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feel like im cheating my 1 year old son??

Amanda - posted on 02/14/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )

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okay, so im 41 weeks pregnant right now, i was due a week ago. but for the past while i havent been able to play with my son as much as i would like too. i mean i try, but i get sore, and im hoome all day alone with him. i feel like when this baby is born, hes going to hate me, bwcause im guna be soo busy with my newborn. i feel like ive cheated him out of being an only child for atleast a little while and now im never guna be able to do things on my own with him. i know hes not going to remember ever being an only child. i just want to know if any body has had an experiance like this and how things turned out for you once your second child got here. my kids are only 13 months apart.. Also my mom keeps offering to take my son for a couple days while im in the hospital and so i can settle in my house with the new baby, but im not sure what to say because just thinking about aaden not being here makes me want to ball my eyes out. i feel like hed think im getting rid of him because i have a new baby... i dont know. i just am emotional and its hard to think my baby wont be my baby anymore

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Kaleigh - posted on 02/15/2011

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First off you aren't depriving him of being an only child you are giving him a sibling which is one of the greatest gifts. Don't feel guilty about having to rest it would be the same if you were ill and there is nothing wrong with him learning to play independantly. Just make sure you're compensating by giving lots of snuggle time and things like that where you can spend time together without having to strain yourself. I was an only child until I was 11 and for 11 years I begged my mom for a sibling all my cousins had siblings and I was always jealous, my sister irritated the hell out of me but I still love her and my mom and I never once felt cheated out of my only child status I was glad to be rid of it, one is a very lonely number. My son is 3 and our daughter is due June 9th my mom has offered to babysit him more often once the baby is here and I think that will be great for him not only to have a break from home but he will also get special one on one time with grandma. The main thing is balance you just need to set aside alone time with your oldest when you can and include him as much as possible with the new baby. To help your oldest so he doesn't feel displaced really play up the older sibling role instead of saying the baby or the new baby.

The main thing to remember hun is they will both be your babies no matter what just because your oldest becomes a big sibling doesn't change how you feel about him and he will always be your baby no matter how old he gets or how many kids you have.

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