Are boys really terrible monsters?

Alexis - posted on 07/04/2012

WOW. those are some extreme examples. I know I love my son and could not handle a girl, mostly because I have noticed a huge difference in attitude. My son is happy, cuddly and like playing things that I can get into as well. However I do need to keep him active much more so than say a tea party otherwise he is jumping off the couches and running in circles, literally. I personally love the more active lifestyle I need with my son. He is also very well behaved, I have never had poo incidents or purposely peeing on things. I think that comes from parenting. Some comparisons between my experiences with my son and a toddler girl in my family is that my son will yell 'help mommy I stuck' and he is on the top shelf of the book shelf or in the tree in the backyard and always wants to help with whatever I am doing, cooking, cleaning etc. He is very hands on. (which I allow) The girl throws many more fits, has attitude, draws on the wall, very princess like. something I don't handle well. She is much more independent in play however, while my son loves to have a playmate or mommy\daddy to play with.

Bethany - posted on 06/16/2012

i have a little monster and the tshirt in all sizes to prove it! really hes a very sweet and loveable child he loves kisses and cuddles and if hes sick hes mine (and my mums) wont go to dad at all. yes hes a rough and tumble toddler but has been beaten up by a lot of girls at daycare and hes only 2 and a bit!!!
i have been told by so many that boys are easier than girls and if thats true thank god i didnt have a girl.
Your child will test you no matter what gender they are, at 13 your darling well behaved daughter may turn into the monster from hell or not (hopefully not) but its the way you bring them up.
Either way i hope your wishes come true and you get a healthy baby. :)

Megan - posted on 06/10/2012

I know this post is old but I just had to reply anyways. My son is going to be 3 and although he is a very active boy and loves rough housing with dad. He is also sooo loving. He "takes care" of his little sister and always very protective over her and myself. He also has never liked to get dirty or play in the mud or anything of that nature that everyone thinks boys do. he loves to read and cuddle up with me and watch movies. I could not imagine my life without him and so glad I had a boy first so I got to experience all the boy things before I had my little girl. Do not get me wrong I love her just as much but she can be a little stuck up sometimes already at her age and my son is so much more easy going loves everybody. Anyways just my two cents for all the boys out there.

Laura - posted on 04/02/2012

I have a boy, 8, and a girl, 7, 12 1/2 mos apart in age. My boy is hyper, but has the kindest heart. My girl knows how to suck up to get her way, but, wow, can she be dramatic. And I agree, girls can be mean spirited. My girls bestie is, and they are seven!!!!! And it's not to my girl, it's to anyone who tries to come 'between' them. Oy! My boy and his friends all play well together. :)

Suzanne - posted on 02/29/2012

When I fell pregnant I expected it to be a girl, when I found out at my 20 week scan I was having a boy I was a bit taken a back by it - I didn't know what to do with a boy! My friend with boys told me that boys are so cuddly and love their mummy's. This is so true! Don't get me wrong my boy can be a little tinker and when I look at mums with girls sitting with their well behaved little ones I think why won't my boy sit still! But I don't care, boys and girls are different and that's why we love them both. If I'm lucky enough to have another child I'm hoping for a girl but secretly I might be disappointed if it's not another boy!!



Seriously, my boy (aged 2) is well behaved 99% of the time, he sleeps well, eats well and makes me laugh all day, I love having a boy. Plus if nothing else the boys toys are way better than girls toys!!!!

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Jenn - posted on 02/29/2012

My son is well-behaved, intelligent, and very sweet. it's all in how you raise your child. I know some that are the total opposite of my son, and the parents are very lax with rules and controlling them. Boys aren't yucky! My son tells me I'm "Booful" and kisses/hugs me everyday. LOVE HIM more than life.

Kaitlin - posted on 02/29/2012

Don't be afraid of a boy!

Boys and girls are equally difficult and it depends on the parents and how they discipline if their child is a horrible dirty ruffian (that one cracked me up, btw)



I have two 12 months apart and we're expecting a third (TBD sex) so we'll have 3 under 3. I firmly believe that babies, toddlers, and young children are going to be wonderful (or hellish) no matter what gender, due in equal parts to their personalities and their parent's firm discipline and abundant love. My kids are NOT perfect, they're kids, but they behave for their age, they understand and respect limits (most of the time) and deal with consequences of their actions.

Nicole - posted on 02/29/2012

I had a baby boy and I REALLY wanted a baby girl. So much so that I literally broke down in tears when we go home from finding out. I was so upset. Now though, 4 years later, I would not trade my son for anything or anyone. He is the light of my life. He is sweet, well mannered, and polite. Everyone says he is a wonderful child and well behaved. I didn't have any issues potty training him, though aiming can still be an issue, pay attention son!! :) However, that is a minor inconvienance. He is loving and we have a bond as strong as any I would have had with a daughter. I actually have 2 boys, the oldest is my 16 year old step son and he too is polite and well behaved not crazy at all though totally nerdy. I have raised him since he was 10. It is all in how you raise them and how you parent. Any child can be fussy and ill temepered, any HUMAN can be fussy and ill tempered you just have to handle it and teach them how to deal with those feeling appropriatly. I really think boys are great (even though I still want a girl) and I think it is all in how you raise them.

Linda - posted on 01/29/2012

well my son is a lil monster. lol boys can be harder. but girls OMG r mean spirted, at least my daughter was, evil child just like mama

Jodi - posted on 01/26/2012

Haha, this post made me laugh because I have a 2.5 year old son, I'm pregnant, and terrified to have a girl!



I will admit to the fact that (in my experience) boys are more active, but I will argue anytime that boys behave worse that girls simply based on their gender. My son is an absolute sweetheart (all biases aside, haha) and I don't think someone has met him without saying how well behaved he is! He's a favorite at his daycare, and a complete joy to be around.



Now girls, on the other hand, I've heard (and seen) to be full of emotional rollercoaters! My son is such a laid back (energetic) kid, that I don't think I could handle the temper tantrums!



Now I'm sure many mothers with girls will attest to my theory like I have yours. I agree their are some differences with personality, but as far as bad behaviour goes, I think that rests with the parents (for the most part!)

Amanda - posted on 12/28/2011

Boys aren't always little monsters. My daughter is the one that smears poo, picks her nose and eats it and rummages through the bin, my son has never done this.
He is a handful, but aren't most children boys or girls?

My son is constantly asking for cuddles, telling us all that he loves us to the moon and back. Just before xmas he said to us that he wants all the children in the world to have presents from santa. He is cheeky, funny, smart, polite.
He has his moments but so does my 2 yr old daughter.

Danielle - posted on 12/28/2011

I dont have a daughter to compare, but my son has always been such a good child. He has his energetic moments where hes running around the room and cant make up his mind which toy he wants to play with, but he also has his sweet moments where he just sits on my lap and gives me lots of love. A lot of their actions have to do with the way their raised. If he knows his boundaries then you should have no problem. Just be consistent, but that can be said for both little boys and girls.

Aniesha - posted on 10/29/2011

No, boys aren't little monsters! I don't have a girl so I can't compare, but my son, while extremely "energetic" let's call it, lol, is the sweetest little person ever. He tells me & his Daddy how much he loves us all the time, loves cuddles & kisses, & said "please", "thank you", etc. He's very cheeky & stubborn, but an extremely soft person too:). What I love about him is how protective he is of me, he's Mummy's lil bodyguard:)

Kelina - posted on 10/24/2011

lol no they're not. my sons a little angel my daughter is the destructive devil. Luckily my house is baby proofed but i wince when we go to my MIL's house. She has hanging plants and cupboards with doors on them. At our house, half our cupboards have no doors so she doesn't care, and the other half have no doorknobs so i don't have to worry about her getting into them. at grandmas she opens the cupboard doors and pulls EVERYTHING out. her favorite for some reason is the big bottle of vinegar. She tries to pull down the hanging plants. she likes to bang on the glass cabinet grandma has the dvd/vcr in and pulls all the books an movies off the shelves. She's only 10 months old lol. However she's never taken off a diaper thank goodness, but my best friends little sister once fed her cousin poo out of her diaper. Every child is different

Rebecca - posted on 09/29/2011

My 2 and a half year old son is great. I had also heard that boys were a nightmare to handle and always wanted a girl..so much so that I had never even thought of a name for a boy whilst I have had the name I would give a girl in my head for 10 years at least. However, I have not found that to be the case at all. In fact my son is like your daughter..active, intelligent and well behaved...like all toddlers, he has the odd tantrum but it is how you deal with his behaviour that matters. My son is very easy to reason with once I have given him a couple of minutes to vent his feelings. He responds very well to timeouts (which I use very infrequently) and he is able to entertain himself and hold conversations and he is sooo much fun, I would not change him for the world. He has never once smeared poo on anything and our TV is very much intact. Like Jade says, it is all about how you handle them..teaching good manners and appropriate behaviour requires consitency and leading by example. It is true that Boys and Girls are different..I have seen that in the differences between my son and his best friend who is a girl but it is mostly about energy..boys just have a lot of it and need ways to burn it off. If you provide them with those ways then they will not need to find their own ways and life for both of you will be fun and stimulating. I am pregnant again and it is another boy and I am very happy about it because once this one is grown enough the two boys can entertain each other and burn off their energy together. As for the issue of your husband's father and the religious aspect....what does your husband think? Can he talk to his father? Can you come to some kind of compromise? It seems sad that and issue like this might intefere with the happiness that your son (if you have one) will most definitely bring you. Hope this has helped.

Jade - posted on 09/27/2011

I believe the biggest contributing factor to the compliance/ attitude of your child is your parenting styles and food habits. A child won't learn manners if they aren't re enforced at home, or if they don't see their parents doing it. Boys have ALOT of energy and a short attention span naturally. You'll learn very quickly which foods will set him off into hyper drive- as you would've already with your daughter.
Boys may be more active than girls when they're young, but they're a lot easier to handle as teenagers than girls! Or so I'm told... Don't be scared to have a little boy. They really are a journey worth travelling

Lisa - posted on 09/21/2011

LOL!! Boys are diffrent from girls for sure, and sometimes their antics are a little crazy, but my son has never peed on the couch or smashed a tv with a bat. He actually is more affectionate than my daughter and wants to be held and cuddled every morning. My son does go crazy running around, but only out side. Boys are just as amazing as girls

Maggie - posted on 09/20/2011

My son is curious but not naughty, I say no or put it back and he listens, and claps at himself lol! I heard many stories about horrible boys but haven't had any problems at all/ He wont smear or draw on walls or break things or fight over things...yet he is only 21 months lol Im expecting a girl in Jan and I heard they were horrible haha I think it all depends on how you bring them up. :)

Nicole - posted on 09/13/2011

Wow, No all boys are not that way. I think they all go through stages of some sort. But having a girl first and than a boy could be different. I wouldn't know though. I have 4 boys (11,4,2,and 4 months) we are expecting another baby and we are hoping for a girl. As for my boys, they have good days and bad days..Even if you have a boy, you will love them..

Tina - posted on 09/05/2011

Huhm - I worked as Nanny for Boys for 7 years - and wasn't really shocked when I was expecting my first girl. In all honesty my daughter loves to get grubby and fart jokes just like any kid would. I find that boys are a bit more physical and energetic - but I've also worked with boys that loved to just tinker with Lego's for hours on end. Having a child is like playing the lottery IMO - you get what you get and you don't get upset. Open your heart to either and you will not be disappointed.We tried for a girl the second go around out of practicality - EVERYTHING IS FREAKIN' PINK in our house - so we figured we would save a lot of money if we had another girl - If it was a boy I would have spend my 2nd Trimester online trading pinks for blues...

Kristy - posted on 09/01/2011

WOW, boys are not all bad. i had a daughter first and she was wonderful and then i had my son. Yeah he is different to my daughter but he is fabulous. He is smart in he works out how things open and close and work. He loves tobe outside and play, he asks as soon as he gets up by saying "out there" and taking my hand and leading me to the door!! he would stay outside all day if i let him. He is a typical toddler (20 months) and sometimes makes a mess and finds it fun to put food in his hair but so did my daughter, he will make a mess if he can get in to things but so did my daughter. I call him Denise the menace sometimes as he can be like a hurricane, but my daughter can be the same. Boys are different to girls and can be messy and grubby but they are also sweet and affectionate. I wouldnt have it any other way.

Jane - posted on 08/28/2011

A friend of mine has two sons. One is an active, angry, pee on the rug type, but the other is a quiet, studious boy who started writing "books" when he was four - quite amazing reports that reflect his current interest. The last one I saw was about volcanoes.

Bear in mind that when boys are delightful easy-going kids, their mothers are not going to come to COM and ask for help. So the sample here is a bit biased towards problem kids (of both sexes).

Boys do have a tendency to have a coarser sense of humor (they love fart jokes, sometimes even as adults) and they are physically stronger on average than girls, so when they play rough they play rougher than girls typically.

I would say go for it, have a second child since you want one, and be prepared to love him or her just as much as your first child. Your life won't become hellish because no matter what your second child is like you will grow and learn as a parent so you can raise both children to reach their maximum potential.

As to the estranged creepy dad, there are ways to hold him at arms' length if you need to.

Cassandra - posted on 08/28/2011

My son is what you fear lol. He is hyper and gets into everything! He is polite when using his words bu thats after he takes your donut and takes off running. I love him more than anything and he is worth every spilt cup of juice on the floor and every poopy diaper he takes off and throws, you adjust to it. They are incredible people :)

Julie - posted on 08/27/2011

You would love my son. =) He is turning 3 next month and he is very well behaved. He potty trained fairly early, completely trained even at night at 2-1/2 years. His biggest behavior issue is being loud, because he likes to play drums and sing at the top of his voice. He's very gentle with his 1 year old sister (usually); he likes to share snacks with her. Says please and thank you. Likes to help with the laundry. I am always getting comments on how sweet he is.