All Communities > Moms with Toddlers Expecting New Baby > VERY moody with #2 .... HELP!!!!

VERY moody with #2 .... HELP!!!!

Sheena - posted on 07/10/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

43

42

My boyfriend and i (my 2 yr olds dad) just got back together about 8 months ago after being broken up for a year or so. We were sooooooo happy & EXTRA happy when we found out we were pregnant again! Well i am 10 weeks and ever since last week i have been soooooooo bitchy to him. I feel SOOOOOO bad but i cant help it! I have the LOWEST self esteem right now! I went from a size 11/13 juniors before my 1st child and now im an 18 plus size! I have never been so down on myself & soooo bitchy towards ANYONE! When i was pregnant with my son, i was bitchy in the beginning too but not this bad. I think its because i know i will gain even MORE weight and im wicked down about it. ANYYYYY feedback on what i should do or how i can calm down with this 2nd baby? My boyfriend and i have done NOTHING but argue and its all because of me! I hateee it!!! When will it stop???? HELP!!!!!

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms

2 Comments

View replies by

Maria - posted on 07/19/2009

14

18

This is my 3rd pregnancy, and I totally know what you're going through. With my second pregnancy, I got to the point where I couldn't control it. I just hated everything my boyfriend (now husband) did. When it got to that point, my doctor put me on Zoloft for depression. You may have a chemical imbalance, and you can't control it. Tell your boyfriend that you realize how you've been, and you are looking for a way to cure it, since you can't control it. Make sure he knows you want to change before you lose him! If he thinks you're not going to change, he may start shutting you out mentally, then all together. I urge you to talk to your doctor about depression. Hope that helps!

Tana - posted on 07/11/2009

51

19

I had the same problem. I talked to my Dr. about it and he said that it would calm down in my second trimester, which it did. (I was surprised.) I have no good suggestions on how not to be bitchy, but I would say explain to your boyfriend that you're sorry and you don't mean to backlash at him but it's coming with the territory right now and hopefully soon your hormones will even out.

As for your weight, don't worry about it. As bad as it sounds, it is an upbeat note: you could always have lots of morning sickness (like I did) and just regurgitate the majority of your weight back up. I know, I know...sounds horrible, but that's what happened to me. So you might not gain any weight. The baby might just devour your weight for you, plus you'll be running after your toddler, which helps. That's what I'm going through now. Running after my son really seems to be keeping me in shape. I'm not doing anything else special besides being a mom. So it's ok. Your boyfriend loves you the way your are and so does your son, so you should too. It's hard, and frusturating, but you'll get through this and I'm sure you'll be even stronger for doing so.

I hope this helps. If not, or if so, good luck either way.

Want to find out the opinions of this community?

Add Poll