what to do with a 2 year old & a newborn

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I need ideas for things to do with a 2 year old while taking care of a newborn. I'll have some help but for the most part I'll probably have to entertain both boys...

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Melissa - posted on 03/30/2013

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I'm about to be in the same club, guys. I have a two year old right now who will be turning three in December and I am due with my second in September. I am hoping that things will be easier once she goes to Head Start or Pre-K but I don't know how long that will be. There's the waiting list and all to deal with, even though she's pre-registered. Until she get's that going she will probably be bored as sin but we usually are in the winter anyway. Lol. She's gotten to that "Little Mommy" stage so I'm hoping that will make the transition easier. She LOVES babies and loves to feed them, hold them, burp them, etc. etc. HOWEVER, that can also cause problems if she were to try doing these things on her own. Which, considering all the times I catch her in the fridge getting people food and drinks or opening the dishwasher to do the dishes, she most likely will. At this point my biggest worry is whether or not I will have everything we need in time for the baby! Unlike everyone else, I got rid of EVERYTHING baby except a couple of her outfits. At this point we are pretty sure, however, that we are having a boy, not a girl. So wish me luck on that point. :)

Diane - posted on 06/05/2009

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My daughter is 2 and our son is 3 months. It's actually easier than it sounds. We do stuff like let her hold the bottle when we're feeding him and put bottles in the sink. We also do things like picking out 2 outfits for the baby and then letting her pick which on he gets to wear. We also tell her to kiss the baby's head to make his hair grow. We do our best to not make her feel stepped on. So if she's trying to interact with the baby we never discourage it, unless it's a safety issue. Babies sleep alot, so when your new little one is napping you can take it as a chance to play with your 2 year old. If I need some fresh air I just put the baby in the stroller and push him around the yard while I'm playing with my daughter. Basically we try to make her feel included as much as possible with the new baby, and try to make special one on one time with her whenever we can.

Brandie - posted on 08/04/2009

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Hi Kirsten. I am in the same exact situation as you! I have a 2 yr old that will be 3 in 10/09 and a newborn that is in her 6th wk. It has been TOUGH, to say the least. The first 2 wks were HELL because we all got a cold. My toddler is also a mamma's girl and when she is sick I am all she wants. It was sooo hard because I am breastfeeding the baby. My toddler were get upset and want me to hold her when I was breastfeeding. Now that she is better and weeks have passed, she is adjusting well.



As for finding things to do...OMG! I feel so bad for my toddler because I am kinda tied down to the baby. The hardest thing is that my newborn is a fussy baby. I have to hold her and rock her to sleep. She will sleep about 45-60mins at a time. Between feedings I try to do houswork and play with my toddler. I read to her, go in her room and play with her toys, color, etc. One thing that she does alot and I hate it watch her movies. It occupies her, but I hate her watching so much tv. I try to get her to go outside, but most of the time she doesn't want to. I wish I could do more stuff like go to the park, take her swimming, etc. but it's so hard because I have the baby to tend to also and the breastfeeding makes it hard too.



Some moms on here have suggested finding a mommy play groupd with toddlers and newborns....good idea, but I haven't had the time to find one.



I do get down and sad about this situation. I look forward to the weekends, because my husband is there so that we can go places. I just have to keep reminding myself that next summer will be better because the baby will be 1yr old and mobile and playing with my oldest. Next summer will be so much more fun than this summer. I just have to sacrifice this time now........good luck to you.

J'Lynn - posted on 08/05/2009

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so now that i have a little more experience juggling 2 kids (my oldest is two and my youngest is 3months old) its actually wasn't as hard as i thought it was going to be. dont get me wrong the first few weeks were hard and my 2yr old had some jealousy issues at first but now its going great. my 2yr old is so protective over his little brother and is always giving him kisses and trying to read stories to him...its the cutest thing to watch. im able to give both boys plenty of play time and mommy time. i am loving it and i know its only going to get funner as they get older

LaCretia - posted on 03/11/2013

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Ill be in the same boat I'm due I'm November and my son will be almost 3 he is very clingy to me mostly because I still bread feed sometimes ; idk what to do /:

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Kathy - posted on 08/30/2014

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Hello ladies,

I am seeking advice from a slightly different perspective: I am a nanny and due right around Christmas/New Year's. I currently nanny for a little girl whom I started caring for when she was 3 months old and now she will be turning 2 in December. I am to return to my nanny position with my newborn next Feb. Any advice on taking care of your own baby while caring for another family's 2 year old?

Laura - posted on 10/27/2011

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What Abby said. Mine are 12 1/2 mos apart in age. 2 was our goal. Oops.

At least if I'd had one walking, that would've been a bonus. I had 2 non walkers for 5 mos, during a horrid winter in Ohio. lol We survived.

If my son had been 2 & walking, it would've been so much easier for us. lol

& I'm the lax momma. =)

My advice is only do what you can. You'll survive. You have to. We did. lol & I'm the lax momma. lol

Melissa - posted on 10/26/2011

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I`m in the same boat. I have a 4 month old and a 2 year old. We seem to walk the malls a lot. I need to get out of the house or I`ll go crazy! It`s hard because I`m breast feeding and the 4 month old eats every 2 hours. I`m so bored!!!!

Juli - posted on 10/11/2011

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I will be in the same boat in 3 days!! I saved the baby sling I had with my daughter, to use with our son. I also have a baby wrap to wrap him to me so I can play with and entertain my daughter who will be 2 in dec while holding and taking care of our boy. I know she will be a good big sister (she already tries to take care of baby in tummy by rubbing lotion, trying to give baby food and a drink through my belly button lol) I used to use a nipple shield with my daughter on one side since It was extremely sensitive. When I used it my daughter really didn't get nipple confusion when hubby would give her a bottle of mommy milk since it was kind of in between. A nipple shield might help get little one back in the swing of things.

Abby - posted on 10/04/2011

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I think the closer the age gap the less jealousy initially. Rivalry might come later ;)

Katherine - posted on 08/06/2009

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Hey Kirsten,

I am in the same boat my eldest boy Ethan will be 2yrs on 16th August and i just had my little boy Marcus on 16th March, I have found that if i let Ethan help me with Marcus he likes to help and he hasn't become jealous of Marcus and if i but Marcus down on the floor or in his bouncer, Ethan will talk to Marcus and if Marcus spews up he will get a cloth and wip it up. Ethan is such a good boy and isn't jealous of Marcus, he loves his new brother and now he plays Peek-a-boo with Marcus and makes Marcus laugh its so cute to watch.

Amber - posted on 08/05/2009

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I am in the same boat I have a 2 yr old boy and my youngest just turned 8 weeks. I have been letting my 2 yr old help out with everything it makes him feel like a big boy. He helps with everything from Bath time to diapering. While baby is sleeping we play games one on one. I have noticed allowing my 2 yr old to help keeps him from being jealous of the baby.

Stephanie - posted on 08/05/2009

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I have a daughter who will be 2 in march and due in april with my second. my daughter is the first grandchild on both sides of the family and is very used to getting all the attention! She also is very attached to mommy. I am a little worried about how she will do with another baby in the house, but she does enjoy playing by herself with her toys, so we'll see

Kelly - posted on 08/05/2009

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people told me it was going to be hard but i dont think ive found it hard ya the first few weeks were a killer but after that u just gota get the new baby in to the routine with my other daughter it took 2 weeks now its like theres one here

Kelly - posted on 08/05/2009

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ive got a daughter of 3 next week and a new baby of 11weeks i was really worried wot she would be like as it just me and her all the time we r so close we do every thing together wen i had the new baby the first day she had the ump all day and didnt want her it really upset me but then wen over nite thing changed she helps me with the baby helps me with every thing and now she loves her i thoughted it would take longer for her to get used to her but when it came to her been here she was fine she has her od days now wen she wants me to do thing wen she nos i just sat down to feed the baby but she nos she has to wait now wot i tend to do is she her up panit or sticking then feed the baby and as soon as the baby is alseep i do some thing with her she took to it really well and am so pleased now she just keeps asking wen can the baby play with her

Pamela - posted on 08/05/2009

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I have two boys a 18 month old and a 4 month old and I don't find it hard at all take them to the park the younger one sitting in the sand pit on pram while I run about with my older one. we do what we did before we just bring the youngest along for the ride and he loves it. when my second was really young I put him in the sling alot that way I had my eye on him while running about with the eldest.. good luck

April - posted on 07/13/2009

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I have 2 boys (almost 4 and almost 2)and I'm due in 7 wks. Crazy as it sounds,2weeks after my daughter will be born I will be watching my 10wk. old niece 50 hours a week. I'm really trying to get creative w/ fun things for the older boys. I think familyfun.com has cute ideas. I also just try to keep the bigger ones involved and feel important that they can do big boy jobs and help. The baby will sleep a lot, so as much as you can spend naptime with your oldest cuddling, reading books, etc. My oldest loves to cook and "surprise" people with treats. Even if it's just putting Cheerios in a bowl or help mix a bottle he feels so proud .The transition seems scary, but it will be easier than you think:)

Kelly - posted on 07/03/2009

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im the same boat aswel ive got a girl of 2ys 10mths and just ad a girl 7 weeks ago i cant leave her at all coz all she wants to do is pick her up i let her hold her wen ever she wants and she no dat she cant pick her up and hold her with out me but just wount stop trying to pick her up all the time she was out of nappies but went back she didnt wana go school any more and she loves it! she stopped having a dummy and is always taking the babys and hiding it any tips on how i can get her to stop

Mandy - posted on 07/01/2009

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I am with you Kirsten! I have a 2 year old son and am due to have my next son on September 2nd. I am completely nervous!!!

Andrea-Jayne [AJay Jimajay] - posted on 06/25/2009

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hi Kirsten, sorry to hear about your breastfeeding troubles. ive had the same thing with my daughter, now 2 and a half. --- --- ---the first 2 weeks are apparently the worst and painful.

in my experience i had odd shaped nipples so my daughter wouldnt latch on properly so i had to keep manipulating them, then she would be too tired and upset [normally when i was trying to get them the right shape she would be hungry and screaming] to actually bother suckling for enough time to get the 'let down' going, so after a while i found that before she was due a feed, if i prepared myself [using a breast pump to help shape the nipple and bring the 'let down'] then she would be more content. during this time and before i figured out what worked i also had one very very sore and engorged breast which was full and she wouldnt feed from it so i used the pump on that.

ive also got some latching on advice which you may already be following:: --hold the baby close and try to keep their head, shoulders and body in a straight line

--line up your babys nose with your nipple and then nudge them with it [put some milk on it too]

--when their mouth is wide open bring them to the breast [not the other way round]

--youll know hes latched on well if his bottom lip is curled back and the only visible area of areola is at the top.



also in regqard to him falling asleep at the breast before feeding properly, have you tried taking him off and burping him to keep him awake, or even feeding him in just his nappy so he isnt too warm and comfortable, as this sometimes helps.



erm, i think thats about all i can say, just keep trying if you can, but of course dont feel bad if you do use formula instead, as it does no harm at all. that way youll both be happy and he'll be fed. he wont starve though if you do continue to struggle for a while.

anyway, 2 weeks of feeding is better than not trying at all.



hope thi helps and makes sense, ive had my daughter jumping all over me whilst trying to type!

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well i've had my son home for almost 2 weeks now & my 2 year old stepson is not so happy. this weekend he started waking up every hour screaming his head off. my bf was worried he was sick or hurt but i checked & no fever. then this morning he woke up at 6:30 AM screaming his head off again. i tried to tell him he needs to act like a big boy but he didn't really understand i'm sure...

as far as breast feeding goes, i wish someone had told me that it wasn't easy! I had all these dreams about holding my son close & having him suckle & smile at me. so far it's been a lot of frustration for both of us. he has trouble latching on & then if he does latch on, he falls asleep. i had to supplement with formula so he also got nipple confusion... i feel bad but i don't like leaving him with my bf specifically because i don't want to have to start all over with latching on.

Kyndra - posted on 06/20/2009

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My daughter turned 2 in march, I just had my son 2 weeks ago. It's very hard to find time to spend with her. I play dolls with her, color, paint, take her outside while dad watches baby. Just whenever i have a few minutes I try to be a part of whatever she is playing with. What about water balloons or water guns, sprinkler toys since it's hot out. Or indoor you could do finger paints. A cool idea is to take a really big box turn it upside down cut the flaps off cut a door and windows in it and let your son paint or color on the outside of it to make a playhouse. My daughter also likes the big mural coloring pages.

Angie - posted on 06/18/2009

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I had my baby when my daughter was 2. I found reading was very helpful. My 2 year old loves to be read to and of course the baby loved being held. Sometimes they would both fall asleep. It's not easy having a toddler and a new born but you get into a routine and things start to smooth out. I hope i helped alittle.

Kerri - posted on 06/10/2009

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I just had our newborn (now 8 wks), but have had 3 different toddler responses to him. With all three of my toddlers (just turned 3y, 2 1/2y, & 19 mo) we have included them in everything from before the baby even arrived. They were enthralled with pregnancy hiccups, and they got to come pick up their new little brother from the hospital.
From there, they like to hold him and smother him in kisses and hugs every day and they take turns throwing his diapers away. They get to sing to him and play with him all the time. I put the baby on the floor a lot so they can interact as much as they can/want (with me close by, of course!).
We have also encouraged each of them to "take care" of one of their stuffed animals just like momma takes care of the baby. They love being involved.
When the toddlers need "their time", I just wrap the baby on and go play with them like I normally would so they don't feel left out either. They've all responded very well to the newcomer.

Jessica - posted on 06/10/2009

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first of all, communication with ur oldest son is really important. im a mom of two boys as well (4 old and an 8 mo old)



I explained to my oldest that id have to pay a lot of attention to the baby to help prepare him. I keep him entertained several ways. When I have time, we walk to the park or go to different places - take a stroller or baby carrier for the youngest and ull be able to really engage with ur oldest. dont feel bad to put a movie or favorite show on. Sometimes that 30 min ull have to take care of the youngest will make a huge impact. we read books together, baby and all. I ask my oldest to draw me pictures.



in the beginning do rely on family to help, but trust me i KNOW how hard it is to feel like ur paying enough attention to ur oldest - make special time with him

Joy - posted on 06/08/2009

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Wish I could be helpful, or be helped one. ;) There's a 7 year spread between my first two, and now 20 months between the next... due in August. He's currently in the destructo-throw everything phase and runs around like a banshee.

Alexandra - posted on 06/08/2009

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I probably don't have the best advice...lol. My 1st son and 2nd son are 11mo. apart. So I had a 1 yr. old and newborn and couldn't really do anything since my 1 yr. old didn't start walking until 16mo.! I basically stayed at home all day everyday since I couldn't carry both at the same time and do anything one on one with them. This time my 3rd son will be 15mo. apart from my 2nd son! So I will have a 15mo. old, a 26mo. old, and a newborn, so I have no idea what I will be doing...lol. Probably staying home all day everyday as usual!

J'Lynn - posted on 06/05/2009

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Quoting ShaTerra:

oh wow well that was very helpful. i didnt know all the bad things that could go wrong with breastfeeding. thank you! now i know what else to expect. that was very knowledgeable.


glad i could help. maybe i just have bad luck cuz it seemed that evrything that could go wrond did. and my oldest boy would scream everytime i would nurse so that was an extra headache on top of it all lol im sure youll do fine :)

ShaTerra - posted on 06/05/2009

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oh wow well that was very helpful. i didnt know all the bad things that could go wrong with breastfeeding. thank you! now i know what else to expect. that was very knowledgeable.

J'Lynn - posted on 06/04/2009

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wow good luck to all you ladies i hope breastfeeding works out better for you guys then it did me. i had many problems with my supply from the start which didn't help matters and my son got jaundice really bad so it made him to tired to nurse half the time and i had to cave and give him the bottle then i got mastitis it was horrible so after weeks of struggling i finally put him on formula and i cant say i regret it i feel like i have more time for both my boys. my baby is gaining weight perfectly and is as happy as can be and my oldest doesn't scream bloody murder anymore when im trying to feed the baby. things are going smooth and great now. i wish you all the best of luck just don't feel guilty if for some reason it doesn't work out but im sure it will work out :)

ShaTerra - posted on 06/04/2009

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Yeah I wanna breastfeed this time as well. I wanted to with my first one but being young and listening to other ppl I didnt so I will with this one.

Nichole - posted on 06/04/2009

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Me too!!! My son just turned 2 and I am due in July. Plus, I plan to breastfeed!! Imagine that! I am single as well... Ugh...

ShaTerra - posted on 06/04/2009

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I would like to know as well. I'm 4 months and due November 28. And I have a 2 yr old son

J'Lynn - posted on 06/02/2009

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thanks. yeah i know what you mean, plus i couldnt even if i wanted to. if my son watches tv for a minute its a miracle cause he has zero interest in it and is always on the go.

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i just hate the idea of spending the summer in front of the tv! congrats on your little one!

J'Lynn - posted on 05/31/2009

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Quoting Kirsten:

I have a key to the pool but I won't be able to go in with the newborn so that requires someone else coming with me... As far as stuff to do at home, I was thinking about buying washable fingerpaints but that's still going to be a pretty big ordeal...

I'm sorry to hear about your husband's hours. I'm sure that will be tough, but it's nice that you can bring your kids with you to work. I'm a teacher so I'm glad I have the summer with my kids but next school year is going to be hard.


hi Kirsten wow we have a lot in common. i have two little boys my oldest will be two in july and my youngest was just born may2nd so hes almost a month old and i have the summer off too. im not a teacher but i am a teacher aide i work in the life skills class at an elementary school (i love my job). so i wont be working as many hours as you but i know what you mean.  i wont be as much help beacuase im going threw the same problem as you, my toddler is awlays on the go and it makes it so much harder trying to enertain him with having a little baby as well. we did buy some kids chalk and coloring books and just a few other little things that im hoping will help a little

Theresa Lynn - posted on 05/29/2009

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the best thing to do with the older child and making sure you have time if just what you said just when the baby is laying down or just kinda keeping himself calm find stuff for you and the older one to do like a movie or some books to read maybe making a snack together my older one loved helping with snack time then watching a movie together

Theresa Lynn - posted on 05/29/2009

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hey on the mommys girl thing . Just remember dont leave her out ask for her help when she wants to try to let her as much as you can and even when she isnt wanting to if you need a diaper or something put some on a shelf she can reach and ask her oh so nice to get you one for the baby then praise her when she does it let her sit with you and help hold the bottle when feeding and dont always tell her no no no dont touch you might hurt blablabla then she will not like the idea of the new baby i had the same thing my little girl was almost 2 when my other was born and she was a mommys baby so i made her mommys helper big sister big girl whatever she may want to be it really will be easy as long as you let it and i did it by myself to just stay strong and dont get stressed

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I have a key to the pool but I won't be able to go in with the newborn so that requires someone else coming with me... As far as stuff to do at home, I was thinking about buying washable fingerpaints but that's still going to be a pretty big ordeal...

I'm sorry to hear about your husband's hours. I'm sure that will be tough, but it's nice that you can bring your kids with you to work. I'm a teacher so I'm glad I have the summer with my kids but next school year is going to be hard.

Stacia - posted on 05/29/2009

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I am in the same boat. My daughter will be two in june and i am due in july with a boy. I work all the time but i get to take my kids to work with me. my husband is working 12 hour shifts either 7am to 7pm or 7pm to 7am. so he sleeps alot to get ready for the next shift. my daughter is a mamas girl and loves to be with me all the time. even though she knows she is having a brother soon. I dont know how its going to be when I bring the baby home to her.

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