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My son will be 3 when the baby arrives, how will i cope?

Danielle - posted on 11/16/2008 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am terrified that i won't be able to cope. I don't have any family nearby or anyone to help out, other than my fiance'. I know that my son is only 2 1/2 now and alot wil change in the next 7 months, but i'm still so scared. I'm only 19. This baby was planned 100% and we want him/her more than anything, But reality diden't really hit until i got the positive test. I don't regret this or anything. I just want some reassurance i suppose and advice from mums with children with a similar age gap to mine.

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Briana - posted on 11/18/2008

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I'm expecting my third, and they will each be exactly two years from the next one. I have to say that one of the best things to do with the older one is let him help as much as possible. They love to help take care of the baby, and that really abates the jealousy. Let him bring you diapers, bottles, blankets, etc. At three, he will love to help you give the baby a bath and sing to the baby. You will still have lots of time for your son at first because the new baby will sleep a lot. As the baby sleeps less and less, your son will gradually get used to the idea that he is not the only center of attention anymore. You'll be fine.

Megan - posted on 11/18/2008

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Well I am sure you will be fine. I am expecting my second in May and my daughter will only be 2 exactly. Not to mention my husband is currently deployed and wont be home till the new baby is 5 months old. Talk about not sure if you can cope.

One idea I have had is just putting the toddler in daycare one day a week just to give you a break one day with just the little one. Also by the time your baby is due you will be able to look inot preschool for your toddler. They start at 3. So that may help you and your older child to not feel like he or she is being ignored while mommy has to take car of the new baby. Good Luck!

Tammy - posted on 11/18/2008

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You will be fine... take it one day at a time. You don't have to conquer the world! Make sure both babies are fed and taken care of, and the rest doesn't matter. If the clothes don't get washed, the kitchen gets a little messy... it is okay! Deal with the moment at hand... you will see that you get into a routine and life will get easier. When your oldest starts acting out, give a little time to him. Kids will usually act up to get attention... if you are giving your oldest a daily dose of "special" time, it will help eliminate some of his need to gain your attention. Hang in there... it is scary... but it is sooooo wonderful.

Emily - posted on 11/17/2008

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I am due in May and the due date is 3 days before my other child's 3rd birthday. I am experiencing fears as well. My son is not liking potty training/big boy bed, or the idea of sharing his room. As long as your fiance is around you should be just fine. But something I am being told by my family is to remember to set a little time for Colin everyday. Even if it is only 20 minutes of playing at first.

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