Clingy 2 y/o with another baby due in March. Help!!

Amanda - posted on 02/03/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Okay so I am due March 2nd and lately(For the past month and a half) my son has been really clingy to me. He refuses to listen to me but when it comes down to him having a nap or going to bed at night, he wants me laying with him. He will scream and cry if I don't stay in his room. Mind you, I have not stayed in there with him. I just tell him good night and tell him that I love him and close his door. Daemon has been throwing HUGE fits every night. He will smack mine and my hubby's face, he will scratch at us, kick us, pinch us and everything. I miss my sweet little baby boy. He will kick my tummy and everything. It breaks my heart when he does that and then begs me to stay in the room with him and I don't. I feel horrible every night when I walk out of that room and he is screaming. He does have a night light in there and he has slept in his own room with the door closed since he was 1. He has NEVER been a violent baby or anything. I'm sure it is a phase and part of the terrible twos but I don't know what to do with him. I am scared that he is going to lash out at Ronin when he is born. I know Daemon will make a great big brother. I just want to know why he is being so clingy and everything.
So my question is, has anyone else gone through that? Is he being clingy because he knows Ronin is going to be born soon. Is is part of his terrible twos phase or is he just going through a clingy stage?

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Kyndra - posted on 02/04/2009

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omg i am having the exact same thing. My daughter will be 2 in march and she would scream for hours when i would put her to bed. well i think what did it was i started putting her to bed an hour earlier and put a color changing night light in her room and started playing music for her. and she knows i have a baby in my belly. The tantrums are totally normal for a 2 yo. she hits me and scratches and throws stuff. it's just part of the toddler years. he also probably senses that the baby is coming soon and is probably feeling some jealousy over the attention to the pregnancy and the baby, which is alos totally normal. when toddlers have frustrations it often comes out in violence and tantrums, they dont know how else to deal with it. Just make sure now and especially after the baby is born that he has his time with just you and him so he doesnt feel left out, and let him help with the baby or give him a doll to feed and dress so he feels he has a part in it. and when my daughter throws tantrums if i know the cause i sit her down and explain to herr we dont throw the cup when you cant get the lid off ask mommy and i will help. If she's just overlly cranky i will have her go in her room to calm down. and i tell her you calm down and when your ready to be around other people come out, and usually she's in a better mood. Sorry it's so long but hopefully it helps

Elisha - posted on 02/04/2009

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I've been through this. My daughter had just turned 2 when my son was born and she was horrible! She is such a mild tempered little girl I was so surprised at the way she acted. But I think they start to feel a little insecure and crave the attention. Also, when your baby is born it will be hard at first, but give it a few months and he'll adjust to having a new baby in the house. The first month I was so scared of what i had gotten myself into, my daughter was so clingy and i had this totally dependent newborn....its a little overwhelming at first....but it gets easier.

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Amanda - posted on 02/05/2009

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Quoting Kyndra:

omg i am having the exact same thing. My daughter will be 2 in march and she would scream for hours when i would put her to bed. well i think what did it was i started putting her to bed an hour earlier and put a color changing night light in her room and started playing music for her. and she knows i have a baby in my belly. The tantrums are totally normal for a 2 yo. she hits me and scratches and throws stuff. it's just part of the toddler years. he also probably senses that the baby is coming soon and is probably feeling some jealousy over the attention to the pregnancy and the baby, which is alos totally normal. when toddlers have frustrations it often comes out in violence and tantrums, they dont know how else to deal with it. Just make sure now and especially after the baby is born that he has his time with just you and him so he doesnt feel left out, and let him help with the baby or give him a doll to feed and dress so he feels he has a part in it. and when my daughter throws tantrums if i know the cause i sit her down and explain to herr we dont throw the cup when you cant get the lid off ask mommy and i will help. If she's just overlly cranky i will have her go in her room to calm down. and i tell her you calm down and when your ready to be around other people come out, and usually she's in a better mood. Sorry it's so long but hopefully it helps


Thank you so much. I read everything to my hubby and I hope this helps. I am getting so overwhelmed as of late. I am bi-polar but have been taken off of medication until Ronin is due. I had been doing so well so they didn't feel like it was a bad decision. For the past two nights, after dealing with Daemon's anger issues amd then the long bed time, I have been having emotional break downs. After Daemon goes to bed is the only time my hubby and I have time to ourselves and lately, he wants to go to bed around 9:30 instead of 10:15-10:30. So it's been hard when I have to fight with Daemon until 9 and then I am in tears almost until 9:30. Again, thank you for all your help. I am at my wits end and have been fighting with this.

Amanda - posted on 02/04/2009

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Quoting Elisha:



Yes, my daughter did go back to her sweet self. :) She is such a great kid...but my little boy...he is a different story lol. I must say though, having two kids is wonderful, although rough at times, it is great to see the bond they have, she sure loves having a partner in crime lol.






Now I'm 5 1/2 months pregnant with my third and I'm scared to death because my little boy is much more clingy then my daughter ever was lol...





Glad to hear that she went back to her sweet self. I'm looking forward to having two kids but it scares me to death too. Daemon is already a handful and I have a feeling Ronin will be the same way.



Good luck with your little boy.

Elisha - posted on 02/04/2009

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Yes, my daughter did go back to her sweet self. :) She is such a great kid...but my little boy...he is a different story lol. I must say though, having two kids is wonderful, although rough at times, it is great to see the bond they have, she sure loves having a partner in crime lol.



Now I'm 5 1/2 months pregnant with my third and I'm scared to death because my little boy is much more clingy then my daughter ever was lol...

Amanda - posted on 02/04/2009

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Quoting Elisha:

I've been through this. My daughter had just turned 2 when my son was born and she was horrible! She is such a mild tempered little girl I was so surprised at the way she acted. But I think they start to feel a little insecure and crave the attention. Also, when your baby is born it will be hard at first, but give it a few months and he'll adjust to having a new baby in the house. The first month I was so scared of what i had gotten myself into, my daughter was so clingy and i had this totally dependent newborn....its a little overwhelming at first....but it gets easier.


Thanks. At least there is some light at the end of this dark tunnel. I'm glad my hubby is taking a week off of work to help me out right after I get out of the hospital. Did your daughter go back to her sweet self?

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