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Baby #3?

Jessica - posted on 04/02/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I have a little girl that just turned 3 and a baby boy that is 8 months old. My husband and I want one more precious addition to our family, but I can't decide when we want to add our next bundle of joy. Our kids are 28 months apart right now, and I am a stay at home mom. My husband works 60-70 hours a week (we own a restaurant, so he is basically always on call). I am a VERY hands on mommy. The hardest thing for me when my son was born was not being able to give my daughter as much quality time as I wanted to due to marathon nursing sessions, no sleep, and all the other new baby adjustments. Now that we are adjusted I am really happy with the age gap. One minute I think I would like to have another right after my son turns 2, but then I worry that he will be such a baby still, and I don't want him to fall into typical middle child situation. Then I worry that if I wait until he is 3 that my daughter and baby #3 will be so far apart that they will never bond as well as I'd like them to. I've heard some people say that adjusting the family dynamic to baby #2 is harder, and some say that adjusting to baby #3 is. I don't want to cheat any of my children out of precious time and attention they deserve during these important first years, but I also want them to be close enough in age that they can really enjoy each other's company.

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Stephanie - posted on 04/10/2010

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I have a two year old, and 6 month old, and one on the way :) I have 5 brothers and sisters, we are each apprx. 2 years apart and we are very close, and i didn't feel like I missed out on any quality time with my parents. Do whatever seems right for you, but I think having kids close together is great!

Jessica - posted on 04/09/2010

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Thanks Brandi. I absolutely want a close knit family and that is why I think sooner rather than later will work for us. Thank you very much for your input from your childhood!

Brandi - posted on 04/08/2010

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well i have a 3 1/2 yr old daughter a son who just turned 2 and expecting baby #3 in October! my first two are 18 months apart....they have a somewhat odd bond....they r protective of one another but at the same time they are jealous of each other!!! some ppl tell me that it is normal for them to be this way and they will soon grow out of it. my due date for baby #3 is exactly a wk after my daughters 4th bday. so the gap w/ baby 3 is 4 yrs and almost 3....i chose to have baby #3 this close b/c i do want them to bond. their is 9 yrs difference between me and my oldest brother and a 5 yr difference between me and my other brother and i'm the baby. i dnt remember them having a strong bond and i have a weird rivalry bond with both it seems....i dontwant that either of my children.

Jessica - posted on 04/05/2010

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Oh wow you are a trooper! I would love 4 babies, but I think my husband will be done at 3 :) Thak you very much for your input!

Alexis - posted on 04/03/2010

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Hi i have 3 kids my oldest just turned 5 and i have a 2year old and a 1year old. They are exactly 12 months apart i am also pregnant right now. Number 2 was easy because of the gap. The third was a little harder first couple of months adjusting but now they do the same things so it is easy and no one is left out. I love that they are so close. I think it is easier because they have the same intrest. I am totally ready for number 4. I think they will all be very close and i will be sending them to college back to back. lol.

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