Karen - posted on 05/18/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )
My son is 9 this August. I'm a single mom and have received around 3 years of maintenance payment. I now receive drips and drabs from the grandfather in the UK who is 'assisting' my son's father to pay for our child. The exchange rate is great for us South Africans but the father still refuses to pay his side of things the way he should.
I am lenient and allow visits to the UK by my son on a yearly basis. I have grown a debt longer than my arm and have worked out that it will take me around 5 more years to get out of the whole I have landed myself in at the rate I am going. Expenses overwhelm my income and has been this way for 4 years now.
I have received lectures about sending him this year again and have been told to hold back UNTIL such time as a down payment is made on the maintenance the father has not paid for so long. My son will be sad, but at least I'll be making a statement. The father gets away with not paying. Am I wrong to do this? What would you do?
If the maintenance is paid up as it should've been, I would be on a good foot and be able to afford life today! The reason my expenses outweigh my income is because I have so much interest I'm paying on cards etc. Its a vicious circle and I'm stuck in the middle of this tornado.
I'm aching to stop my son from going. What do you think. Will it work, what have you done, what would you do and what kind of statement would you make in this situation?
I'd love to hear from you all.