Nicki - posted on 01/13/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
I have been helping out a friend of a friend for about 2 months now. She hasn't worked in over 2 years and recently went back to work so they wanted a sitter they could trust and that would come to their house so they could get their two girls; 3.5 yrs and 18 months; used to being without mommy and get to be in the comfort of their own home instead of daycare. So I was recommended for the job and I was unemployed and at home with 2 kiddos all the time and could use the extra money. They offered $100 a week and that the eldest girl would be at school mon-thurs that i would have to put her on the bus at 8am and get her off of the bus at 3:30pm. so I accepted cuz i could use the money.
Well now i am feeling taken advantage of. It was only supposed to be for 8 hrs a day and turned into 11-12hr days. I was like ok i can deal with this i have nothing better to do and i could use the money, though not much, still something! So i am driving about 15-20mins to get to their home every morning and must be there at 6:15am. I would arrive and both girls would be clean and ready for the day. About 3 wks ago the mother asked me if i would get the eldest girl up and showered and dressed for school because she had a late night and wanted her to be well rested for her day at school, so of course i said yes that i didn't mind.
Well now it's like she expects me to do it, i have been getting there and both girls are in no clothes the youngest in her diaper and the eldest not even in panties!! Then after she leaves for work she txts me and says "the girls haven't had baths sorry" and now she doesn't even tell me I can just see that they need a bath and if i don't do it she txts me in the evening when i am home and says "did u not give the girls a bath?". On top of all this her husband is kind of a jerk, he blames my kids for anything that may happen and they just seem to be acting really smug. I feel like i am walking on egg shells.
While i am there i make sure to keep things neat and clean..i do our dishes, vaccum and even windex the windows and tv from little fingers! I know that i am doin them a huge favor and it just feels like they ask me to do something new everyday down to asking if i will look up addresses on the computer and txt them to her and i am such a nice, easy-going person that it's hard for me to say no!
So now all i think about is wanting to quit cuz it's stressing me out!
Am i overreacting? give me some pointers on what to do please??
Thank you for your time!!!