Jessica - posted on 04/02/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )
I have a little girl that just turned 3 and a baby boy that is 8 months old. My husband and I want one more precious addition to our family, but I can't decide when we want to add our next bundle of joy. Our kids are 28 months apart right now, and I am a stay at home mom. My husband works 60-70 hours a week (we own a restaurant, so he is basically always on call). I am a VERY hands on mommy. The hardest thing for me when my son was born was not being able to give my daughter as much quality time as I wanted to due to marathon nursing sessions, no sleep, and all the other new baby adjustments. Now that we are adjusted I am really happy with the age gap. One minute I think I would like to have another right after my son turns 2, but then I worry that he will be such a baby still, and I don't want him to fall into typical middle child situation. Then I worry that if I wait until he is 3 that my daughter and baby #3 will be so far apart that they will never bond as well as I'd like them to. I've heard some people say that adjusting the family dynamic to baby #2 is harder, and some say that adjusting to baby #3 is. I don't want to cheat any of my children out of precious time and attention they deserve during these important first years, but I also want them to be close enough in age that they can really enjoy each other's company.