pain really depends on each person pain tolerance. everyone is different. she has never had any ill effects and never has had anything come out of the hole. she now has her eyebrow pierced and is going tuesday for her dimples.(cheeks). I am not thrilled about it, but this way I know what shop she is going to it is clean and I am with he to hear the aftercare instructions(very important). on the nose they don't use as large of a gauge needle as they do bellybutton. I have thought about doing my nose and decided no,( i dont like needles)...lol.. actually I am a EMT and am around alot of germs and bacteria. Just be careful cause I have seen kids go and do it at private parties, or by friends, which can turn out bad. your better off to make comprimises, and reserch the place you want to go to make sure it is clean, not just by outside appearences, and go with her. In the long run you wil both be happy

Rory - posted on 09/03/2009

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I totally agree with you. I don't have piercings but I do have tattoos. So my 12 year old keeps asking if she can get her nose pierced and I told her she can do whatever she want to do when she moves out of my house which is what I did. I didn't get any tattoos until I was out of my moms house. I hope this helps as a deterrent maybe she will get over it.

Tami - posted on 04/01/2009

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Vicki, I agree with you about if this is the only thing in her life right now that I should be worried about, then I know i'm doing a great job.My daughter has been on honor roll since grade school, I don't have to worry about that. I think i'm afraid if I let her do it at only 15 yrs old, then she may go down hill from there.



Am I being stupid?

Michelle - posted on 03/26/2009

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my daughter has her's for 3 years now,you don't turn it to clean it,it's not painful to get and it's easy to clean(allergie season)just use sea salt 3 times a day for the first month(to clean it)soak it in a shot glass sized cup or glass,it's not a big deal and it will leave a scare to small to really even see

Vicki - posted on 03/25/2009

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I'm in a similar situation: DD will be 16 in July & this is what she wants as her gift. She has 7 piercings in her ears (3 are cartilage) which I have no problem with. She is a good kid, responsible, good grades, etc. I keep telling her that she can get it done at 18...when she doesn't need my approval. BUT, like Sondra said: "there will be bigger battles to fight." I just think if this is the worst thing she wants/does then I've done pretty well. We shall see if she wins me over in the next 4 months. ;-) I like hearing everyone's point of view.

Tami - posted on 03/21/2009

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I keep telling mine also that it's going to be panful, and the allergy season is here etc. She stll wants it done. It's not gonna happen till she's older.

Sondra - posted on 03/19/2009

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I have a 16 year old daughter who wants this done as well, it has taken a lot for her to talk her dad into it, but he has given in. I do not have a problem with it, as I see it, this is not a battle I wish to fight, as I know there will be bigger ones that are going to be much more important. She has not done it yet as she has been waiting for her sports seasons to be over with so she wouldn't have to keep taking it out. So I'm sure she will be asking in the next month or so. Good luck.

Jennifer - posted on 03/18/2009

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My daughter wanted her nose pierced 2 years ago,she was 16.My husband said she could get it done if I got mine done.He didn't think I'd do it.....but she really wanted one(i wanted mine done when i was younger but couldn't get it done) so.....I did it!  That was the WORST pain ever!!! NO KIDDING!!!! Worse than childbirth!!! My daughter got hers done,she said it wasn't that painful for her. Any way the 1st few weeks were rough,hers kept falling out while she slept,and was hard & painful to get back in. She still has it and still loves it,she can take it out and change it now with no problem. Me on the other hand......I had no problems at first,then allergy season hit!!!! It's very hard & painful trying to blow your nose and keep that thing in there & clean!!!! I finally got tired of it and took it out. I didnt have a scar or anything (thank GOD) and i do go to tanning beds so everythings ok. I'm the type of person who cant wear earrings cause they get infected easy,but i had no infection with the nose ring.I kept it covered with alcohol tho. I had it in about a year or so before I took it out.  Well thats my story and i hope it helps to know another side.

Tami - posted on 03/18/2009

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You're NOT being foolish, it's disgusting and she's to young. You are her parent, i'm going through this right now with my almost 15 yr old. She doesn't need 2 holes in her nose let alone 1. I told my daughter if she's good at school, if she's not giving me a hard time, if she hasn't broken the law by the time shes 17 then she can do it then. I'm hoping she will of changed her mnd by then.



I wrote on another post about piercings, but again she needs a parents permission. And anyone who acts like her parent that isn't you is the one whose being foolish.



Goodluck!!

Kerri - posted on 03/14/2009

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I got my belly-button pierced when I was 23.  I took it out when I was 25 and it left a horrible scar.  I have had several friends with nose piercings (all of these ladies are over 25).  I do not have one so I am only going off of what they have told me.  It is extremely painful to have done.  There is a period during which the ring will need to be turned and cleaned quite frequently which is also very painful.  I have had several friends remove theirs.  Only 2 had scars after they removed it but the scars are still there - about 3 years later.  The scars were made worse by tanning beds.  I have one friend who constantly messes with hers.  She is always twisting it, touching it, etc.  She says it is annoying and she can see it.  I considered having my nose pierced but after all of the issues my friends have had, I decided against it.  I hope this information is helpful in your situation! Good luck!   

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