perhaps Adoption?

Elizabeth - posted on 12/16/2010

My husband went through the same thing I guess because he knew no more video games after the baby is born. I don't think you should feel so hopeless, give him time and just try to talk to him about everything your feeling. good luck!

Alison - posted on 12/16/2010

I think you need to ask yourself what is worse
1) Raising 2 kiddies you love by yourself
or
2) Adopting one out and raising only one with a lazy non supportive partner?

Which ever seems less painful to live with for the rest of your life, look into it, but don't make decisions. I once had a boyfriend that did that and I thought 'hhmm so he wants to play video games like a child, well I will treat him like one then!''

I told on him to his mother and how he wasn't helping with baby etc, it worked lol!!

Brianna - posted on 12/15/2010

I think its kinda crazy that you tried for a baby and now wanna give it away?! My hubby isnt very helpful either but im not about to get rid of my 1year old daughter or the new baby growing in my belly. I no it will be hard but its worth it. I mean I dont have anything against adoption... its just well i think that just because you think ur bf is going to be unhelpful that you should give it away is sooo crazy. you have a 2 year old can u imagine giving him away? Maybe you just being hormonal? i no ive been acting crazy with my hormones lately... i have a rule of thumb which is if im on my period or pregnant i dont make any huge decisions because i no im not in the right mind.

MindyAnn - posted on 12/15/2010

hello. So what did you decide to do then?

Crystal - posted on 08/19/2010

Just because he is a loser doesnt mean you can't take care of this baby yourself. I know it will be hard but there are women out there who are raisng 3 and 4 kids by themselves. Dont let these precious child end up in the system and have a hard life of wondering why Momma didnt want me. God gave you knowledge to care for this child, and I think you should do youor best to care for him or her yourself. Good luck!

NAdia - posted on 08/13/2010

Hi, Kimberlea...I kinda have an idea of the situation your in but let me just tell you your child and unborn are much more important that a man so if anyone should go it should be the man!!!!But before the hard decition I think you and he should sit down and have a talk about it...Even if you have to cut the electrical courd of the video game!!!!Just get his attention in a way and talk, If he doesn't want to become a better father I think he should go...Anyways hope this is usefull!!!

Erin - posted on 08/06/2010

Adoption is a good option if you feel that you cannot care for the child. I am adopted and I love my family very much! The best situation would be to keep the baby. One thing I have learned that just because you share biology with a child doesn't make a good parent. You are obviously a wonderful mother to your first child. When my husband left after my first child was born, I moved in with my parents for help. She is a very well adjusted. My husband now has adopted her as her "sperm donor" did not want to have anything to do with her. We have a wonderful life together! I hope this brings you some comfort.

Kaleena - posted on 08/02/2010

drop him. you'd be better off without him. but dont give up your baby you'll end up regreting it and when your son finds out he'll want to know why you kept him and not this one and the same goes for this one. you will find someone who will love you and help you even though they are not his kids. there is always support out there for women and children move in with your parents if you have to get help