Connie - posted on 12/26/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )
My daughter-in-law has always been very possessive and controlling of my son. They are both in their 40's, have been married for 22 years, and have three children ages 12, 9, and 7. Michelle is very aggressive and I have never had the nerve to stand up to her for fear of losing my son, Brian. He has lost many long-time friends due to her possessiveness. Michelle is very manipulative and has discouraged my son from spending time with me. She has also lied to me and about me. Through the years, I have enabled them to spend their money foolishly by helping with their bills - to the point of doing without myself. Recently I had to retire due to multiple health problems. I had a stroke in May and a heart attack in August, then had to spend 30 days in a nursing home from Sep through Oct. In August, the day before my heart attack, all those bottled up feelings came to the surface and there was a big blow-up between all of us, which resulted in a total estrangement between my son, his wife, and myself. I am no longer able to help them financially and, as a result of our blow-up, my son now wants nothing to do with me. Throughout all my time spent in the hospital and nursing home, I've had no contact with my son and his family. When I was in the hospital in ICU, my son was called and refused to come. I am now home and trying to adjust to all the changes in my life... no longer being able to work, change in income, health problems, and the loss of my only family. I have filed for disability but for now, I have to live on Social Security and a small pension. I also had to give up my car, so have no transportation. I am very depressed and heartbroken over the estrangement from my son. Does anyone out there have similar problems?