HOW LONG SHOULD A WOMAN STAY IN AN UNCOMMITTED RELATIONSHIP WITH HER BABY'S DADDY?

Ms. Annette - posted on 06/10/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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IT IS IMPORTANT FOR A WOMAN TO KNOW WHAT IS HAPPENING IN HER RELATIONSHIPS ESPECIALLY IF HER CLOCK FOR STARTING A FAMILY IS TICKING (marriage and babies)

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Monica - posted on 08/23/2014

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I understand the internal need/desire to have your family whole and intact. With that being said if you two already have a child and he's not committed to the relationship than will he ever be? The truth of the matter is that he could be committed to taking care of the child and not be committed being committed to you. Try to work more on the relationship then co-parenting to see where the two of you stand as far as commitment to each other.

Kari - posted on 06/19/2010

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The question is do you love him or is he just your baby's father to you? Do you want him to be committed or do you just think that he should be because he is the father of your child. Being married is about spending the rest of your life with a person who drives you to want to become the best you. Being married means always putting another persons interests before your own because you love them enough to do that. To be married is to love yes, but it is also to sacrifice, to counsel, to nurture, and to compromise. If he is not committed to you after having a child with you then maybe you should question if he is ready to do all the things that it requires to be in a fruitful, faithful, and loving marriage.

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You have to decide what you want. The talk to your partner about it and come to a decision. BUT you have to be will to listen to what he says and if it doesn't fit with what you want YOU have to be brave enough to change YOUR situation. If you are not brave you will end up resenting him for your choice. This is all about you.

Emily - posted on 06/11/2010

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Don't look at it that way, I am the one that's putting off marriage in our relationship. We have been engaged for about a month now. Ask yourself "would he still be with me if he didn't get the "milk"? If the answer is yes, then maybe you should get married. If the answer is no, then honestly, it wouldn't appear to be true love, and that's what you deserve. Don't base the marriage on anything sexual. If you do, then its bound to be disasterous.

Emily - posted on 06/11/2010

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The answer to this question really depends on the relationship. If there is a really strong bond, trust, and everything else that a great relationship is built on, then there is no reason that marriage should wait. Unless, one of you is not ready for it. There is no one answer for this question, in my opinion, it just depends on where you are both at in your lives and if you are both ready for the big commitment. Marriage is a big step, and if you jump in too quickly, it is likely to end badly. Just because you are not married, does not mean you are not in love. My man and I are not married yet because we want to make sure that there is no problems between us, and personally, I want to be married one time only. To me, divorce is not an option.

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