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Nancy - posted on 02/08/2011
My daughter will be a few weeks shy of 2 when I have my second one, so im in the same boat! Right now she loves kissing my belly and saying baby and stuff like that, but im hoping she will like him after. I just make sure to tell her its our baby not just mine and my husbands. When are you due?
Laura - posted on 01/26/2011
My two boys are that far apart- now they're 3 years and 1.5. I wouldn't go back and change anything if I could. I think it's a blessing to my older son that he never remembers a time when he was an only child- and they are pretty darn good playmates, although they have the typical sibling quarrels and such. My older son was a little shaken up at seeing mom in the hospital when he came to meet little brother- so it may be good to take your daughter to the hospital just to see what it's like before hand. Good luck!
Kristy - posted on 11/25/2010
My daughter and son are 23 months apart, i had no problems with them geting along, she just loves him. I always spoke about him to her when i was pregnant and she use to kiss him (my belly) goodnight. Once he came along i just made sure is till spent time with her and she was included and have had no problems and her behaviour didn't change either. Good Luck.
Deanna - posted on 11/23/2010
My kids are 22 months apart. From very early on (once we found out the pregnancy was viable and such) I included her in everythinggggg. Brought her to every single ultrasound, every single check up with my OBGYN, everything. We talked about the baby all the time with her and once we found out we were having a boy and picked a name we would talk about him and call him by name. During OBGYN appointments we would say "Oh now Dr.Brown is going to listen to Carter's heartbeat. He's inside mommy's tummy" etc etc. When wed go shopping for baby things it was "Oh this sleeper is for baby carter for when he comes out of mommys tummy" Then when I went into labor we told her that baby carter was coming out. She got to meet Carter a 1/2 hour after he was born and I said "Whos this maddy?" and she said "BABY CARTER!! CUTEEEE!" Like she knew who he was right away. Carter is now 8 weeks and when you ask who Carters mommy is she points to me and who carters daddy is she points to my husband. Its like he's been here the entire time.
We never once pressure her into liking him, we'd ask her if she wanted to hold him and if she said no we left it alone, sometimes if she wants time with one of us specifically and we have carter she will say "Mommy hold carter" (instead of daddy) etc. The only time we've had jealousy issues is when we used her stroller for him (as a travel system) but we soon fixed that and bought a double stroller. Also she turned 2 a couple of weeks after he was born and we made sure to tell every single person invited not to badger her with questions about the new baby (It seems like once a new baby comes all anyone wants to talk about to her is the baby..."do you like your brother" etc etc etc) The day was just about her and only her not about her brother. I also made sure everyone wasnt swooning over Carter and paid the most attention to her.
Just try to include your daughter in as much as possible. I showed Maddy pictures of pregnant women where you could see the baby inside (like at the doctors office) she can say placenta (LOL) and yeah just include her. Maddy lovesss Carter so much and has no problems with him what so ever. She's even changed his diaper and shes only justturned 2! Pretty cute!
Joana - posted on 11/19/2010
My 2 boys are 20 months apart. Dylan didnt really understand the pregnancy so I was VERY surprised how well he reacted when the baby was born. I did buy him a doll a few moths before the baby came and we practiced taking care of it which I think helped. It was very easy having 2 kids until Tyler started crawling - then the fights over toys began! All of the sudden Tyler wasn't a baby that just laid there anymore - now he could get all of Dylan's toys and needed a lot more supervision! Good luck!
Brittany - posted on 11/17/2010
i am expecting my third right now and she will be 22 months younger than my second daughter... i know i am very curious how she will react to the new baby... she already get jealous when her older brother just comes and sits with me on the couch. I think it will be interesting... all children are different though and respond to situations differently... Good luck!
Kelly - posted on 11/15/2010
My daughters are 22 months apart. The older dd wont touch the baby but will yell hello from a distance and will tell other people about the baby.. but thats it. I get the older one to 'read' to me and the baby while feeding. I am trying to get her more involved but she pushes the baby away. I think she might be scared of hurting her. I suggest getting your daughter a doll so she can have her own 'baby.'
Lisa - posted on 11/13/2010
My daughter was 22 months old when my son was born. Before he was born she was such a handful and the second she laid eyes on her new baby brother something in her changed. She is so much easier now. She wants to help with everything envovling her brother and when we are busy with him and she wants something she wait until he is asleep or happy to get what she wants and she never freaks out because she has to wait. Im told its unusual for a child to stop acting up after a new baby so maybe Im just very lucky but I love that my kids are 22 months apart. I find it easier now than before my son was born. My son is now 3 months old and my daughter is 25 months and she loves her brother so much. All she wants to do is hold him, feed him and kiss him. Its really sweet. I hope you are as lucky as I am and your daughter loves the new baby as much as my daughter loves her brother. Good luck and congrats