C-Section or Vaginal birth?? Which is better?? Safer??

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Jon - posted on 06/22/2013

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C-section is better. It's better for you and your hubby! After vaginal birth vagina stretches up and NEVER gets back to the way it was. Don't believe all the women that say it got back together. Ask their husbands or your male-friends. As a man, I felt a huge difference after my ex had a baby. 1)It became an endless hole (I'm talking a year later when I still couldn't feel a thing being inside her) 2)Also sex became too painful for her . We had no sexual life and broke up when our son was 14 months old. I am a good father, but I have needs, just like any other man... think why so many married man have affairs while their wives happily thinking their vagina is tight.
It's up to you what to choose, but this is from the man perspective.

Steph - posted on 11/24/2013

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Its ok for a man to have an opnion on the issue but onw thing I must say is I wish u could experience the amount of pain labor is and then u will truly understand that its not about how sex feels for you but more about the full recovery and health of both mother and baby. Giving birth is literally a life and death situation and if both are doing good be thankful. If sex is not pleasurable for you after your wife/gf gave birth well...ur ungrateful. Because when u love someone u try to make the situation better not become selfish.

Nicole - posted on 01/17/2013

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I hate this kind of question. What's best for one isn't necessarily best for another. I was bullied into my VBAC. I ruptured. I was completely traumatized. I have extensive nerve damage (confirmed by doctor) from the birth itself as well as the surgery to put me back together. My vagina is gaping and aches all the time, inside and out, and I now have excessive pelvic sweating, not to mention the constant urge to pee even when I don't really need to pee. And this is 3 years postpartum. So, what's better, a depressed, health-compromised mom who VBAC'd or one who had a repeat c-section? I'd vote for the one who had a repeat c-section. Let's say I'm pretty pro-c/section these days.

Lori - posted on 09/05/2013

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Okay.. I have 4 boys. Born 1987, 1993, 1998 & 2010.. 2 marriages. The first c-section a breach baby. 2nd a VBAC & I had a 4th degree tear, that's through your rectum. Tons of stitches. Yes your vagina recovers! even with the tearing & stitches the vaginal birth was so much better. Recovery is not compairable. Third was a VBAC, easy peasy.. 3 pushes, home within 24 hours! 4th was a c-section, birth defect.. No choice. He has fully recoverd & we are lucky.. But the 2nd section left a terriable scar & he's 3 & I'm still numb around the scar, & my stomach will never look the same. Both bikini cuts, lots of scar tissue.. Vaginal birth rules!

Nicole - posted on 04/26/2011

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@ Jenny

I understand where you're coming from but I do feel that social pressure to have natural child birth is a good thing. We've gone so far away from what naturally happens during birth. TV shows about birth position women to be scared of natural child birth and there seems to be nothing mainstream to combat this problem. Natural, vaginal child birth should not be scary enough to push women into choosing a c-section when it isn't medically necessary but for many women, it is. I completely believe that this is cultural.

Having said that, many doctors do offer c-sections as an option to perfectly healthy mothers and babies, so it is a personal choice. However, I would strongly recommend looking up information yourself before ever choosing an elective c-section. I wouldn't necessarily just trust the information from the doctor's office- look elsewhere too.

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Judith - posted on 02/20/2014

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so whats better for you? C-section or labor as in pushing out the baby your self

Umpa - posted on 01/31/2014

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If you do core exercises you can strengthen your muscles enough to cut off the blood supply to a dick - of course you have to work for it but it is so much easier than you think. Do the position of a push up but rest your elbows on the ground rather than your hands - hold that position for as long as you can. Try to do it every day - will only take 5 -10 minutes at most and will be worth it. When you are in the sack tighten as if you were clenching your fist - really not that hard when you have the muscle tone. Your husband won't be able to hold himself more than a few minutes and you'll be tighter that a virgin. The "typical" pelvic floor exercises are pretty lightweight don't rely on them. Any one that can't go back to normal after this - bar anyone that had severe medical complications - is just lazy. Think - you can't have a baby and expect to just "get a six pack" from walking around eating. I'm putting this here for those few who will thank me forever after they try it.

Annie - posted on 11/12/2013

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I had an almost 10 pound baby - my epidural never took even after 4 attempts so I felt everything which was the worst pain I have ever felt in my life - I tore so bad I had to get 60+ stitches I also lost 6 pints on blood because she tore my uterus and had to get a blood transfusion - Because of that I am opting for a c-section for my second child! However no matter what anyone says it's your choice and you will never fully understand either side until you have experienced one or the other for yourself!
p.s - your vagina will NEVER be the same!

Jo - posted on 11/03/2013

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If have vaginal birth with a big baby the baby will stretch you out severy. not your vagina will not be the same im 22 and had a 10 pound baby. even after a year and a half of having my baby my boyfriend makes coments like cant feel it. its harder for him to ejaculate. he has a small penis and if your bf does as well he will not feel you and you wont feel him ether. this is just a heads up for anyone that was in my situation. It breakes me down that my body had changed that way. I love my child but someone outthere is going to read this and think more carefully about thier desision.

Vanessa - posted on 01/22/2013

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I've had a c-section and a VBAC 21 months later. It was a surprise c-section after 3 hours of pushing, baby wasn't coming out that way. For my second I did not want another c-section and doctors didn't a reason for me to have another. My VBAC went extremely well and I have never regretted my decision.

Deanna - posted on 01/13/2013

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@ Lucy,
You can look up your doctor's reviews. Google your doctor's name.

Lucy - posted on 01/13/2013

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How do you know if you have a good C-Section Doctor? I can't do natural birth because my childs head it too big but I want to make sure I choose the right doctor.

Charlee - posted on 01/08/2013

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Hi there,
At the end of the day the final decision is yours, being a mother of two and another on the way, I would say that having experienced two vaginal births and intending the same for my third I am biased, but of course I do also understand that complications do arise and sometimes it is nessacary to have a c- section, however one thing you should consider is that us women were put on this planet for one reason....to reproduce!! (and cook, clean, wash up etc. lol) Our bodies are designed to give birth naturally!!
As I said the final decision is yours and the most important thing is that you and your baby are healthy and happy :) good luck x

Zandrana - posted on 12/04/2012

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I had a scheduled c section due to the baby was suspected macrosomic ans she wasn't dropping down. It was the doctors opinion that there was no way she would fit through. It ended up being a good thing that I did a c section because the cord was wrapped around her neck couple times. I would have most likely needed a c section no matter what. I didn't feel any pain the worst part was the nurse trying 3 times to get a iv in.. I would recommend not getting the insorb dissolvable staples though. 6 weeks postpartum and they still hurt like a needle or knife is poking me. I never had any feelings of guilt over not being able to give birth naturally. As long as baby comes out safely it shouldn't matter which way baby comes out. No point in beating yourself up about it or letting someone make you feel bad about making the decision to have a c section. Before finding out that I needed a c sectiion I considered because I was afraid of the cord being wrapped around her neck. I know several people who had children that had mental damage due to being oxygen starved. Would have hated to have her life ruined before it even got started.

Becca - posted on 12/04/2012

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it depends if your physically able to push the baby out, if not it's netter to do C-Section

but if i were at your state i would do vaginal birth

Christina - posted on 11/30/2012

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Both are safe, but if you ever want to experience a vaginal birth, I would say try for that first off. You shouldn't opt in for the c-section unless there are complications. Most doctors won't do a c-section simply because you want it. Vaginal births have less down time than c-section, but they all have their complications. I had an epidural during my VBAC because I was in back labor for over 2 weeks before I fully dilated and turns out, my son was a month overdue as well. My first child, a daughter, was born c-section because she was also a month over and was sitting breech. Don't opt for an amniocentesis if you don't ABSOLUTELY have to. They did the amnio and it sent me straight into full hard-core labor. I went from 2 to 5 cm in 4 hours and was screaming in pain, but I was in back labor and have had previous back and hip injuries. If it hadn't been for the pain I already had, it wouldn't have been nearly as bad.



I would definitely opt in for a vaginal birth again though. My experience with the c-section was not favorable. I had complications from the spinal block, making the condition in my lower back even worse than before. On top of that, you feel like your guts are going to fall out for the first few months afterwards and it takes FOREVER to get your abdominal muscles back (it is possible). If you do get a cesarean however, go for the bikini cut. If you have a good doctor, nobody will ever know you had one. 3 and a half years later, you can't see my scar and you can BARELY feel it. I had a really good doctor though with my first pregnancy.



After my VBAC, I lost feeling down in my pelvic area for the first few months. My son is 3 months old and I am just now starting to WANT to have sex again. I don't think every woman's experience is the same though.

Deanna - posted on 11/30/2012

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It depends. I preferred vaginal. I was lucky enough to have had vaginal for my first. It had a quick recovery, I felt back to normal within a couple weeks. There were some drawbacks though. It can weaken your pelvic floor, making you leak a bit at times. That eventually goes away, but it is annoying while it lasts.

I had a c-section with my second (non-emergency, just not doing what I was supposed to, not progressing). Recovery is longer and I got ansy waiting to get back to normal. I was looking forward to vacuuming my house. But, it is the same if you have a surgery. You have to wait to get back to normal. I liked it because I had a general (allergic to local anesthesia) so I had a nice nap. The recovery was longer, but I already (son is 7 months) no scar, barely visible.

Both can have complications, but if done by a professional are very safe.

I do recommend vaginal. There is pain, but it is an amazing experience. Plus the drugs can be great. I would recommend an epidural if you have no pain tolerance. I could not because I am allergic, but would have if I could.

Meei - posted on 11/29/2012

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I haven't gave birth yet but i heard giving birth is better. unless if there is somthing wrong as in pre born or maybe the baby is to big to come out and you can push it out. then a c section would be safer for you and the baby. I thought i was going to have a c section because i think they think iam small and that my uterus is small. but i went to the doctor and they said i wont have a per born baby. but iam still worried. lol i hope this help and good luck .

Melanie - posted on 11/29/2012

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Depends on the situation of the pregnancy but if you are healthy then a natural birth is the best way. Our bodies are made to give birth and you don't need a hospital to do it.

Tami - posted on 11/28/2012

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I had my first son via c-section because I was stuck at 6 cm for 16 hours even after I was given Pitocin to progress my labor. Come to find out after they opened me up, my son was a "sunny side up" baby. Because there were no complications except for the fact that the baby was turned the wrong way, which could've happened once labor began, I was considered at that time (late 90's) to be at low risk for a VBAC. (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean)

With much reluctance, I chose to go with the VBAC with my second son two years later. I didn't like the slow recovery I had with the c-section; and because my oldest would only be 2 years old when his baby brother was born, I knew I didn't have the luxury of taking my time to let my postsurgical wounds heal up.

I am, to this day, so glad I made that decision. I was fortunate enough to be able to go through with a vaginal birth without an uterine rupture or any other complication associated with a VBAC. The reason for my reluctance was not because of the risk vs outcome, but because I was scared

of pushing! I knew the pain of contractions but never experienced the final stages of labor. Fear of the unknown, I suppose. Labor was 6 hours, which in most cases I hear, subsequent pregnancies have shorter labor. Recovery was much faster. I was up and about the next day washing a few dishes and playing with my 2 year old. It's not that I didn't have any help, but I have a hard time staying in bed! I know the rules for "once a c-section, always a c-section" changes, but if I had to do it again and had a choice...it would be a vag birth, hands down. Oh wait, I did have to do it all again, when I had my precious little girl 12 years later!

Dava - posted on 11/28/2012

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actually the price payed for vb and c sections is about the same c sec are a few hundred dollars more that's it. check it out

Luana - posted on 11/22/2012

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Unfortunately everyone is so biased to their own experience or opinion that asking this question poses more stress than clarity!!



Ivy I would encourage you to play this out with your doctor rather than the general public - a good doctor should be unbiased while considering your personal situation and remember that they have experience in both types of birth.



One question that does plague me is that if natural birth is ALWAYS the better option as so many people have suggested, then why do so many of them end in intervention????

I'd like to clarify that I am not pro or con any method, and thank god that intervention exists because millions of women and babies have been saved as a result.



I had a birthing class recently and the midwife said something that left me feeling really comforted - she said that how it happens does not matter - the only thing that counts is that you walk out of the hospital with a healthy baby - so true!



Childbirth is not a notch on your belt, glory does not exist for she who withstood the most pain but rather in the miracle that is your child. That is available to all of us!!!



My OBGYN said something yesterday that highlighted how blindsided I am by the birth - THE HARD PART STARTS AFTERWARD!!!!!

Luana - posted on 11/22/2012

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Unfortunately everyone is so biased to their own experience or opinion that asking this question poses more stress than clarity!!



Ivy I would encourage you to play this out with your doctor rather than the general public - a good doctor should be unbiased while considering your personal situation and remember that they have experience in both types of birth.



One question that does plague me is that if natural birth is ALWAYS the better option as so many people have suggested, then why do so many of them end in intervention????

I'd like to clarify that I am not pro or con any method, and thank god that intervention exists because millions of women and babies have been saved as a result.



I had a birthing class recently and the midwife said something that left me feeling really comforted - she said that how it happens does not matter - the only thing that counts is that you walk out of the hospital with a healthy baby - so true!



Childbirth is not a notch on your belt, glory does not exist for she who withstood the most pain but rather in the miracle that is your child. That is available to all of us!!!



My OBGYN said something yesterday that highlighted how blindsided I am by the birth - THE HARD PART STARTS AFTERWARD!!!!!

Diana - posted on 11/22/2012

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We live in a community that seems to embrace c-sections and enduced labor. I see both sides of this argument however i would hope that we could go back to basic pre child birth training to help young mothers deal with the upciming birth of their childC-section should only be a last choice if the mother andor child are in danger...

Bree - posted on 11/08/2012

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A natural vaginal birth is the best possible way to have a baby, unless there is a medical need to do otherwise. Vaginal birth benefits: the squeezing from the vaginal canal helps release hormones that set up the baby to better handle stress later in life, the vaginal canal exposes baby to beneficial bacteria, new studies show that mouse babies born vaginally have higher brain power, improved breathing and temperature regulation of the newborn, successful breastfeeding & mother-infant bonding, and I suspect many more benefits that have yet to be discovered. A natural vaginal birth is ALWAYS the safer route, unless there is medical need for intervention. If you are thinking about having a natural birth, and could use some encouragement and advice, check out www.naturalbutterflies.com

Jenny - posted on 11/03/2012

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Thanks for your supportive words Nicole. I also hope we've helped new mothers faced with making either decision :)

Nicole - posted on 11/03/2012

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Jenny. I think it is absolutely terrible that you were made to second-guess yourself. Pregnant women need all of the emotional support they can get and they certainly don't need to be criticized for their decisions regarding the birth if their own baby. Especially if that decision is a well informed one!



You are right. It's a personal decision to be made between the mother, her partner and her caregiver.



When you describe Sri Lanka, it reminds me of the US, actually. I think media, some of the medical community, and all if those horror stories that seem to stick with us more than the average experience stories help make young, inexperienced women feel more fear than they should. I think that fear does govern these decisions for many women in the US and I think that's a shame.



I remember feeling very afraid of the pain before I had my first child. I planned on having an epidural to ease the pain and knowing this helped ease my fears. It was only when I thought to myself, "but women have been having natural childbirth for years so surely it can't be that bad," that I became curious about med free births.



The curiosity led to me bearing more than I ever thought I could. It made me feel like I had conquered my fear and it made me proud and empowered. I'm very proud of that and I wish every woman could have a wonderful birthing experience.



Like you say, bringing a baby into the world is hard work no matter how it happens. I'm very sorry that your family didn't give you the support that you needed. In my family, we share how we feel but when a decision like that is made, we all come together to provide support even if we disagree with the final decision. When it comes down to it, each woman has to do what's best for her and her baby.



What bothers me is when first time mothers schedule elective c-sections and have no open mind regarding vaginal births or natural births. I'm sure you and your doctor had very good reasons for choosing a section. Vbacs are also a recent occurrence and many people are still unaware of this option.



I know I would be hesitant to take advantage of this option simply because I don't know exactly how much experience my doctor has had with them. I'd rather have a doctor experienced in sections perform the surgery than a doctor with less experience in vbacs assist this type of labor.



You never came across as advocating hasty decision making. It was just a point I wanted to make about lack of information and making sure we're informed. I really enjoy this conversation though. I hope that we have helped maybe dispell some fears and anxieties and empower women to be their own advocates.

Jenny - posted on 11/03/2012

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Nicole, you are lucky that you had both births with minimal stress. I think each persons experience naturally colors their opinion on this topic as well as the knowledge they have on it.



I was pressured into a VBAC with my second baby after my first was a c-section due to baby being breech, with promises that doing it the natural way is much better, more natural for my body to recover from, yaydidadida. I just feel so cheated because the birth experience was traumatic enough as it could be and the recovery was worse (in my experience) than the c-section. I had ended up with an episiotomy and also had to deal with hemorrhoids, as a result it took me months to recover.



It just reminds me that there are no gauntness.



I would say though that at least with a natural birth there is a *chance* that you could be one of the lucky ones, with labor only lasting an hour or so and no-to-minimum tearing from which you should recover from quickly, in which case one would be ever so happy they didn't opt for a surgery instead. With a c-section, you're going to have to deal with recovering from a major surgery, no questions about it, and it is going to hurt and impede your mobility for the first couple weeks.



I agree, get informed about your decision and then stick to it. I did not mean to come across as being okay with making an ignorant choice, but I don't think you should agonize over it as much as I did over getting a c-section or doing a VBAC. The most annoying thing for me is that I did not have a back bone, and despite all my research leading me and my husband to make the choice for a second c-section, I could not stand my family looking down on me for making that choice and therefore did not stand by my decision. So in turn now, I hope I can give others the courage I didn't have to stand by my own decision.



I am concerned to know that in some cultures the fear of vaginal birth is so prevalent that young women contemplating their future children automatically see a c-section as the safest option, due to their culture and hype around the issue. I know this is the case in places like Sri-Lanka.



I don't think fear should govern your decision, but in cases of extreme fear, i.e a phobia of vaginal birth, I would not judge the poor woman for choosing an elective c-section. Aside from those cases, talk to your doctor about your fears, do research online from websites with medical credentials, make your decision together with your partner (if possible) and tell everyone else to shut their mouth because it's none of their business.

Nicole - posted on 11/02/2012

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I would like to just add that fear shouldn't be guiding women in making this kind of decision. Yes. Birth is a scary thing to many women because society makes it scary. It is not scary. It is natural. It happens every day, has happened for thousands of years and will continue to happen every day for thousands of years. Each pregnancy is different and each woman labors differently.



While natural child birth is the safest option in most situations, c-sections, inductions and other interventions are sometimes necessary for the health and well-being of mother and baby. Let's remember that fear can push us toward unnecessary interventions. I think that women who are expecting should take it upon themselves (not solely their doctors) to investigate different birthing options to determine which is best for them.



Pardon my over-generalization here. We come from a generation of women who would listen to their doctors as if they were taking orders. Women who did not plan an active role in their own health care. Women who were not informed and had no idea that they should have been. Remember, our doctors have agendas too and it is important to find one who's philosophies most closely align with our own. I, personally, would rather have a doctor who urges women to give natural childbirth because women CAN do it and have a wonderful experience.



My first doctor, while wonderful, allowed me to fear birth. I requested an induction at 39 weeks and he agreed. There was no reason other than getting the baby out sooner and not having to wait with anxiety about when labor would start. This was not an appropriate response to my fears by me or my doctor. I was lucky that I labored relatively quickly and smoothly and that my son was born with minimal stress.



My second doctor, the one I see now, is more in-tune with the natural process. While she is fully capable of C-sections, VBACS, etc, she always urges the natural birthing process and does not "give in" to anxious women (like me the first time around) who just want the baby out. She has specifically said that a natural birth is *usually* the best option for women and their babies. After stripping my membranes at 39 weeks, my second son was born (completely naturally) 4 days later with minimal stress. Luck strikes twice.



Whatever the decision, make it with a complete knowledge about your own pregnancy and a very clear understanding of all available options. That way, there is no guessing or worrying about your decision. You make your decision, accept it and move on.



Jenny, I do feel, though, that the discussion on natural vs medical births is one worth having. There is information showing that interventions (like epidurals) can hinder the natural process of birth, leading to c-sections. I think we also need to keep in mind that, medically, c-sections used to once be a last resort because it is considered major surgery.



C-section rates in the US are alarmingly high, compared to other developed nations. Also, the infant mortality rate, despite all of these medical interventions, is higher than other developed nations. You are absolutely right that, despite your best planning, birth is unpredictable and women and their partners should prepare themselves. Things don't always go as planned. I do feel that women should do their best to embrace birth, listen to and work with our bodies and try to think logically and rationally about our fears and recognize them as just that. Fears. Fears that, many times, we never needed to worry about in the first place.



By no means do I intend to offend. We do not need to separate ourselves from our own experiences in order to be able to have an intelligent, insightful dialogue on the C-section vs Vaginal issue. We do, however, need to respect the ideas and feelings of others as this is a very personal and sensitive topic. Discussing this issue in any other manner would be to the detriment of us all, especially those looking for information to guide their decisions.

Jenny - posted on 11/02/2012

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Loved what you had to say Luana.

I agree with you, I also think there is no "safer" way. You can run into complications whichever way you choose to go. And yes, motherhood is hard enough how it is, and either way you are in some sort of pain so who gives a damn if the baby is pushed out of a vagina or taken out by c-section so long as both mother and baby are as healthy as can be.



I also think what matters is to not have to torture yourself over trying to make the right decision nor have to live with feeling guilty about how you ended up delivering your baby. The moment of birth is quite unpredictable no matter how much planning you do, so move on from this issue and let mothers get on with their life with their new baby.

Luana - posted on 11/02/2012

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I'm also expecting my first child and I am stunned at the way that women misinterpret being asked their option as an opportunity to judge each other! Motherhood is hard enough, can't we support each other? Ivy I don't think there is a better or safer way, but rather the best way for you and you will come to the right decision for you and your baby in time so don't take on anyone else's judgement! A traumatic vaginal birth can be as medically assisted and invasive as a c section. My mother split all the way through and passed out every time she tried to go to the bathroom for weeks afterward. My husbands mother delivered him only after the the assistance of forceps AND vacuum. I know women that have had elective c sections and those who have had emergency ones. My best friend had a 3 hour all natural birth with no tearing... Was any of them "right" or a better mother? No! What matters most is that they all left the hospital with beautiful healthy children, what happens in the delivery room is irrelevant compared to this. People who bring gods name into their judgement should be ashamed. And I'm not even religious, but it is very very offensive

Luana - posted on 11/02/2012

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I'm also expecting my first child and I am stunned at the way that women misinterpret being asked their option as an opportunity to judge each other! Motherhood is hard enough, can't we support each other? Ivy I don't think there is a better or safer way, but rather the best way for you and you will come to the right decision for you and your baby in time so don't take on anyone else's judgement! A traumatic vaginal birth can be as medically assisted and invasive as a c section. My mother split all the way through and passed out every time she tried to go to the bathroom for weeks afterward. My husbands mother delivered him only after the the assistance of forceps AND vacuum. I know women that have had elective c sections and those who have had emergency ones. My best friend had a 3 hour all natural birth with no tearing... Was any of them "right" or a better mother? No! What matters most is that they all left the hospital with beautiful healthy children, what happens in the delivery room is irrelevant compared to this. People who bring gods name into their judgement should be ashamed. And I'm not even religious, but it is very very offensive

Rachel - posted on 10/30/2012

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I can only speak for c-sections. My first was due to my doc being in a rush to deliver me. I believe for her benefit,not mine. As a result, I erred on the side of caution with my 2nd child. Had an elective c-section. New doctor this time. He, his staff, especially the anesthesiology crew were wonderful. It is hard to recover from! I recovered much more quickly the 2nd time. But, the female human body is much better prepared to handle natural (non surgical) childbirth. If I could have, either time, I would have. Lots less down time, no scar, no extra muscle/nerve damage. If there is no medical reason to have one, don't! I should have stood up to my first doctor and waited. She made it so there was no way possible to do so. Thank goodness my second Dr. was more than competent and on the ball! I am a firm believer that if you don't have to have surgery, don't elect to.

Jenny - posted on 10/30/2012

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Thanks Jacquie for sharing your opinion too :) I'm just so sick of people trumping the natural card on giving birth, and Pammy using "the creator" to prove her point to boot just got me fired up.

Just because its "natural" does not mean its the best choice each and every time. I think that's a no-brainer!



Good for you Jacquie, making the most informed decision you could for you and your baby regard to what is best. This way you didn't have a horrific natural birth or an emergency c-section to recover from on top of dealing with being a first time mum in her 40's andou're here to tell the story. Hurray for modern medicine!

Jacquie - posted on 10/29/2012

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Jenny, I totally agree. I couldn't even be bothered replying to Pamela's Post . Anyone who mentions 'Our Creator' and then infers the younger Generation 'has no brains' is regarded as no more than a troll in my book . BTW I'm 49yrs. I consider that the younger Gen is way more educated than Pammy gives them credit for.

After doing miles of research I chose to have a c-section for my only baby. I had him at the age of 44yrs,

I don't really want to dignify Pamela's post but I will in-case she has hurt and upset any 'moms to be' battling with this tough decision.

So here it goes Pammy,

My body = MY choice

My baby = MY choice

My money and MY private insurance = MY choice how to spend it. ( I have after all worked ]full time' since the age of 16 and paid for private insurance for 25 yrs)

My one and only chance to be a mother = MY choice to choose the safest way for my baby's

delivery.

I thank 'the Creator' for allowing us all to have 'free will'. I thank 'the Creator' for creating brilliant doctors,surgeon,anesthesiologist, etc. For without them my son would have drown in his own blood during labor, and I would have hemorrhaged to death (severe placenta accreta )

Once again , anyone who refers to Christianity 'the Creator', "Blessing be yours!" then insults young pregnant womens' intelligence with " Are you sure you weren't behind the door when they passed out the brains?" Well lets just say I think my local Pastor would raise his eyebrows and state that : 'Pammy hasn't really got a grasp of the Fundamental Christian Values'... to say the very least.

Like you Jenny I believe its " a personal choice for each woman and I don't think anybody else should judge or have a say. Their body, their say"

Jenny - posted on 10/29/2012

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Because I would rather have an inconspicuous scar just below my bikini line over having my vagina cut and stitched up. I have had both and both suck, but at least with a c-section everything down there was functioning as should be.



So much for the NATURAL WAY, refer back to the older generations of women who trusted their creator and ended up DEAD. LOL!!!! (Sarcastic.)



If giving birth naturally was such a clear cut better choice, it would be easier to choose that way, but it is NOT. Each case is individual and that's why some women choose it, because it's a better choice for them in their opinion.



In this modern day and age we have the option to choose and its a personal choice for each woman and I don't think anybody else should judge or have a say. Their body, their say.

Pamela - posted on 10/27/2012

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Why would any woman CHOOSE to have a c-section (major surgery where you are put under with a MAJOR anesthetic -which will affect the child), have layers of skin, veins, etc. CUT through with a sharp knife, be sewn back up and take months to heal...plus have a scar.....instead of delivering her child the NATURAL WAY.....through the vagina, like the Creator planned?



What is it with these younger generations of women? I guess you just want to help pay your doctor's yacht bill, or vacation or whatever....because that is EXACTLY what you do when you choose to have a c-section. WISE UP MY CHILD.....stop listening to a greedy doctor who simply makes more money....along with the hospital, anesthesiologist, etc.



C-sections are for EMERGENCIES.....when the baby is stressed and can't get through the birth canal, or too big to fit through the mother's pelvic bone structure!



May wisdom seep into your brain as you sleep so that you can realize that the Creator is no fool and built you to have a baby a certain way! I am truly amazed that any woman would even consider such a choice....Blessing be yours!



Are you sure you weren't behind the door when they passed out the brains? (My mother used to say that when I was considering foolish choices!) LOL!!!

Heidi - posted on 10/27/2012

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I can't tell you how natural birth feels "S", but i can tell you that i would never

ever opt for a c-sec. After having 2 and knowing how the pain is, never ever would i recommend it to anyone. Especially after my first, i couldn't sit, stand, lay down, switch my position in bed, go to the bathroom without my husband helping me for a good week and a half. It was the absolute worst pain i have ever felt in my whole life. I would spike fevers every night, i couldn't walk up or down the stairs. It was terrible. There is always the chance of infection with any surgery. A friend of mine had wicked infection after her c-sec and ended up in the hospital for a couple weeks. Every body is different. My sister had 3 c-sections and she healed much much easier than i did every time. I know people that had very easy natural births and was back at their every day normal within a couple weeks. You're always going to hear the bad and the good in every situation.

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I asked myself the same question and read as much as possible on the net about it. I was led to believe natural is better. Having had a natural birth 4 months ago, all I can say is that I wish I had decided for the c-section. The birth experience was horrible, and I had quite a few complications afterwards. Noone tells you how sore you will feel for weeks later, you're totally traumatised and won't even think about having sex again. Shorter recovery time is total nonsense. In this day and age, operations are very safe and there's no risk of infections if you do it in a proper hospital...the only thing I could think during delivery was why I didn't choose c-section.

Heidi - posted on 09/23/2012

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Sudha, Your doctor is the one who will make that decision. The doctor will know best what for you and your situation. My advise is just to talk to him and let him/her know all of your concerns and see what they think. I hope this helped a little. Good luck! =)

Sudha - posted on 09/22/2012

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Iam 70 kgs and i will be obese . I am scared of normal delivery due to labor pain. Is Cesarean will be better for me ? And Tips for getting a safe cesarean delivery Kindly help me

Heidi - posted on 09/12/2012

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No problem Yamini. Just keep in mind childbirth is the most natural thing you can do. However your little one gets here just keep in mind all that matters is that he or she is healthy and you stay healthy as well. =-)

Heidi - posted on 09/11/2012

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I had 2 C sections, Neither of which were my choice. With my first c-sec i had a whole lot of pain. I had a very very hard time healing. I couldn't even go to the bathroom by myself for a few days. I couldn't stand up or sit down on my own either. With my 2nd i had a much easier time. I think it was because with my first i was in labor for like 36 hours with no pain meds and i was literally exhausted. With my 2nd it was scheduled because he was breech. I can't tell you what natural labor feels like, i can tell you contractions hurt pretty bad, but there are epidurals and such for pain that you can get. Unless there is a medical reason, the doctor usually will not just let you have a c-section. There are more risks with a c-sec bc it is a major surgery. Full healing time is at least a month-a month and a half. Everything will work out in the end. Don't worry.

Yamini - posted on 09/11/2012

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i m 12 weeks pregnant and this is my first pregnancy.Since childhood i m unable to bear a minor pain.I am really scared of labor......Can anyone guide me is c-sec comfortable and wat is the extent of pain one has to go through...I cnt get procedure done on me..however post operstive pain i can still manage to bear..Kindly guide..

Dawn - posted on 12/21/2011

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I had a great c-section with my last one no pain, and I was up walking the same day, im sure the dr wouldnt have wanted me to but my daughter was in the nicu so i made myself walk

Wendi - posted on 10/06/2011

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i had an epidural and boy was it a god sent thing to have. Thank you epidural. it felt like an elephant was on my spine. I some major back labor. i had to wait a few hours for the epidural. wow! i felt it working instantly. i was all loopy and drugged up. You get to see how funny you look after wards too. I wasnt grouchy to my husband afterwards either too.

Wendi - posted on 10/06/2011

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I dont really know about being better but i had a vaginal birth. i read that people that have vaginal births heal faster.

Jenny - posted on 10/03/2011

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I love the choice you made Jacquie :) I like hearing that there are women out there willing to do what is right for their situation despite possible criticism for their choice.

Jacquie - posted on 10/02/2011

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Kelsey, I also chose to have a c- section and was delighted with the outcome. The procedure was quiet and calm, and I certainly wasn't drugged up . My husband and I enjoy every moment and shared it with my lovely doctor and his surgical team. ( smiles all round ) As for recovery, this was no problem at all. The incision was so small I was shocked to see that is wasn't even bandaged. Sure I was sore for a bit but I was okay after a week. Pain killers are very advanced these days. The reason I chose a c-section was because I was 44yrs old and having my first ( and only ) baby. It was my safest option and I don't regret it one little bit. :)

Brianna - posted on 09/25/2011

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under normal surcanstance vaginal is better and safer,,, i really wouldnt want to have a csection unless it was a emergency,,, my cusins heart stopped in the middle of her csection becuz of her epridural and she almost died so i totally like vaginal better and i didnthave a epridural when i had my daughter and dont plan to have one with any of my future kids

Kelsey - posted on 09/22/2011

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I had two C-sections. The first one was an emergency (no pushing involved) and the second one was by choice. I didn't mind them at all. In fact, it was super easy. The pain was tolerable and pretty easy to control.

Shara - posted on 08/23/2011

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I've had both and personally I would rather have a vaginal birth. The recovery from my c-section was terrible and painful, while after my vaginal birth I was up n running a few days later.

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