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How do I talk to my in-laws without offending them?

Renee - posted on 04/21/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am the mommy of a 9 month old baby boy, Ethan. He is my 4th child, but my husband's first, and he is the first grandchild for my in-laws. They are amazing grandparents. He visits with them almost every day, they moved from another state to be close to us, and even live in the same apartment complex, which I LOVE. They would never do anything to intentionally harm my son, but we recently rode with them in their car (they bought a new safer car and installed a good carseat for Ethan) and I was extremely disturbed to see that NEITHER of them wore their seatbelts! Ethan's grandma rides in the back seat with him every time, and Grandpa drives. I have seen information about seatbelt safety, and I know that unbuckled passengers are EXTREMELY unsafe, not just to themselves, but also to restrained passengers. They can become projectiles in a crash. The thought of them having an accident and Grandma flying into my baby boy makes me feel sick to my stomach, to the point that I haven't let him go anywhere with them since I learned that they don't buckle up. I need to talk to them and let them know this, but I am afraid that they will agree to wear their seatbelts so he can go, and won't really do it. How do I talk to them without offending them? I am having a hard time with this, they love to go on little outings with Ethan, but I won't let him be in an unsafe situation just so they won't get offended.

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Corinne - posted on 04/22/2012

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I agree with both ladies. The safety of your son must come first. Tell them that you are worried for their safety and your sons. If they can move to a different state, they can buckle up.

Louise - posted on 04/22/2012

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If you stress the importance of the seat blet ot protect your son then they will listen. They have changed thier life to be around him so buckling up is no big issue. Also prove what you are saying by showing them the adverts on tv. In the UK they show adverts about unrestrained people in the back of the car killing people in the front who are buckled up. Probably find these videos on You tube!

Kimberly - posted on 04/22/2012

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Maybe try the approach that you want them to buckle up as you would hate to see anything happen to them that might take them away from your son ( meaning an accident) as well could they also buckle up so that they are a good positive role model for their grandson. I know it seems amazing in this day and age that people dont buckle up but they never had to when they first started driving so they arent in the habit like we are. Plus I would hate to see them get pulled over. Just go in gentle goo luck

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