toddler and expecting another

Jessy - posted on 08/08/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

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when and how did you tell your toddler that you where expecting another baby? my son will be 3 in oct and im only 12 weeks or so.

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Candisse - posted on 10/25/2010

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i told my so straight away he has a habit of jumping onmy belly when we have uddles so he needed to told but he was one the first time but this tim aound he was two i found out on his birthday i was pregnant i just said mummy has a little baby in her belly so now so we have to be gentle and i make it exciting if h is awake i show im her kicking and will give her a prod back..my middle child will only just about be 11 months when i have her so he is too young to undetand anything but he is gentle souled person so he isnt into jumping and such...i think telling them they re going to be a big brother is exciting enough and a count down in the last couple of weeks helps and anything to do with setting up a nursery they enjoy doing =)

Danika - posted on 10/24/2010

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i'm due at christmas but by the looks of things she will be coming early like my other girls,

Rachel - posted on 10/24/2010

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We told our son( 3 at the time) soon as we found out. I wanted to wait until I was about 6 months along but I guess my husband was so excited since we had tried for so long and he just blurted it out! lol My son has been great the whole time,asking questions. Some I am not for sure how to answer like how does the baby come out! Kaleb is now 4 and loves to touch my belly and see if he can feel his little brother move, he loves to give him hugs and kisses. I worry how he will react and adjust once Kaden gets here. I worry if I will be able to give him enough attention and how I will balance everything, but I know in the end God knows what he is doing and everything will work out. Kaleb has gotten a lot more clingy here lately, and has started saying he is mommys baby, when not too long ago he was saying no he was not a baby anymore but a big boy. I just tell him he will always be mommys baby and mommy has 2 babies now. He needs a lot of reassurance now it seems but thats ok, his little mind is still too immature to understand it all so I will continue to reassure him. Good luck with your new addition!!!!!!!!!!!

Lorraine - posted on 10/19/2010

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Hi i have a 3 year old to and due the 13th feb, before we were pregnant we new he wanted a baby because he would say where's my baby or i hold baby when we go visit his cousins who are only baby's.but still i didn't really start telling him alot untill about 4-5 month's i did tell him at 3 month that mummy has a baby in the tummy but that was it, because he is a cling on to and has had me all to himself. Now that i'm starting to show he can notice so he gives the baby kisses & cuddles and now i say he is going to be a big brother & have a sister, i just talk a little bit to say r you going to be mummy's little helper and help change the baby's nappy and that's why i was thinking of getting him a doll to but good luck i'm sure there will still be jealousy when the baby comes.

Nichola - posted on 10/15/2010

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My son turned 2 in July and I'm now exspecting around June I told him right away I don't think he really understands though but I have gotten books about babies from the library and just talk about it all the time...we also have gone to visit friends who just had babies so he could see real tiny babies....I'm just gonna try to involve him as much as I can....someone on another group suggested to me to have the new baby get their big brother or sister a gift which I thought was a cute idea

Gracie - posted on 10/13/2010

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i just recently had my second child and i have a lil boy who just turned 18 months old...we told him as soon as we found out..we took him to all the doc appts so he got to hear the babys heartbeat everytime and see him on the ultrasound..but he never truely understood what was goin on he just knew that mommy was gettin big and her belly moved a lot but once we had him and he got to see him i think he understood better

Pip - posted on 10/12/2010

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Hi, I told our son (2.5yrs) as soon as we found out, we took him to the ultrasound and he was saying baby sister in mummy's tummy, he also now pulls his shirt up and asks me if he has a baby in his tummy too? As soon as bub movements are big enough then i will have him feeling my belly. He helped me unpack the boxes of clothes, and we ask him if he wants a brother or sister (changes everytime you ask). If we are around babies I have a cuddle and to let him get used to me holding another child. i found the book "I'm a new big brother" online on Booktopia.com.au, not that, that will help much if your in the states, but google it! Good Luck

Jessy - posted on 08/26/2010

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thanks guys! so im thinking im gonna buy that book " big brother/ sister" read it to him then me and his daddy will tell him.... did anyone take their child to see the gender of the baby in the ultrasound? i was thinking about it so he could see it and hear the heart beat. im just nerves to tell him is that weird? he is such every ones lil guy! i hope every one has a connection with this one too!

Melissa - posted on 08/26/2010

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hello! I wanted until I was about how far along you are, out of the first trimester. I just wanted to wait until then because during the first trimester it is most likely that if you are going to have a miscarriage that is when it will happen, having to have that conversation with a 3 year old is something I did not want to do. She was and is super excited about her brother coming- the more time they have to get used to the idea is better,

Sarah - posted on 08/25/2010

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I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter and my husband and I told her as soon as we found out. She understands that there is a baby in there and she puts her head on my tummy and Im only 12 weeks. We even took her to the first ultrasound so she could hear the heartbeat and to the last dr appointment to hear the heartbeat again. We want her to be involved in this pregnancy as much as possible.

Jessy - posted on 08/23/2010

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where do u find the book " im a big sister/brother" i looked at walmart and couldn't find it?

Tara Lee - posted on 08/23/2010

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My DD is almost 2(Sept) and is very much a Mommy's girl, I also am worried about jealousy (she will be 27 months when our son is born). But she knows her baby brother is in mommy's tummy and tries to talk to him. I also just picked up a book called 'I'm a big sister" and we read it every day. I don't know how much she truly understands. Good Luck!

Natalie - posted on 08/20/2010

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I just told mine that i had a baby in my tummy and he didn't really get it but we made sure he was careful with mommy and that he knew there was a baby in there... he would talk to my belly sometimes... i just depends on your little one but i would just tell him/her there is a baby in there and it will come out and be their brother or sister... they won't get it till the baby is out anyway

Jessy - posted on 08/19/2010

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that a good ideal! i just worry that my son wont do so good cuz he is very much the center of the world lol hes the 1st grandchild on bith sides ad 1st born of mine and my husbands!!!

Hillary - posted on 08/19/2010

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My oldest child just turned 3 when my second was born. A friend of mine got my 3 year old a "big brother" book which we read over and over again. In the book, the new baby was called "Baby". When I read, I would replace the word "Baby" with the name "Aaron" and I replaced the big brother's name with "Alex", my son's name. It helped him prepare for the new baby.

Jessy - posted on 08/10/2010

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aww so did it seem to help once the baby came home. where they very jealous or mean? thats something my son would say to me love what kids come up with!

Adrienne - posted on 08/10/2010

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I waited until I was about 4 or 5 months pregnant to tell my boys they were 2 and 1 years old. We would try to get them to feel the baby move. I showed them ultrasound pictures. Asked them what name they liked better. Read them a kids book about bringing home new baby. The funniest thing my oldest son said during my pregnancy was "Wow, Your Big mom!" and he ran to me and hugged my stomach.

Nicole - posted on 08/10/2010

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I have a 3 year old daughter (4 in March) and a 16 month old (2 in April) and I'm due Feb. 5, 2011 (14 weeks). I told my oldest that there is a baby in mommy's tummy and now she asks every day if the baby feels good. My youngest doesn't understand but she sees her sister talking to tummy and she tries to talk to it and pats it.

Danika - posted on 08/09/2010

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my toddler is only 16 months now and doesn't understand at all. she will only be 20 months when this next one comes and i don't know how she will handle it. she doesn't like to share me with her big sister who is almost 6 so i think she will be very angry and jealous at first when i bring home a new sibling for her. but i think it wont be long until she deals with it. i have bought her a toy baby, pram, cot, high chair and things for christmas as thats when this next one is due in hopes that we can both have babies together.

Jessy - posted on 08/09/2010

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my son loves books maybe i can buy some about babies and big brothers!! thanks i hope i will be fine :)

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Yes my 2 yr old is very spoiled to and got worse as he started knowing a baby was coming. He has a heart condition that caused me to give him alot of attention. Just continue showing Love to ALL (husband, son , and new baby)! I promise you will be fine! I also read books to my boys about having a new baby in the house.

Jessy - posted on 08/08/2010

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hi ShaNele! thanks for the response i worry cuz im a stay at home mommy so my son his very jealous of me some times he dont even like for his daddy to give me hugs. lol ... how do u tell a 3 yr old in a way they understand? i was thinking when i get further along i was gonna buy my son a baby doll and let him take care of it or something. i know i still have a long time but i just worry about him cuz EVERYONE spoils him !!!!

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Hi Jessy! I have a 2 year old that will be 3 in November, and a 3 yr old turning 4 in October. As you start developing more and your baby starts moving in your belly I would start involving you son with touching your belly. Everyday I ask my 2 yr old who's in there? or Where's the Baby? and he will tell me Baby or point to my tummy. I will admit now that it is getting closer he is starting to be more attached to me, but I just continue to show them love everyday and will continue to do so when my new little one gets here. By the way I am 9 months prego :) You will be fine!

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