Bringing a new baby into the warmth of your home while you already have one
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Penny - posted on 10/02/2010
im due in 10wks and my son turned 2 today. i am very weary about when the baby arrives, i dont want my son to feel left out or pushed out. i attended an antenatal class last week and the midwife gave a suggestion on how to go about the first introduction. when dad brings 1st born into the hospital to visit get him to phone you 10mins before. this is so you can make sure you are not holding your newborn. then when he arrives greet him as you usually would if you've not seen him for a day or 2 give him lots of attention and then ask if he would like to see his baby bro/sis. when lil one goes to have a look inside cot have a prezzie waiting and say his baby bro/sis has got him this prezzie. let him touch the baby, dont be scared of him hurting the baby. i am hoping this advice works xxx
Hillary - posted on 10/19/2010
There is always enough love to go around and it just grows and grows! Each child is totally unique and it's like your family was just waiting for such a child to take his/her place among the rest. Two year olds may have some jealousy issues but in the end they will get used to the new arrival and find they have a new playmate. My kids are ages 6, 3, and 16 months. Sure they fight but they never want to be separated from each other and are concerned when one is unhappy.
Jane - posted on 10/02/2010
kids are very adaptable. our girls adore one another and are very excited about their brother's arrival. you just have to stress the family aspect, it's all about bringing more love into your family for everyone. i worried about how i would love another child as much as i loved our first, but your heart just multiplies endlessly. i think a sibling is the best gift you can give your child.
Kelina - posted on 10/28/2010
You could also try getting them used to having a new baby by getting them a doll. We bought one for my son and he loves it! he carts his abby around all day, makes sure his baby is sitting the right way to watch his tunes with him in the afternoon and knows how to "feed" the baby. My husband wasn't too keen on it, and in the past my son didn't really know how to deal with me holding other babies, but we went to visit my SIL in the hospital yesterday and when he saw me holding the new baby he was absolutely delighted! We've also been telling him for months that there's a baby in my belly and so when we ask him where the baby is he'll lift up my shirt and point to my belly lol. He also likes to give the baby rasberries lol.
Celeste - posted on 10/27/2010
I did not start this post but I am in the same position as Heather and let me just say that the moms posting were very helpful and the gift idea is great! I had not heard that one before but I will certainly try it. We have been talking to our first born about her new baby brother in mommy's tummy for some time now, just don't know if its sinking in yet. I am due in March and she will be 2 in March. Thank you all for the suggestions and support!
Jen - posted on 10/13/2010
My daughter did very well accepting her new baby brother. She was 23 months old when he arrived. We made sure that we talked about a new baby coming in the months prior to his arrival, and got her a baby doll that cried. We did get a gift for her and gave it to her when she met the baby and said it was from him. And I was not holding him when she came to meet him. A year later they are friends. She told me last week her brother is her best friend!!!
Melody - posted on 10/12/2010
My oldest son just turned 2, but we are going to have our third child in May. One thing that I did with him before, and am doing again is to tell him LONG before due date that you have a baby in your belly. Get him to understand that it's his "sister", and have him pat and talk to the belly. Then when the baby comes, it's not such a big surprise. Of course, he was a lot younger when we started this the first time, and now we have two kids, not only one.
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