Sunday Chaos

Sarah - posted on 11/04/2008 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I am also excited to find a community that I can rely on. I have a question for you moms. I am a mother of three little boys (6,4, 9mos.). Sundays have a tendency to be soooo frustrating and disheartening because our church starts at 1:00 and that gives my older boys time to get hyper, and crazy, and sometimes they just won't get ready without me or my husband getting angry at them, or literally doing it for them. I am the Young Women's President, and I feel like it is really hard to feel the spirit and lead when I am so angry and frustrated when we get to church. Does anyone feel this way? Please give me some suggestions for what I could do to help all of us.

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Kimi - posted on 06/15/2009

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Lately I have been playing primary music in her room to kind of invite the spirit back into our home while we rush to get ready(the first time I did it she asked me why and I told her, "it's church music to help you get churchy before we go to church"). If we have enuf time I will help her make a snack for her sunbeams class and it helps her to get exited over going to her class. We normally don't have her on sundays because she goes to church with her birth mom and step dad most of the time.

Maybe have quiet before you leave for church and just get them dressed before the quiet time. That way you have some time to get them (and yourself) all churchy right before you go to church.

Janice - posted on 04/22/2009

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I don't know if you are still hoping for some help but for a FHE get a tape recorder and record some of the families favorite church after each song record one of the family announcing what every one should be doing. like "right now we should be getting our socks and shoes on." then another song then time it and on Sundays let your kids watch uplifting movies until say 1 hr before church or however long your tape is, then turn off the TV and turn on the tape. it will help get the spirit and keep every one on task. the kids love it. there will still be good days and bad but I hope that this helps.

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Sunday is the only day my husband has off as he works 6 days a week. We really try to make it a calm and bonding day. I have an 18 month old and a 3 month old. So, I am sure that it will get more challenging as we add more kids and ours get a little older. We have just had a system since before we had kids. My husband and I take 30 minutes Saturday night (we set the timer and make it a race). I get the crock pot ready, he irons (because he loves to...he is a little strange:-). All the clothes are hung on hanger on the back of the bathroom door. Then we get all the bags ready and put them in the van. We then reward ourselves with us time . We do not start on Sunday until 1:00. We have a no technology (no t.v. or computers) rule at our house, so we have a basket with journals, music ensigns and the stuff to send letters (paper, envelopes, stamps, etc.). My husband has always made breakfast on Sunday so, I can relax a little. I hope this helps. I guess for us it just comes down to organization and making it fun. We will see how it transforms as our little ones get bigger.

Karen - posted on 01/16/2009

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I have found that with my boys (i have 4) that it is the same.  They fight us on going because its already in the middle of the day.  I really don't have an answer except that I try to have "good music" playing all morning, and try to keep them from watching shows that will get them wound up.  Thats about the best I can do.  We had the 1:00 for 2 yrs in a row and we are now @ 9:00.  THANK GOODNESS!

Marilyn - posted on 01/13/2009

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Quoting Sarah: All I can say is that it just depends on your attitude and being prepared.  Every Saturday I ask my boys if they have there clothes ready for Sunday and the hardest one is my 9 year old who doesn't like to get them ready.  It gets a little easier as they get  older but it's what you expect of them.  I do remember when I had 3 little kids 3,2, and a baby feeling really out of control.  Three kids are definately hard!

Sunday Chaos

I am also excited to find a community that I can rely on. I have a question for you moms. I am a mother of three little boys (6,4, 9mos.). Sundays have a tendency to be soooo frustrating and disheartening because our church starts at 1:00 and that gives my older boys time to get hyper, and crazy, and sometimes they just won't get ready without me or my husband getting angry at them, or literally doing it for them. I am the Young Women's President, and I feel like it is really hard to feel the spirit and lead when I am so angry and frustrated when we get to church. Does anyone feel this way? Please give me some suggestions for what I could do to help all of us.





 

Marilyn - posted on 01/13/2009

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Quoting Sarah: All I can say is that it just depends on your attitude and being prepared.  Every Saturday I ask my boys if they have there clothes ready for Sunday and the hardest one is my 9 year old who doesn't like to get them ready.  It gets a little easier as they get  older but it's what you expect of them.  I do remember when I had 3 little kids 3,2, and a baby feeling really out of control.  Three kids are definately hard!

Sunday Chaos

I am also excited to find a community that I can rely on. I have a question for you moms. I am a mother of three little boys (6,4, 9mos.). Sundays have a tendency to be soooo frustrating and disheartening because our church starts at 1:00 and that gives my older boys time to get hyper, and crazy, and sometimes they just won't get ready without me or my husband getting angry at them, or literally doing it for them. I am the Young Women's President, and I feel like it is really hard to feel the spirit and lead when I am so angry and frustrated when we get to church. Does anyone feel this way? Please give me some suggestions for what I could do to help all of us.





 

Jen - posted on 11/24/2008

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My daughter used to sit with my friend, who was our Bishop's wife to help out with her 5 little ones (the twins were 2 and the baby 1 along with a 4 year old and a 7 year old)

My friend had to get her little ones ready and to church by herself every week.

One technique she used was to remind the older ones that they would be going to church and they would get to sit with Kaitlyn - but if they did not get there on time maybe some other family would sit with her and she would take care of their children instead of being with them.

It did not make things perfect, but it helped her for over 2 years until we moved out of the ward.

Sarah - posted on 11/20/2008

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Thank you so much for your comments. I will definitely try them. It's nice to know that it's normal to go through this and that it will pass if we teach with love and try to have the spirit. Thanks again!

Jennifer - posted on 11/12/2008

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With 5 children I have been through this for years, and feel your frustration! It doesn't matter if my husband is home or has been in presidencies and has early morning meetings, we still were frustrated many a morning. I would cry sometimes after church thinking what did I get out of today??? Although I have no clear cut answer after all these years (my oldest is now 20) here is a small suggestion we tried, no matter how hairy our mornings are we tried once we got in the car for calmness on the way to church. We said a prayer and only allowed uplifting music, at the young age your children are you could get Childrens Songbook on CD. At least I had 15 minutes of calmness before entering the building and a prayer in my heart to make it through Sacrament intact! Now that my children are older (youngest are 9yr old twins) I would even take harried mornings just to see my 20 yr.olds face in church!! So remember to everything there is a season....

Elizabeth - posted on 11/10/2008

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Found 101 activities to do on Sunday at theideadoor.com. Thought you'd be interested.

Elizabeth - posted on 11/06/2008

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All parents struggle with frustration and anger. Just thought I'd start with that. As I've listened to conference I have realized that there is a lot I need to change. They seem to be calling us to answer softly. So I have thought a lot about how to apply this in my life lately. Some thoughts are these. I am trying to change my expectation of my children. For instance, if I expect craziness on Sunday, which inevitably will happen with young children then i am not dissappointed or angry when it occurs. I just think yea this is what I expect from this age group. I have Sundays all to myself with young children because my husband has early meetings. My main goal when this started was "I am not going to allow myself to get angry with my children while trying to do Sundays by myself for a while." So that's the convince myself part. You have a unique situation because you have the "What should we do on Sunday?" dilema before church. My sister in law gave me a great idea that has helped me to set routines for my children. i can't say that i have applied this on Sunday, but I should. She told me to split the day up into times that you would like your children to develop or participate in. I had Craft Time, Music Time, Spiritual Time, Learning Time, Book Time, Exercise Time. I looked at the day in these groups and then would try to plan how to make each time better. It is good to sit and think of what you'd like your children to accomplish at this time of their lives and then split it into workable moments. This could be done on Sundays. I should think about it more and apply it on our Sundays:) If I come up with ideas I'll let you know, but it is very individual to families what your children need to learn and do on Sunday. Spliting it up into times makes it more workable. I always try to get myself completely ready before my children get up and this also seems to reduce Sunday stress, but I have early church. I hope this helps and gives you some ideas.

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