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How do you tell your Mother-In-Law you dont want her attending the Birth?

Centain - posted on 12/18/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Have any MIL wanted to be involved in the Birth? how did it make you feel? Is there even a nice way to say it?
Did it cause negative feelings between you afterwards?

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Corinne - posted on 01/19/2012

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I didn't want my M.I.L at the birth of our children either. I spoke to my Mum about it and she said 'at the end of the day, it's about you and your man bringing your baby into this world. It is not a side show. If you feel uncomfortable with it, say so now and do not let her upset you. It is not about her.' My husband actually asked my Mum if she wanted to stay (while I was in labour ) and she said 'No Michael, this is your time, keep it special'

I guess everybody is different, but if you don't want anyone else there then say so. Maybe get your man to explain how you feel and say that he fully supports you? Then it doesn't sound like you are telling her 'no'.

Karen - posted on 12/18/2011

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mine wanted to be there but i was dead set against having her (or my mother) in the room. i told them that they were more then welcome to come in during labour as long as i was comfortable, but once i wanted to rest or the nurse said it was time to start pushing they were to leave to the waiting room. they were okay with that as we assured them that we would be calling them into the room as soon as the baby was out - we just wanted to have a few minutes to ourselves as a new family. mil i think had a bit of an issue with it at first but when it came down to the big day she was fine with it. the excitement overrode her feelings of being put out.

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