any1 else here loss a baby at fullterm!

Avril - posted on 03/06/2013

i lost my only Daughter stillborn at 40 weeks. she would have been 21 this year. i went on to have 2 bys but nothing will ever replace her in my heart

Stacey - posted on 03/01/2013

Yes, I lost my Emily at 40 weeks. No problems at all. 10 years at the end of this month. Can't believe it has been that long. How are you doing? At 3 years, I was still a mess!

Heather - posted on 02/26/2013

My Elijah was born Aug 17, 2012 @ 38 weeks via emerg c-section because I just didn;t feel him kicking that day as he was the day before and months before. My husnabd and I drover ourselves to the hospital and wedecided a c-section was best (so far off my birth plan). He dies one hour later as the pressure from the placenta (which they later found from the autopsy was defective) cut off his oxygen supply. He never did wake up and in a way, that is comforting for me. He looked like he was sleeping. Now he's my lil' Angel who God sings lullabies to every night. I am currentl;y 6 weeks 4 dyas pregnant with his lil' brother or sister. I pray all works out this time and we have a healthy bouncing baby!

Heather - posted on 02/26/2013

My Elijah was born Aug 17, 2012 @ 38 weeks via emerg c-section because I just didn;t feel him kicking that day as he was the day before and months before. My husnabd and I drover ourselves to the hospital and wedecided a c-section was best (so far off my birth plan). He dies one hour later as the pressure from the placenta (which they later found from the autopsy was defective) cut off his oxygen supply. He never did wake up and in a way, that is comforting for me. He looked like he was sleeping. Now he's my lil' Angel who God sings lullabies to every night. I am currentl;y 6 weeks 4 dyas pregnant with his lil' brother or sister. I pray all works out this time and we have a healthy bouncing baby!

Sarah - posted on 01/28/2013

My 1st son was still born at 38 weeks died on good Friday born Easter Sunday....

Carrie - posted on 12/20/2012

I was 35 weeks pregnant and never got any answers as to why....They did multiple tests on me and our baby but found nothing wrong with either of us...........She was just too beautiful for earth!!!!

Pattu - posted on 12/19/2012

I lost my first baby boy kavin at 38weeks and 5 days on Nov 24th,2012 due to fetal maternal hemarrhage. He was a perfect little man fought for his life for 30 hours. My heart is broken into pieces..he made us mommy and daddy....

Anuksha - posted on 11/01/2012

I lost my daughter at 6 months 13days September of this year.

She was suffering from many complications but she was a fighter and fight till her death with happy face.

Chantel - posted on 10/28/2012

I had my third baby who was a full term still born June 13/2012. You can add me if you want

Yuri - posted on 08/02/2012

i did i lost my first baby 2 weeks before due date is hard till this day the pain is there and wont go....

Patti - posted on 11/05/2011

Yes and it is so unexpected when you get to the end. It's not supposed to be that way. The next pregnancy was that much more stressful because there was no 'safe' point to get passed. Just hope and prayer that things would be different this time

Michelle - posted on 11/02/2011

i lost my 2nd child at full term . she was born early morning the day after she was due. i went into labour and thats when the problems started. it was due to case of undiagnosed vasa praevia that noone knows much about. basically her cord was not connected to the placenta properly which was ok whilst my waters hadnt broke but when they did she became disconnected started to lose oxygen ending up haemorraging . she actually passed the day after at only a day old. this was just over 3 yrs ago but the pain is still very bad sometimes. i still dont understand why or how this happened but i have to live on without her, i miss her so much x

Shannon - posted on 06/14/2011

I had a miscarriage at 13 weeks (4th pregnancy), and my heart was greatly saddened. But last September my son suddenly passed away just 11 days before his 6th birthday. I tell you now, that there is no pain like the loss of your child. I still struggle every day to understand the reasons, but it's all part of a greater plan. I have 7 other blessings (children) that depend on me daily, and will leave my 2 Angels in God's hands. I just found out that I am pregnant again, and am TERRIFIED! I don't know that I am ready to bring a new life into this house so soon after loosing our precious boy. I don't think I have EVER been so nervous in my life. It's not that I'm new to this whole pregnancy thing or anything, but it all feels so different this time. I hope I can find a support system that knows what it's like to 'move forward' so close to the loss of a child.

Patti - posted on 06/11/2011

Our 4th child was stillborn at full term almost 16 years ago. I still remember like it was yesterday. I had gone to the doctor on the Friday because he wasnt' moving as much. The doctor checked both his and my heart beat and said his was fine. He was just getting ready to be born. A section the next monday had been scheduled as I had 3 previous sections. However, the next day there was no movement. We went to the hospital and a horrible doctor did an ultransound. "this is baby's head, this is baby's spine, this is baby's heart where it is supposed to be beating but it is not". He turned off the ultrasound and left the room. That was the crulest of things anyone could do. Even right up to the moment he was delivered, I thought it was going to be a mistake and all would be well. However, that was not to be. His cord had detached from him, around 12 hours previously. Usually this happens because the mother had been seriously ill during the pregnancy or had a traumatic fall. Neither had happened. We were so shocked and felt so alone. None of the nurses that took care of me, talked about anything other than trivial things like hte weather. I know they were probably very uncomfortable, for I am a nurse as well, but that is no excuse. We had no idea what to do next. I had never encountered a death before of anyone, let alone my baby. Our 3 childre, ages 9,8, and 5 were devastated and had a very difficult time with their grief. As time has gone on, it has become easier to bear, but the grief is never gone. I felt cheated and still do. Why didin't I get to bring our son home? Instead he is in heaven waiting to meet us someday. I found Compassionate Friends a great help. I was not the only one who had lost a child, and there were people who had gone on afterwards, which gave me the courage to go on. I am now a Chapter Coordinator and find the work so rewarding. Helping others at the most difficult time in their lives and not wanting them to deal with it alone. We went on to have another child 22 months later. Not as a replacement but as a gift. I always saw 4 children at my table and now I have that. Our son has a very special place in our family, as our last son carries his name as his middle name, and has his baby blanket as a very special treasure of his big brother who died. I wish you well in your journey and hope you find comfort that others have endured the same pain you have and have gone on despite. Hugs to all.

Alison - posted on 06/09/2011

i didnt lose my daughter at fullterm but i lost her at 5 months 6days april of this year ,so im really sorry for ur loss i couldnt imagin goin fullterm,5 months was hard enough but our lil girl lived for 6 hours,9mins she was a fighter,again im sorry for your loss and just hope time makes it a lil easier cuz i know i sure hope time helps me

Lizbeth - posted on 06/08/2011

i was 5 1/2 months had the baby due to severe preeclampsia ...baby stayed with us 1 month and two days i think of him eveyday...4-14-2011---5-16-2011...im scared to try again

Katrina - posted on 06/07/2011

My daughter was born at 36 weeks 1 day, she was 6 pound 14 1/2 ounces, she died during delivery due to a concealed placental abruption that i had had no symptoms of. I am currently 26 weeks with my next child hoping and praying for the best. It has never gotten easier to think of my daughter, it has only been 9 months since she passed and i wish every day that things could have been different. It is sad to see soo many people being able to answer to this post, and i don't think a lot of people realise just how frequently stillbirth happens. I can only hope that the professionals who were with me for the hours before and after her birth have taken what they saw and can maybe one day save someone else my heartache.

Becky - posted on 06/05/2011

I lost my first child at 42 weeks 2 years ago this June. Hayden James Booy was born June 30th 2009..and it was the hardest thing that I think I have ever gone through in my life and still to this day I have not properly grieved my loss for him, but I am grateful for my son that I have today Bryce Jayden was born on Sept. 13th 2011 and he is a wonderful baby!!...I am so sorry for your loss and time can only heal the wounds.

Kim - posted on 05/07/2011

My son was stillborn and I knew at 5 months pregnant that he wouldnt survive birth. Not a day goes by that I dont think of him :)

Tiffany - posted on 05/05/2011

i was 39 weeks and 2 days from my due date, it was the worse thing in the world

Tami - posted on 04/28/2011

i lost my son he was born at 36 week and lived only 2 wounderfull years and i lost him on his second birthday and we still dont know what exatly happen . he was just so sepecial and happy.

Teresa - posted on 04/26/2011

My baby girl was stillborn 2 days after her due date. I had a normal pregnancy, and felt her move the night before i went into labor. Her due date was dec. 24th 2010. I went into labor christmas afternoon and when i went to the hospital they couldn't find her heartbeat. I delivered Bristol on the morning of the 26th. They never found out what went wrong. It's only been 4 months and most days are hard. I'm angry and sad alot. The only thing that keeps me going is the short happy moments with my husband, stepson an my 2 best friends. The little bit of happiness gives me some hope.

Angela - posted on 01/07/2010

i lost my son at 42 weeks dec 5, 2008. he was diagnosed at my 20 week ultrasound that he had anencyphaly. this is when the skull doesnt fully close and the brain is exposed. there is no chance of survival with this birth defect. previously to the diagonsis i had never heard of it, but apparently its not that rare. and the causes are unknown. But, we had the choice of terminating or continuing. i am not really religious but i knew that letting him live as long as possible was the only choice i could make. after 22 hours of labor, he was stillborn. i know for a fact he is in Heaven, and he is my own guardian angel. I still miss him everyday, and always will. His name is Taylor Wayne Burns.

Shantel - posted on 01/07/2010

I lost my baby 3 days before our appointment to induce labor. It was a condition called Vasa Previa. I had never even heard of it until the day we lost her, May 18, 2008. I am very sorry for your loss as well as all of you who have lost a baby, it is so heartbreaking and I hope we can heal in due time. I am expecting again, she is due May 15, 2010! I know my heart wont be fixed but hopefully this will fill a piece of the hole in my heart, I am very excited and happy we are having a little girl. Im real scared though, i panic in between dr appointments.

Nancy - posted on 01/05/2010

I thought i had it made you know...a boy then a babygirl.....no... I lost my daughter November 23, 2009. She was born via C-Section 5 days before my due date she lived for 13 days and then passed on a Monday morning. Three days after my daughter passed away her doctor called me to give me and my husband his condolences but besides that he told me that at her 1 week visit he knew that her liver was enlarged. I spent 8 hours at Riley Hospital holding my daughter and saying goodbye. I am 20 yrs old and a mother of a 15 month old son. I have never dreamed of lossing a child and would never ever wish that on someone either. My heart deeply goes out to everyone here who has lost a child. The ones you have have hold them tight and don't let go.....

Dawnette - posted on 01/05/2010

Emer, I lost my my daughter at 38 weeks after 5 miscarriages so I come from both sides and they all hurt as much. With my daughter Monique I think being able to hold her and say goodbye was very helpful in starting the grieving process. I don't what to lessen the pain of my miscarriages but to me that was a different type of grieving.

Amanda - posted on 01/04/2010

My son was born on 17 June 2009 full term perfectly healthy, breastfeeding well and putting on weight amazingly. He died on 25 August 2009. He was 10 wks old. He got a common childrens sickness and the doctors underestimated the illness and discharged us. He passed away at home in bed next to me. My husband, who had been sleeping on the couch, woke me up at 1.30am and our son was already gone. He was our third baby.



I don't know if it is harder lossing a first child or a third or what stage or age they are at, all I know is I am thankful every day for my two older children who have helped me get through the the heart break of lossing my baby.

Pam - posted on 01/04/2010

I lost my full term baby girl she was delivered on her due date
02-14-05. I also lost my baby boy 06-13-03 6 mos. into the pregnancy.
Very hard to deal with to this day.

Christine - posted on 01/01/2010

Thanks for your kindness my heart goes out to you as well for your loss. It seems the loss of a child is something that is both all consuming and something we learn to manage over time. We are simply not given any other option. My very best to all of you this holiday Season!!!

Jessica - posted on 01/01/2010

I lost my little angel at 39 weeks. I went in for a regular check up only to find out that there was no heartbeat. My heart is broken and I feel lost. I am thankful to have my 8 year old daughter to get me through my hard days. She is my reason for waking each day. I am so sorry for your loss.

Christine - posted on 01/01/2010

June 23, 2008 I lost a child in early third trimester, a boy. He had succumbed to the effects of severe gestational diabetes and had passed in my womb some days prior to my regular visit; during which he was found to have had no heart-beat. Due to his size I had no choice but to labor and deliver which was followed up by an immediate DNC. However, I was made to wait 3 days before the arrangements could be made by the doctor and hospital to provide me the adequate accommodations of privacy on a private wing of space within labor and delivery that both I and delivering mothers needed. We were forced to wait some eight weeks before we could put our son to rest due to the required testing. I am haunted by this loss daily knowing I carried a child that was deceased has been a difficult realization for me. It made the impending delivery both frightening and incredibly upsetting as I felt my womb was toxic. I had become so protective of this passed child that it was sheer torment and agony to say goodbye. I prayed and cried ever moment before delivery that through some divine act or miracle that this child's heart would be revived and that this was all a mistake. I could not accept that as a mother I could not soothe this child, my child's. I have since taken surgical intervention to prevent any further pregnancies. I am the mother of five children, Joey, Sarah, Michael, Isabella and my angel Raymond Jr. It has been a long and arduous task of daily tears and prayers to get me to this point. My heart is devastated and a void will always remain and my arms will arms will forever ache to hold the child we called Raymond Jr. Though the loss of a child is ongoing and incomprehensible. I move forward more everyday and am blessed with four living children that as they grow have managed to soothe my pain and anguish with their accomplishments and growth. Raymond Jr. will be in our hearts always but will remain in God's care Forever. I wish all of you well and extend my admiration to you for your bravery having suffered such a loss as mine!

MARGARET - posted on 12/31/2009

I am a nurse that worked in the NICU. I was present a the birth of a full term baby that never cried. I will never forget the mother or the child. The baby was beautiful. The sadness was too great for me. I handed in my 2 week notice that day. I have since lost my precious child in a car accident. The sadness is greater. I will say that writing this brings back a memory of both my time with the baby and my time with my son after their deaths. I bathed the baby after it was born and I bathed my son after he was killed. Those moments were both so sad, but so very beautiful. I felt the presence of angels surrounding me both times. I believe the angels were guiding the beautiful spirits and comforting them. I am so sorry for you loss.

Maria - posted on 12/31/2009

I delivered my first son, Treyton Joseph, at 31 weeks and he too was a stillborn. He was born September 24,2006. Six months after delivery we found out we were pregnant again. We felt blessed but scared out of our minds because we didn't have an answer to why Treyton had to go. 27 weeks into the 2nd pregnancy and we found out I have a blood clotting disorder called Factor V Leiden. I was seen by 3 different doctors 5 days a week until delivery and I had to be put on a blood thinner. We know have a beautiful 2 year old son Lyric Lee who was born heathly at 37 weeks. You will never forget and that pain will always stay with you but with time it will ease. I have become active in the March of Dimes and online support groups. We also seen a grief counselor through the hospital which helped a lot. Everybody grieves differently and for me it helps to talk about him. I talk about Tryeton as much as I talk about Lyric. We celebrate his birthday every year and release balloons for him at the end of the day. He is very much a part of our everyday lives even though he's growing up in heaven. We have a 2ft christmas tree we put up for him every year and after christmas we buy him a new ornament for his tree. People say hurtful things because they don't understand the reality of it all unless they have been through it themselves but you have to ignore it and just let it go. God Bless all of us with angels in heaven.

Jessica - posted on 12/30/2009

hello, my name is Jessica. and i also lost a baby at full term. my daughter was born sleeping 3 years ago.. i miss her so much.. and im very sorry for u loss aswell

Kathy - posted on 12/30/2009

I lost my first child, a boy named Casey Lynn, at full term. He was perfect in every other way. My doctor at the time didn't do ultrasound in office and believed it to be unnecessary and expensive, and since I had never been pregnant before..I listened to her. When he was born the cord was wrapped around his neck...twice. I looked to the Lord for guidance and strength to make it through those dark days and eventually I was blessed with the birth of a baby girl, named Kelsey Kathleen. I miss Casey every day of my life and wonder what kind of young man who would have been (he would be 20 years old) and I know that he is now a Perfect Angel for always.

Dianna - posted on 12/29/2009

I lost my son at fullterm he died 6 hrs prior to birth....which has been known as an intern screw-up...I was 37 years old when this happened that is now 14 years ago and I still feel like it was yesterday...the only reason I didn't go insane I think was cause family friends and that I allready had two children at the time they were 4 and 15.....it will always stay with you. I will pray for u and all

Angela - posted on 12/28/2009

i lost my little boy at 7mths....it'll be 2yrs march 1....the worse thing i have ever been through!!!

Heather - posted on 12/22/2009

I lost my first child about 8 and a half years ago he was full-term, since then I have had to awesome healthy boys! I would love to chat with you sometime, and I am sorry for your lose.

Emer - posted on 12/22/2009

ah hun of course tats fullterm just ment ppl who were really early in preg just a couple of wks id a full funeral4my daughter2 xx

Danielle - posted on 12/22/2009

I lost my baby a year ago. He was only 4 weeks from his due date. The reason is unknown. I just know one day everything was fine and three days later he is dead.

Dawn - posted on 12/21/2009

My son, Jacob, was due March 25, 2008. March 17 I felt like something was wrong, like he wasn't moving as actively as usual. The next day I went in for a non stress test. The nurse performed the test then she had me go to the ultrasound tech. The tech rubbed my belly for a few seconds with the wand thing then she said the most awful words I would ever here, "I'm sorry Dawn but your baby is dead". I went in that night to be induced and had the contractions and pain killers but no drug could ever take the emotional pain away. I pushed for two hours and painfully realized my doc let the drugs wear off because she said I had no urge to push. Well when you know your child you grew would not come out alive, you just don't wanna let him go. So at 7:31pm my son was born. The cord was wrapped around his neck three times and I had no idea. I left the hospital without my son but had to endure every pain of after birth and no baby to show for it. I delivered a healthy baby girl July 28 of this year and if it wasn't for her I think I would be far more depressed. She is the only reason I don't cry everyday. As I get her ready for bed I realize how cute they would be together. He would be old enough to open gifts and be enjoying all the holidays this year. The pain of my loss will never go away but I will never forget the time I had him growing inside me.

Elizabeth - posted on 12/21/2009

I lost my wee girl at 38 wks 5 days she would have been 24yrs last april and it still hurts xx

Heather - posted on 12/21/2009

I also lost a fullterm baby. My son Blake Evan was born 12 days before his due date, he weighed a healthy 7 lbs 8.3 oz and was 20 1/2 inches. He was prefect looking and needed his nails clipped. He died from an abornally long umbilical cord that was wrapped around his neck 3 times and body once. If they had done ultrasound or fetal monitoring it would have been caught but my last ultrasound was at 19 weeks. He would be 7 1/2 months right now. We had a funeral but because we live so far from family I dont think they understood that he was fullterm in fact a pound larger than my daughter at birth and he was early. I think it is crazy how many infants die at fullterm but until it happens to you, you dont know. God Bless you and your little Angel.

Melissa - posted on 12/21/2009

Quoting emer:

any1 else here loss a baby at fullterm!

i lost my first child at fullterm 3yrs ago iv met mums who lost babies but most were early on in pregnancy

i lost one of my twins at 33 weeks. pretty close to full term I was due for a c section in 5 weeks. Everyone made fun of me because I had a full funeral for him  but he was almost with me I still feel like I lost a baby that had been born...

Julie - posted on 12/20/2009

I had a early miscarriage and then two months later was pregnant again with our daughter Hayley Marie who we lost at 33 1/2 weeks. She died on a Friday and I gave birth to her on a Monday which would've been week 34. We were able to hold her for 8 hours. We took pictures, had our own baptism and many friends and family came to see our beautiful daughter for the first and last time. We also had a funeral for her. Every year we bring a cupcake to her on her birthday. Next month she would've turned 7. I miss her everyday. Thankfully, God blessed me with two more little living girls. Though they can never take the place of Hayley, they sure do bring a lot of love into my life! Lately I have been sad because my girls are growing up so fast, one will be six next month and the other is 4 1/2, but I had to remind myself how lucky I am to see them grow and change since I missed all that with Hayley. I am sending out love to all of you who have lost a baby, no matter how far along, because it hurts beyond words no matter when it happens!

Lisa - posted on 12/20/2009

Our daughter Samantha was stillborn on June 12, 2007, eight days before she was due. The day before, I found out that she had died--I hadn't felt her move that morning, and I went to the hospital for a non-stress test. Her heart was not beating. After she was born, we found out that her umbilical cord was compressed. She was a beautiful baby and looked like my other girls. Losing her was (and is) a terrible thing. We have been blessed with three living children, two before and one after the loss, but we will always miss Samantha.

Angela - posted on 12/19/2009

i lost two, one was born at 24 weeks and live 8 hours and one was born at 26 weeks and live 6 days you never get over the lost

Karen - posted on 12/19/2009

My first baby was born at 42 weeks, weighing 9lbs2oz. He lived only 36 hours. He was a breech birth (butt first) and the cord got caught between his body and mine, causing him to take a breath while his head was still inside. He did not take his first breath outside the womb until 45 minutes after he was born. His brain was so damaged by then that it could not sustain his vital organs and he passed the next day.

Becky - posted on 12/19/2009

I lost a baby 2 1/2 years ago She was two weeks late and only lived for 25 minutes. I am still having a hard time dealing with the loss of my baby girl.
I am here if you would like to talk

Jessica - posted on 12/18/2009

My second Daughter was born on march 14th 2003,i was in labor for 48 hours until she was born and she only lived an hour and 10 min.That was the most hardest thing i had ever had to go throuh and i feel soo sorry for all the family's that have gone throuh the same thing.