Patricia - posted on 12/14/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )
Your actions have caused me more heartbreak,
To go along with the terrible pain I already feel due to the loss of my son.
I thought you did not realise this because you have never suffered a loss as such. But your insensitiveness proves otherwise.
You do not understand that it hurts me to see babies(although I have told you when you recently pointed one out) (Believe me I see them all, and pregnant women too!)
You do not understand that seeing any boy(doesn't matter what age he is) receiving doting attention from his mother hurts me! It reminds me that my son will never grow up, and that I will never be able to show him such affection. Seeing other boys with their families also hurts because even if my husband and I have more children; I may never again experience nurturing for a boy.
So AT MY SON’S FUNERAL when you where standing right in front of me doting on your young son IT HURT ME!!!! As any normal human being, one would realise on her own that it is incredibly disrespectful to do as such.(KiKi and Phil did not attend because they had no babysitter for their little boy) But you didn’t!!!!! And as another attempted to tell you to be a bit more considerate(thank you, my dear father-in-law for trying to save me from sorrow), you did the opposite. You yelled and made a huge scene.
Being the kind of person I am. Always supportive towards you(when you lost your children to Child and Family Services- three times all by your own doing, when you had boyfriend trouble and financial trouble) I chalked up your indiscretions as just being unknowing when being faced with the tremendous loss that I, your sister, has suffered.
Four months passed until I finally felt ready to try to explain to you how heavily your actions weighed on my mind. Then when having a conversation with you, an opportunity arose as you brought up my son’s passing. Calmly, I tried to tell you how I feel. And instead of you taking accountability for being inconsiderate of my feelings. YOU TOOK IT UPON YOURSELF TO BELITTLE MINE AND MY LOVED ONES’ PAIN BY SAYING THAT YOU HAD EVERY RIGHT TO CAUSE AN UPROAR AT YOUR NEPHEWS’ FUNERAL; YOU HAD THE AUDACITY TO CALL ME A BITCH AND SLAP ME ACROSS THE FACE…..IN FRONT OF MY DAUGHTER AND MY NIECE AND NEPHEW(whom you just got back from Child and Family Services)
Well SISTER, I applaud your great decision making skills!! You’ve definitely shown me your TRUE COLOURS!!!!!!
And as a result, our relationship is no longer and will never be.