Clingy Toddler

Alisha - posted on 10/10/2012

Hello



I just got off Mirena on the first of October and for the past few times i have been experiencing cramps when i have sex with my daughters father. I am not sure if i am pregnant, but my 3 year old daughter (who hasnt slept with me since she was mayb 1 1/2). I am really confused because a lot of research says i shouldnt take a HPT until Oct 31st but i am also aware its possible to be pregnant due to us having unprotected sex the night before removal. Is there any one out there who can help me or at least give me some advice or tips. I am soo confused and just do not know what to do..



My fiancee and I are TTC so if i am we will be excited, just a little nervous.!

Samantha - posted on 08/28/2012

My 3 year old daughter is getting very "clingy" lately. As far as i know i am not pregnant. Could i be and not know it? or is this just a stage she is going through since she is with me all the time and not in day care or anything?

Nikki - posted on 04/27/2012

My 12 month old son (he just turned 1 this month) he is also clingy than usual, different when he was younger, now he wants ti be hug and carried all the time and followe me around the house, he wants to be rocked to sleep which i never do when he was younger and hes acting a lil different than before, im 20 wks pregnant

Lisa - posted on 04/25/2011

Most kids have a period of extreme clinging around that time. Mine did it at 17 months and 15 months and both were only for me even though I was not pregnant at either time. So it is probably normal. Also to reduce jealousy we started treating the new baby as a family member as soon as we told our toddler by giving her kisses and talking to her (nightnight, I love you, ect). Best of luck.

Arlene - posted on 04/22/2011

Thank you so much yes its been really helpful

Melissa - posted on 04/22/2011

oh my gosh my son is like the same exact way! tomorrow is the beginning of my 6th week, my son is 16 months, and it's like ever since i got pregnant he's so clingy again! he hasn't been clingy to me since he was 8 months old, and he's been doing so great, and i feel like he must sense or know somehow that i'm pregnant. i'm thinking of getting a baby doll and carrying it around the house with me to get him used to seeing me with another baby. he's never jealous or anything when i play with friends baby's, but i don't know if he'll act differently knowing this baby isn't going away, you know? that way if there's any bumps in the road, hopefully we can smooth them out before hand and get him excited about a new baby :0)

Kaleigh - posted on 04/21/2011

My son is getting clingy recently, he's three I'm 33 weeks pregnant it was bound to happen some time. I know its exhausting but now is the best time to get in all the extra snuggles and whatnot, even though you're tired and physically strained this is the best time for them to hit this stage because you don't yet have the newborn also demanding your attention. Just give as much extra attention as you can now and don't feel guilty when you can't, don't worry about spoiling her she needs to see that when she needs affection you're still there to give it but let her know yes you need breaks :) think of it for prep when her sibling arrives it wont be as jarring to her. Now my son is three so there's no doubt in my mind his demands are growing at the same rate as my belly lol but for a 1 1/2 yr old I think she'd be going through a clingy stage anyway, I know my son did. So that might be part of it and it might also just be temporary. Do your best and don't worry 'this too shall pass'

As for encouraging her to calm down with the clingyness, maybe start showing her the difference between needing affection and wanting attention. Might be a little early to do this but hey its worth a shot right. With my son he does the "mommy mommy mommy" thing all the time, maybe he wants me to make his juice in that situation I tell him to ask daddy and let my hubby do that one even if my son throws a fit, sorry but thats the way it goes. When he does it because he wants cuddles then I immediately give in. Things like that. If its a problem of her constantly wanting up then try giving in until you can't and then explaining that no mommy needs a rest this time why don't you sit beside me or something like that, and then the next time pick her up. Show her that just because you can't do something once doesn't mean you never will again and that just because you did something once doesn't mean you can do it every time she asks. Not sure what your family dynamic is but if your s/o is around/grandma, etc. maybe enlist them in doing some extra one on one time with her, teach her that she doesn't ALWAYS need things from mommy, that another loved one can give attention too. We're doing this with my son and it seems to be going well, every 2/3 times he's running to me for something but every now and then if I say not right now Aiden he'll go to daddy and it wont be an issue. Sometimes theres just no other option though and they want mom specifically so you really gotta pick and choose your battles. Best of luck and I hope I helped a little :)