On mat leave with 2 year old and 8 month old baby and I feel like I am going crazy

Mae - posted on 12/01/2012

Hi there! I have a 2yr and 8 months old and a 7 month old son. I know exactly how you feel because we are on the same boat. My advice to you is get back to work asap! I just did and it made me happier. We just need some changes esp if we don't get any help.We love.our kids to bits but what we are doing is just too much even for anyone "normal" so dont jump into conclusion.that you are depressed. Just make sure though that you have someone to help you out when you have to get back to work even if you have to pay for it..just do it because it will help your sanity, your relationship with your husband and children. Hugs ")

Melissa - posted on 02/15/2012

Your welcome!! I am glad to help where I can. I have to say you sound just like me! I am that go to person and the one that handles all the crisis in my family also! I had to learn the hard way that if you dont take care of yourself,,,how will you take care of anyone else?? when your at the point where you feel helpless and dont know what to do ,,to me that is a signal that you need help...remember that your family is probably the best ones to turn to...dont feel ashamed or feel like you dont wanna bother anyone with this because im sure they care enough to help you and the best thing is ...eventually you will be back to NORMAL...it sounds weird to say but it is true....

and we are WOMEN we are the strongest creatures on this earth!!! we can do anything! lol....I hope everything goes good for you,,enjoy those babys u have a beautiful family and they do need you!

if you ever need to talk just send a message!!

Melissa - posted on 02/15/2012

thanks Melissa. I figured I wasn't alone and it's nice to hear from someone who knows what I'm feeling. I questioned whether or not I may be suffering from PPD. I'm actually a mental health worker and have felt helples about this which is beyond ridiculous. My biggest issue is asking for help. You made a good point that if no one knows how you feel they can't offer to help. I am the person who deals with all the crises therefore am not allowing myself to deal with my own. I have started to talk a little to some people seeking out some assitance/breaks etc but I need to get better at admitting that I can't do it all. Thanks for listening :) I too thought that once I'm at work I will miss being home but at this point I really want to go back!!!

Melissa - posted on 02/14/2012

hey melissa ,

I have a 3 year old and a 6 month old and I am a single parent now...remember that your hormones may not be exactly right it takes a while to feel normal after giving birth if you are getting really irritated with your kids ,,you might wanna talk to your doc to make sure it is not postpartom depression,,,unfortunately ,,this can be serious BUT it is normal to feel pulled in three diffrent directions and hopefully your husband will give you at least 20 mins when he does come home at night just to let you take a shower maybe even take a walk or something,,,that will make a big diffrence for you. you sound just like me,,,wanting to go back to work but when you actually get there your gonna miss being home? lol...you are normal and with time it will get easier! if your husband is not helping you alot just sit him down and ask him for that 20 mins and let him know that you understand that when he gets home you know he is tired and that is understandable but taking care of two lttle ones is a job or two in itself!!! do you have friends or family that can come by an hour or two a day and help you out a little? I learned the hard way that if you dont tell people how you feel they will never know!

I hope this makes sense for you if you would ever like to talk just message me and just know that you are not alone!!!!!