Will an ectopic pregnancy greatly decrease my chances of getting pregnant?

Kim - posted on 04/15/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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On March, 26th I went into the ER because I was having some spotting and some pain in my back. I was almost 8 weeks pregnant, so they did an ultrasound to how the baby was doing. I was looking for the baby on the screen, but could not find it. Finally the doc came on an told me I had a tubal pregnancy. I was devastated! They rushed me into surgery and removed the baby and my right fallopian tube. the thing that makes it even harder is that I had a miscarriage last may (2008) and had been trying for 10 months to conceive this baby. I was on clomid because I was not ovulating and was so excited when it worked on the first round. It has been almost three weeks and I am still asking myself why me, why my baby? I have a 2 year old that I conceived while I was on birth control and now I cannot seem to have another baby. I just don't get why it happened so easily and now it just does not seem to happen for me. It does not help that my best friend and I were planning on having our babies together. I was 4 weeks ahead of her and 2 weeks behind my sister-in-law. I just hurt when I think they are going to have babies and I am not. I am so jealous! does this feeling ever go away!
also if this has happened to anyone, where you able to have more kids? does only one tube decrease your odds of getting pregnant? does anyone have a story that they would like to share, so I do not feel so alone? My husband does not seem to understand, I mean he is upset, but he says we should not worry about things that we cannot control, which is easy for him to say. He goes to work everyday and has other things to keep his mind busy. I am a stay at home mom, so I have plenty of time to think. I just hope that I am not getting depressed! that is all I would need!

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Ashley - posted on 11/05/2012

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I completely understand your loss, I was sitting on the couch one day when my son asked me if we could name the baby in my belly Bella? I said to him mommy isnt pregnant and he said yes you are. So later that day I decided to take a test and to my surprise he was right!!! I was so over joyed because my husband and I had been trying for four years. Things went downhill quick within one week and three Er visits they finally found a ectopic pregnancy. I was devastaded they rushed me into surgery and removed my left tube. Its now been 5 months since and still no pregnancy. My best friend was due two months ahead of me and now she stil hs hers and mine is gone, I would be 26 weeks right now and I am so very sad. It hurts because I dont understand why I can't get pregnant and why this has happened after we tried for so long. My husband has no children of his own and wants one so bad. I get really depressed over it. I am also a stay at home mom so I know the feeling of thinking alot. Its doesnt matter what I do I cant forget it. I see women pregnant all the time and I think WHY NOT ME???

Jewel - posted on 03/04/2013

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hi kim the same thing happened to me the only difference is that it was my left tube and i wasn't on any meds i have a 7 yr old son and i to hope to have at least one more child i was the same amount of weeks as you but i didn't know i was pregnant until i went to the doctor that same day they took the baby and the tube out and i felt so bad thinking that it was my fault . i am still recovering mentally and physically i do hope u get u'r wish and good luck

Jessica - posted on 09/09/2009

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I struggled to have a baby for 4 years. During that time I had 5 miscarriages. I know how you feel when you people around you are having babies and your not. We did a year of IUI and the last one took only to discover it was an ectopic. I also had to have emergancy surgury and they too took my right ovary. I was devistated to say the least. I couldn't handle the stress any more and decided it was time to look into adoption. The doctor said my chances of conceiving on our own were less then 1% (I also have PCOS and endometriosis). Shortly after I gave up I found out I was pregnant. I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl who will be one next month.



Hang in there. Find some people you can talk to about your feelings. There are some great support groups for people like us. I know you've heard it before and I hated hearing it, but relax and give it time. Best of luck to you and if you ever need an ear, I'm hear for you.

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Britney - posted on 07/22/2014

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The previous ectopic pregnancy may cause adverse effects, the disorder that have symptoms; bleeding, nausea, and vomiting. Let’s have a discussion about it and find the right treatments and remedies for finding the desired outcome. Other common causes include; smoking, previous ectopic pregnancies, history of sexually transmitted diseases, and much more. Although it can be lifted up by surgery, it is recommended to take natural approaches and perform the prevention, however. Find the available home treatments for ectopic pregnancy here: http://aboutgettingpregnant.com .

User - posted on 02/12/2010

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Hello and I'm sorry for all you are going through right now. Your not alone. I went through what your going trough right now. I tried to have a baby for 7 years but at the age of 16 the Drs told me i would never conceive and that i was sterile. It was so hard for me to hear this at this age. I finally find out i am pregnant the same day i was loosing my baby. Can you imagine how i felt? I was 9 weeks pregnant and the baby was forming on my fallopian tube. I didn't lose my tube but was a very high risk pregnancy after that if i would get pregnant again. Chances where very slim but 3 months after i lost my first child to my surprise and Drs i conceived again while on the pill. Now i have a wonderful 16 year old son that is special needs child but he has been a blessing in my life. If you can't have another baby at least thank God for the one you have already. I couldn't have any more children after i had my son but i thank God every day because at least he gave me 1 wonderful son. Some woman cant even have any kids, so be thankful and if it happens it will happen when you least expect it. Good luck to you.

Mary - posted on 06/13/2009

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Good for you! I completely agree with your choice to go straight to IVF... having surgery is no guarantee, & there was a chance that you would have ended up doing IVF anyway, so hopefully this will save both time & money. I wish you all the best! IVF presents some challenges as well....remember that, again, you & your husband will approach this differently, and you will have some wildly hormonal moments with this as well. As women, we really get the short end of the stick, sometimes ;) For me, being the one to feel the baby move for the 1st time, and all the time thereafter more than made up for it!



I wish you much luck, happiness & most imprtantly, a healthy baby as you travel down this road (it does have some potholes). I'm glad if I could help in some small way. Keep the faith - my thoughts & prayers are with you!

Kim - posted on 06/01/2009

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I actually had a HSG done and found that my other tube is blocked. We went to a fertility specialist and are going to do in vitro this summer. I could have surgeries to try to fix the tube, but that is only a temporary fix and I pretty much wanted to go straight to in vitro because in the long run it may save us some money. I am just waiting for my cycle to start so that we can get started! We plan on doing the clomid challenge in June, birth control pills in July and in vitro in August! I am just so excited! My doc said that I have a 50-55% chance that this will work for me. his words were I was the best case scenario! when our RE told us that I just felt a huge weight lift from my shoulders and actually feel happy again!

as for my husband, I just have to think about the fact that men and women think differently! The more I thought about it, the more it makes sense. Nick is a very logical thinker, although we had a loss, it really is not a baby to him till he can see and hold it. Most men think that way, and women use emotion in there thinking; which can make you crazy when you add all the hormones that are pumping through you when you have a loss.

I guess I have hope for the future and am happy that things are not worse! there are always people who are worse off than me and I just need to stay positive and I get to add to my family someday!

Thanks for sharing it really does make you feel less crazy when you know other people have gone through the same things!!

Mary - posted on 05/28/2009

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Oh, Kim, I am so very sorry!! A lot of what you are expressing is VERY normal, and you are far from alone. After 8 years of infertility, I spontaneously conceived, only to miscarry at 9 weeks. I thought, as an L&D nurse, I knew what to expect....I was shocked at how much that loss rocked my world. I was in a huge funk that lasted about 3 months...and it was a gradual climb out of it. This was compounded by having 2 friends who had conceive around the same time I had, & being around their happy, pregnant selves was, at times, pure torture. There were moments that i just had to walk away, lest my grief, jealousy & anger overwhelm me & shoot out in a nasty venomous stream. Hopefully, your friend & sisiter-in-law care enough about you to understand how difficult this time is for you. Cut yourself some slack...your difficulty in dealing with their pregnancies is very normal, and it will get easier with time.



As for you husband - men & women grieve differently. Most men tend to deal with a pregnancy loss by burying it, believing that dwelling on it, or talking about it will only make it, and you, worse. Because they didn't experience the same PHYSICAL loss that we do, or the accompanying hormonal fluctuations, it's a whole lot easier for them to just move on with their lives. It doesn't make him a bad man, just a typical one! My husband was devastated by our miscarriage (he cried after I had the D&C), but a week later, it seemend as if it had never happened. I KNEW all of this was normal, but there were moment when I thought he was the most unfeeling asshole alive. I think those feelings were just a reflection of my own hurt & anger...I wanted him to wallow with me, but that would have been REALLY dysfunctional!



Secondary infertility is not uncommon at all, and yes, the loss of a tube can make getting pregnant more difficult, but by no means impossible. I strongly encourage you to make an appt with your OB/GYN to discuss your options, and consider seeing a fertility specialist as well.



I wish you all the best!

FertilityTies - posted on 04/16/2009

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sorry to hear you're going through this, many women can still get pregnant after an ectopic, it might just take a bit longer since you ovulate from one side each month and you'll have higher chances when you ovulate on the side where you have a functioning tube, you can also ask doctors and find others going through similar situations, try fertilityties

best of luck and babydust!

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