When u hv children close together do you have another baby shower or would it be too much?

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User - posted on 05/05/2009

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I have a 3 yr old, a 1 yr old, and a 3 mth old and I only had a shower for the first one. I think it would have sounded more like a business than a shower:) Most relatives and friends bought gifts for my 2 younger ones but at their own will. People who really love you and care about you will bring gifts to meet the new baby. Usually a shower is to help you get started by now you should have all the essentials for a new born. And if loved ones ask you what do you need for your baby tell them my response always is DIAPERS:)

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Jenny - posted on 05/18/2009

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I think it depends on what others want to do for you and what your second baby is. I actually had two for my daughter. She was my first. My co workers gave my fiance and I one and his mom gave me one for her family. I got all my big items and everything else I needed for a girl. I just had our son and still have our daughters stuff as she just turned one, I had kept them just incase. I had absolutly no boy clothes. Our family and friends asked us what we needed and we ended up not really having to buy much for him either. A lot of his clothes are second hand because a friends son just turned one so she gave me his old clothes and another family friend went to garage sales and got me bags of clothes because they were so cheap. My fiance and I also go to a resale shop in our town and were able to get another crib and bed set and changing table very cheap. Our son was born five days before our daughter's first birthday so we had her birthday adn his meet and greet together. We got more stuff because we had a boy if he would have been a girl we'd have used all her stuff again.

Kayla - posted on 05/16/2009

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Quoting Sarah:

I was wondering the same thing, my daughter is 9 mo. and I am due in November. I missed my shower because she was nosy and came a month early so theycalled me at the hospital from mhy own shower...However my co-workers threw it as i do not have any family down here, and i have told them i do not expect one, but if this one is a boy i would like one, not that i would say that its tacky. But ihave noticed when you have two that are close together noone seems to be as into it as the previous one.



I am sorry you didn't get the excitement of a shower, every new mommy should have that.  My family likes to throw open houses for the new baby after the baby is born (and you feel like being in front of people).  You can have a party focused on the new baby instead of the  "stuff".

Brittany - posted on 05/15/2009

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Everyone always has an opinion about what is an is no acceptable. Whatever you do, make sure people don't feel the need to give a large gift. I know most showers for first babies include the 'big ticket' stuff like car seat, high chair, etc. Those, hopefully, are neutral enough to use again. Also, remember that some people think baby showers are like bridal showers, one only to get you going and the rest you're on your own, so don't feel offended if you have a shower and they don't come.

Shannon - posted on 05/14/2009

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I have always believed that you should only have one shower. But when I got pregnant w/ #2 and found out that it was a different sex all of my friends said that they wanted to throw me another one. So instead of the traditional baby shower, we are having a "necessity shower". Gifts are not necessary, but if someone chooses to bring something it has to be something like diapers, wipes, towels, wash rags, etc. things that you will need, not all of the fun stuff that you got at the first baby shower.

Sarah - posted on 05/13/2009

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I was wondering the same thing, my daughter is 9 mo. and I am due in November. I missed my shower because she was nosy and came a month early so theycalled me at the hospital from mhy own shower...However my co-workers threw it as i do not have any family down here, and i have told them i do not expect one, but if this one is a boy i would like one, not that i would say that its tacky. But ihave noticed when you have two that are close together noone seems to be as into it as the previous one.

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Quoting Heather:

I wish, but i only had one for my first as well. I kinda feel like I want to celebrate this child too, so when she's born we will have a get together BBQ like thing. While a 2nd shower may not be appropriate I do think each child should be celebrated and recognized as special!


I agree!  Have a shower to celebrate the new baby. 



I have had a shower with both of my kids, but I never planned them.  Both were surprises.  I didn't realize it till I got there.  They really helped alot.  With multiple kids, things wear out.  Some times you need new stuff.  Sometime you need stuff that accomodates multiple kids, like a double stroler. If you are having a different gender than the first time, I think it is important to have a baby shower.  You need different stuff. 



Baby showers are to celebrate the birth of a new baby and to help the mother out with all the new expenses that will come with the baby.  How many people have wedding showers when they have already been living with the person for months or even years.  They already have everything they need to get started, but no one ever complains about them.



If someone wants to throw you a shower, let them.   They are just trying to do something nice.

Heather - posted on 05/06/2009

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I wish, but i only had one for my first as well. I kinda feel like I want to celebrate this child too, so when she's born we will have a get together BBQ like thing. While a 2nd shower may not be appropriate I do think each child should be celebrated and recognized as special!

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Honestly, I don't believe in showers for multiple children. I am also 25.5 weeks pregnant with #2, and will not be having another. A few friends wanted to throw me one, but I told them I was not comfortable with the idea.

The way I see it, people already came to your first one. They looked at your registry and got you a gift. If they want to get you another (which most will anyway), then it's their choice, but I get offended and put out when I get invites from people who I've already attended one child's shower, asking me for another. Like they expect me to get them one.

It's really a personal choice, but I personally wouldn't do it and I do not go to more than one baby shower (for multiple children) for the same person.

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