Struggling with whether to have a third

Geilyn - posted on 02/08/2012

I am a momma of 3 little girls, age 4,3, and 1 and yes it is a bit stressful at time and financially its a struggle but it will pay of. My girls are starting to build a speacial bond, they are close in age so they enjoy most the same games and stuff. So yeah, If you want them close then go ahead. Hope this helps some. I am still working on losing the weight though, since they are so close I barely lost weight in between each pregnancy.



-Geilyn

Sam - posted on 02/07/2012

congrats!

Sarah - posted on 02/07/2012

Just a quick update from my last response- I am excited to share we are pregnant now with our third. My daughter and son are 17 months apart, and my son and this baby will be 20 months apart. The baby is due in October.

Sam - posted on 02/05/2012

I currently have 4 kids, 5 1/2, 3, 15months, and 9weeks so my younger three are the situation you are in right now except you are debating and I was already pregnant with my youngest, but if your 2 year old is relatively self reliant in that she can and likes to go play by herself its not to hard to have three younger kids. My oldest goes to school during the day so its me home with the three younger ones. My kids all like to play on their own alot so its not too hard to have the girls go play while I have to do the babies feedings and things, My 15month old daughter is the most jealous but I feel a little bad as I feel like we robbed her of some of her "being the baby" time. She isnt much over a year old and not the youngest anymore as her and her brother are only 13 months apart. None of my kids are too far apart I have 4 under the age of 6, some days it is very challenging. i wouldnt change it for the world thou my kids are all close in age and get along as well as three girls can get along :)

The difficulty in having another one thou will all depend on your kids personality and demeanor's in the sense of weather they are jealous of a new baby or mommy clingy, both make things a lil more difficult :)

Kristy - posted on 02/05/2012

we have a 4.5 year old, an 21 month old (35months apart) and we are due with our 3rd in August giving a gap of 27months even though we are pregnant my husband is still on the fence about whether we have done the right thing or especially with he's family not every one is happy about our pregnancy some even openly making comments that we have no idea how expensive a child is.. ( hello we have 2 kids we know how much they cost) it's nice to have a close age gap so the kids can play with each other and grow up together

Amanda - posted on 01/16/2012

Well I have two boys that are 19 months apart and I'm currently pregnant with my third. It is a lot more difficult to chase after my 3yr old and 2yr old now that I'm pregnant and this pregnancy is not going as smoothly as the first two did, the stress level for me has increased considerably too, I am a single mother and have a lot on my plate though.

Sarah - posted on 01/16/2012

I am in the same position. Currently, my husband and I are deciding whether or not to have a third. My daughter is almost 2 1/2, and my son is almost 1, (17 months apart). We tried for a third last month with no success. This past week our kids had stomach flus, roseola, and now a cough! It has been tough to take of two sick kiddos- my husband now questions how we would handle three! I am a stay at home mom, but plan to return to work when the kids are school aged.

Kristy - posted on 01/13/2012

I have a 4 year old daughter, a two year old son and i am due in 12 weeks with my third. My first two are 23 months apart and this one will be 28 months apart. I like having htem close in age. Im in Australia and my children attend family day care which has the same rules and regs as day care centres but is so muych cheaper. It is an hourly rate that u only pay for your hours of care not open to close. Me and my partner both work too.

Julie - posted on 01/10/2012

I work full time, and so does my husband. My husband works at a small Christian school/daycare, and my kids both attend there for free right now. However, my husband will (hopefully) be leaving that job at the end of the school year and getting into an IT job. So daycare costs are definitely a concern for us as well. I do office work (coding) for a home health agency, and we are in the middle of transitioning to electronic medical records. That will be completed about 3 months before the baby is born. Once that is established, I am optimistic that I will be able to work at least part time from home, so we can reduce daycare costs by only enrolling the kids part time. Some IT jobs are work from home, too, so it is a possibility that my husband might be working from home. In about a year, we are hopefully moving to Wyoming (we are in California now) where the cost of living is a little lower (especially if we are both working from home and can keep our current jobs).

Melissa - posted on 01/10/2012

thanks Julie...My first 2 are 21 months apart and if we have a third will be about that as well (if it goes as planned lol). I just realized today how expensive daycare will be. Ahhhhhh! ....Are you a stay at home mom?

Julie - posted on 01/09/2012

I am pregnant with my third right now. Like you, my husband and I thought we would try for a third if we had 2 boys or 2 girls. We had a son, then a daughter, and for months after my daughter was born, we thought we were done. But very slowly we both realized we did want another. I am ridiculously excited about this pregnancy. My first two are 23 months apart, and this one will be about the same. I think around 2 years apart is a great age difference. I'm due in July.