Anyone have a healthy baby after a stillbirth

Jessyca - posted on 05/30/2009 ( 237 moms have responded )

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HOW many out there have had a stillborn and then go to have a healthy baby afterwards! My husband and i lost our son at 23 weeks and are wanting to try again but i am so nervous! I am 22 so the doctors are telling me i have plenty of time and that this shouldnt happen again but they never found the cause of death!

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Alexandra - posted on 02/28/2013

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Hi Cathy,
I lost my son 9/12/12 at 32 weeks. The doctor told us to wait three months but like you I really wanted a baby. My husband and I decided to try after 6 weeks. I didn't get my period back at all and still conceived. I am now 19 weeks pregnant with my rainbow baby girl due this July. The three month waiting period is mostly suggested so that you can heal more mentally. After a pregnancy ends, you are highly fertile period or no period you will still ovulate as you can see I never got my period and still conceived. It is possible. Don't let anyone tell you what is right or wrong, if you are ready and you feel like you can handle a pregnancy soon after your loss than listen to your heart. Only you know what's best for you. My angel son Aiden will never ever be replaced but I wanted to give him a sibling and give this baby as much love I had for Aiden, to this baby. I wish you all the best, I know how hard it is and the pain will never go away but you learn to cope slowly. You will smile again but you will have moments of sadness that may catch you by surprise. I had one today. I was digging through my purse for lip gloss and felt a piece of what may be trash and I pull it out only to see it was a piece of confetti from Aidens baby shower that said "it's a boy" and my heart sank so deep. Good luck Hun, I hope to read good news from you soon!

Rosie - posted on 04/12/2014

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In 2005 I was 40 weeks pregnant and went into to the hospital to give birth to a healthy 7lb 3oz baby girl; except when they went to check her heart beat it was not there. SHe was my first born and I was completely devistated...its the hardest thing in world to walk into a hospital full of hopes and dreams for the baby you carry in your womb's future and have to leave with empty arms, empty dreams and a broken heart. The cause of her death is unknown. I had just been to my appt. 2 days before and doctor said everything was perfect. Sometimes God allows things to happen that are not within our control. For some reason he chose this for her and for me. My husband became such a strong tower in my life...only he knew how deeply I was hurting for he was hurting just as much as I was. I cried for days, weeks, months, years on out....I felt hurt, sad, confused, angry, devastated, disillusioned, broken hearted...I could bearly make it through her burial. I recall that at one point my legs grew so weak that i almost fainted...But let me tell you 8+ years later I have three beautiful healthy strong little ones that have filled my life with so much happiness and joy! They are my biggest reward...i look at them i hear God whispering into my ear, "Well done, good and faithful servant; in the little you were faithful, I will make you ruler over many things: enter into the joy of your lord." Keep your head strong and your heart focused on God and let him lead you where he may; I can assure you, you will be blessed. My testimony now serves as a blessing to others and although I still feel pain when I think about my Iris, I know that Gods purpose for her in my life was greater than mine! To God be the glory!

Brenda - posted on 06/05/2009

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My son was stillborn at 39 weeks due to an umbilical cord accident. I got pregnant again within 4 months and now have a happy healthy 4 year old son and a new 5 month old daughter. Each pregnancy after loosing my first got tougher, emotionally and physically. Having another child helped ease some of the emptiness, but no matter how many children I have there will always be an empty spot in my heart, hands and mind. I lost my son 5 years 3 months ago and sometimes the pain still feels as raw as the day he was stillborn, but looking into the eyes of his siblings I can see how precious the love is that we will always share.

User - posted on 02/28/2013

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my advice is be gentle on yourself. Don't feel any guilt if and when you get pregnant. 10 weeks or 10 years isn't ever going to replace your angel. We only waited 5 months to try again and we did it every second day while ovulating.

We will not be waiting that long to try again. Please feel free to email me anytime. or check out my blog www.letterstoleia.ca

Amber - posted on 05/02/2013

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Hello ladies! also technological dinosaurs! lol

I think I did it. . . I started a new coversation here: http://www.circleofmoms.com/motherhood-a...

It's called "I Hope to bring my next baby home"

I think it should inspire all of us to be positive. I am scared shitless to even try to conceive (as i still have to wait till end of May for autopsy results) and heard my husband say that he is afraid of ultrasounds. We need to obvioulsy do more healing before we can think of conceiving another baby, however that is what I think we should all speak on. What we are doing for ourselves. What you are doing for your health once you have a freaking positive pregnancy test!

All that to make our next journey more Hopeful.

It's also in honour of my baby girl. . . .Isabella hope. . . .I Hope . . . .

xo
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Elizabeth - posted on 09/24/2014

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I too have lost 2. My son died after preterm birth at 6 months and I miscarried at 10 weeks both within a year. I'm 20 weeks pregnant now and terrified everyday....I'm 38 and Dr told me it would only be more risky to wait any longer. I'm really crazy right now

Rezwana - posted on 06/30/2014

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Hello everyone,
This is Rezwana, on 25 February 2014 I gave stillbirth of a beautiful baby girl Zaraa. I was 33weeks 2days pregnant. I had c-section n Dr couldn't find any reason why this happened. I had dr's appointment 4 days before this incident n he said everything is fine n your baby is happy n healthy. But then this traumatic incident happened. Zaraa is my first baby n I can't tell you how devastating I am. My husband is very caring n supportive other wise it would be very difficult for me to survive. I can't tell you how difficult it is to see all my friends who were pregnant with me have their own baby except me. Only those who have been through this will understand my feelings, no one else. I know it's all god's wish, I can't see what good things is behind this......but I know this is good for me n one day I'll have my baby, Zaraa's siblings....but I am very scared.......plz pray for me......

Lopez-Muro - posted on 06/25/2014

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Hi Latandra how exciting how many mths are you now.I had a stillbirth I was 7 mths prego that happend this year on March 10 2014 after four mths I'm trying again but your success inspires me.

Lopez-Muro - posted on 06/25/2014

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Hi Lesley sorry for your lost as I'm reading your post it takes me back to March 10 2014 I had a stillbirth & it was a boy & he was my first.You shouldn't be so hard on your self we have to grow & learn from this horrible situation I hated the world after my stillbirth I"m barely getting back in my normal routine,we have to stay strong & move forward.My wife is what kept me sane & the thought of one day being able to have a baby & be able to bring home is what motivated me to get back on track with my life but trust that I was depressed I didn't even want to be around family or friends,I didn't want to do nothing just sleep that's all.

Lopez-Muro - posted on 06/25/2014

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Hi Destiny wow my stillbirth was 3/10/14 & I was due 5/20/14 like you that sounds crazy,I'm not following no orders I'm 32 I'm not getting any younger,there was no complications on my side so I'm not waiting no 6 mths to try again.They say the first 6 mths your regaling more eggs & your more fertile & if mentally your ready go for it.

Lopez-Muro - posted on 06/25/2014

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Hi Bianca wow we both were going thru this on the same mth,how crazy when this is happening you think your the only person going thru this,but sadly your not alone.Sorry for your lost.

Lopez-Muro - posted on 06/25/2014

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Hi Elise sorry for your lost & you can't give up you shouldn't give up.Having a baby is a beautiful thing we cannot let this type of situations in our life's discourage us.

Lopez-Muro - posted on 06/25/2014

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Hi Bobbi the same thing happened to us & us to are a same sex couple.So sorry for your lost how are you guys holding on now ?

Kylie - posted on 06/17/2014

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Hi Latandra! Well I wanted to let you know I got my BFP!! I will be 6 weeks on Thursday! I can't begin to describe how excited I am!... But so scared at the same time. How are things going with your pregnancy?!

Georgina - posted on 05/05/2014

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i know how you feel, i have lost two babies and am trying for a third time. My prayers and blessings go out to you.

Dawn - posted on 05/04/2014

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I gave birth to my beautiful little boy this morning, he was born sleeping, it's not really sunk in yet. I cried after he was born at 1.57 am, but not since. I keep thinking I have no baby in my tummy, then carry on. Left the hospital against medical advise at 8 am, to come home and cook a roast dinner for my 23,21,19,7 year olds plus my grandson. Not even told adam's father yet, who left me in febuary. Think it is just starting to hit me now, after having a couple of vodka's, tears starting to flow, I want my baby boy

Bobbi - posted on 04/28/2014

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Nini,

Was your son that you lost your first? How far along were you when you lost him? I'm sorry if I am opening wounds I am just curious. Our daughter was our first and the thought of trying again excites us yet worries us. Is this going to happen again to us? Will our baby make it all the way and pass later on in life? I mean we have to many thoughts and emotions running through us but we want a baby. We wanted our daughter Rylie so much and I know you know that feeling. When you found out were you pregnant again how did you react? Were you able to stay calm? We aren't sure yet what took our angel because the full pregnancy was fine, no issues what so ever. Just woke up one morning and she wasn't moving then the doctor couldn't find her heartbeat. 6 days away from her due date. I guess I am just curious how you went on.

Nini - posted on 04/28/2014

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Bobbi- she wouldnt want you to give up- she would want you to keep trying
Its hard i know i have been there i couldnt look at babies or be near one let alone i shut myself up from the world

One day i decided i wanted to breath again see the sunlight laugh
Not cry hurt n wanna scream at everything
I got my mind busy
( i have never forgotten) but i moved on there was nothing i could do to bring my baby boy back
I thought he would want me happy not like this mess i have become id have to be strong and brave and thats what i did
I returned back to work only to find out a month n a bit later that i was preg again

Im not saying it was easy i was under constant screening - tests - monitoring - blood - medicines - i had 38 ultrasounds done and on dec 16
2013 i gave birth to my baby angel Evie

I can only say that its not easy the pain hurt and emotions will be there but be by ur partners side and help her and your self move on and try again when you are ready to do so
Only you to will know this
No one else can tell you or force you

Xx im sorry deeply to hear about your loss
But i wish you best of luck and great wishes and hope

Nini - posted on 04/28/2014

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Hello all xx how are you ???
Im proof of a rainbow baby mum
I just never gave up
And my little girl was born - yes i lost my baby boy and will never forget him but he gave me his beautiful baby angel sister
And i know he is watching over us
We miss him so much and will be with hom together one day ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Bobbi - posted on 04/26/2014

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My Partner and I were due for our first child on April 23rd. We are a same sex couple so this was a very exciting time for us since we had to try so hard. We found out we were having a girl and planned her room accordingly. We did a cute jungle theme with a beautiful mural. We couldn't wait to bring her home. Well on the 16th my partner (the one carrying) and I decided to go for a long walk (hoping to induce to see our little girl) and nothing happened. Well the next morning she woke up me saying that she couldn't feel Rylie moving, I told her Im sure she was fine the doctor told us she will slow down. She asked me to get the heart monitor to find her to make sure she was ok. I couldn't find it...I called the doctor and they rushed us in for an ultrasound. Once we saw our little girl the words I'm so sorry came from our doctors mouth. Dead? How could she be dead? She is due in 6 days, we have everything ready for her. We just couldn't understand or even believe this was happening. They immediately sent us to the hospital to induce the labor process and at 11:17pm our beautiful 8lb 5oz 18in long baby was born. She looked so healthy. Why was she not breathing? I just cannot understand why. The entire pregnancy she was great and everything was fine. Why did she have to die 6 days before she was supposed to be with us? How have some of you woman gone through this and gone onto have other children? We cannot even go into her room. My wife feels so empty and I don't know how to help her. We want a child so bad, but is this going to happen again?

Bhagya - posted on 04/21/2014

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i lost my baby girl because of Rainbow hospital doctors, bledy hospital , only money minded hospital.

Elyse - posted on 04/16/2014

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I lost my twin girls on April 3rd. They were 23 weeks five days. I was just at home and relaxing when I started to get some cramps. I had a bath and used a heat pack but nothing seemed to work. It did not even cross my mind that I was going into pre-term labor. I called the pregnancy help line that night and they told me to take some panadol and get some rest. After a night of tossing and turning I went into the hospital at 6am.

It was a painful drive. When I got there they had determined I was expereincing contractions and then my reality turned into a nightmare. My husband was away in another country visiting his family. The doctor told him to come back right away and I called some close friends for some support. They came and were there the whole time. They were my angels. The doctors gave me some morphine to try to stop the contractions and I was able to hold on for 40 hours. But then I stated to have this awful odor and they determined I developed an infection. They had to induce me. I gave birth to my beautifl girls Chloe and Eve. They were still born. I could't believe this was happening to me the whole time. I kept waiting to wake up. I will forever love these girls and my heart will hold them close. My husband made it to the hospital the next day. We had a naming ceremony. It was very hard leaving the hopsital empty handed. But now, the pain and the loss is really starting to be processed. I am more angy now than I was on the day we left the hospital.

I feel like a failure. We want to try again soon. I am 28 years old and the clock is ticking. I still have a cathater because I was having bad bladder retention. My body had gone through the mill. It is nice to know I am not alone and you all feel the same heart ache. I am still very angry and jelious of others who are pregnant.

It was a hard pregnancy. I had two incodences of bleeding, I was given high risk for down syndrome which required Amniocentisis. It was also twins which had a whole other set of challenges with it. I hope for an easy single pregnancy next time.

I am scared to go through it all again but I really want a baby.

Bianca - posted on 04/12/2014

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Hi all my baby girl was a still born 3-29-14 37 wks 6lb 15oz 20inch. it was the most devastating heart breaking thing ive ever gone thru. I had a docters appointment the 28th of march nd she was fine. Friday came and I was getting bad contractions so my bf rushed me too the hospital. As soon as the nurse tryd too fined a heart beat there was nothing. I was soo scared. My mom and mother inlaw tryd too calm me down by saying maybe she was in a certain position. They did a ultra sounf and there was no movement no heart beat. Those words im soo sorry coming from my doctor. I felt like I was hit my a truck. Like my heart was ripped out. I felt like my life was over. How can you say good bye too ur hopes and dreams. Too a child that you love soo much. :'(. Everyone will say ohh shes in a better place. Theres no better place than in my arms. I miss my baby girl so much I miss her kicks and her rolling around. I cry everyday. I will literally die of a broken heart :"( but I kno I gotta be strong for My son joshua who is 6 years old and also autistic. It broke my heart when he seen me vry and ge tells me ( No dont cry) my babyboi new I was sad :'(. Me and my bf been trying for years for another baby nd as soon I get pregnant and get my baby girl. Shes gone :'(. The docters couldn't explain wat happend. But im upset cuz my doc appointment prior my doc had mentioned that I was showing signs of preeclampsia. I dont understand why she wouldn't pute me on bed rest if I was showing signs. Me and my bf want another baby soo bad but im soo scared. I dont want too go thru this again. My baby girl was soo beautiful. We will never replace her. She will always be our baby girl nd her big brothers little sister. We just want a bigger family nd a brother n sister for joshua

♡lylah celest♡ 3-29-14 we love you baby girl

Shauneka - posted on 04/08/2014

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I see this post is old but I googled healthy baby after stillbirth and this popped up. I had my third stillborn on 1/05/14. I'm 24 and want a child of my own to love whole heartedly. But it's too painful to even try again. I know this comment has no affect on your question. I just don't know where else to turn.

Temia - posted on 03/21/2014

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Hey, Woman Of God my precious angel went to heaven on Oct. 7 2013 at 38 weeks. And she was so pretty. But, let tell it is only GOD that will keep your heart and comfort you. He will BLESS you again and Nehemiah 8:10, The JOY of the LORD be your Strength! Amen stay encouraged GOD is in control

Destiny - posted on 03/13/2014

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Hi ladies my name is Destiny, I gave birth to my beautiful daughter Robyn at 21 weeks. Its really hard to explain because one minute I was in pain, pain so bad i didn't even realize I have having contractions. Somehow that Thursday morning 2-13-14 my water broke (it had to be while I was using the restroom) because I never actually saw it or felt it. Well later that day in my Anatomy class I was getting "cramps", when leaving class they got worst. I went home and tried to sit on the bed (I couldn't) so my bf took me to the hospital and all they kept doing was getting different women to try and find my baby heatbeat and I kept saying what the problem I feel her moving (At the time I didnt know she was a girl due to previous ultrasound) and then suddenly a nurse rolls the ultrasound gun directly over my pelvic and we heard her heart beating. All I could do was cry and cry... I could barely breathe by this news, it hurt so bad! Minutes later I was giving birth to my 1st born. She lived for 4 hours the prettiest tiny girl every. I want to try again so bad (the preganacy) I can def say me and my bf havent been following any of our parents rules or the doctors. Many dont understand thats someone we made together, someone we loved and was so so excited to meet her. I never did a autopsy on her because I just felt she was too small but I do think sometimes if it was anything wrong. I do know the doctor said my cervix has shorten. I just wish it was caught sooner, my baby girl would be born 5-20-14.. It saddens me alot bc today makes a month without her, I miss her movement and kicks. even though no one could take her place I so glad that we was able to provide a funeral for her and I can visit her constanly... Its just sometimes I feel so so lonely...

Jordan - posted on 03/04/2014

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I did!!!! Although it was a nerve wracking pregnancy my 3rd baby was born healthy and alive. I was induced at 38 wks tho bc I lost my 2nd baby at 39wk. It helped me to know I was going to have him earlier than my last but it still dint make it very easy!!! I got pregnant 5 months after losing Bronson. It was a healing balm for me to know I was pregnant. The pregnancy was stressful tho. So be sure u r mentally ready to handle it! I worried all the time if my baby would die again, would I have to go through a funeral again?, would ppl think I'm a failure if I lost another child? What would my hubby do? Would he be able to handle losing another one? Could I? My faith made me stronger than I could have ever been. So be strong and make sure u are 'prepared' before u have another one. Also I think when u don't know cause of death that makes it hard too. They never found out for mine except that I had high fluid. I am thinking of u and know that I was there too.

Lisa - posted on 03/01/2014

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Im so sorry to hear about your lost. I was 39 weeks and was going to get sent to hospital to deliever after appointment, when doing the nst they couldn't find a heart beat, so they sent to ultrasound and said my son was no longer with us. Its the worst feeling in the word to lose a baby. I have had so much hate and been so confused since all this happened, and I cant stand to look at myself in the mirror thinking it was my fault. During the nst I felt my son last kick and they could only find a slight heartbeat then , I don't understand why they didn't rush me to hospital then to deliever. My son had the ulberitcal cord wrappend around his neck, and this could have been prevented if they sent me to hospital when they couldn't find the heart beat at first. My doctor canceled on me 4 times during my last 3 weeks of doctor visits, and I was a very high risk pregnancy. Its so hard losing a child then having all this hate in your heart is worse. Im trying to stop blaming and take everyone advice " everything happends for a reason, but it never stops the pain. Im so scared of trying again, scared it will happen again. I wish you the best of luck in trying to cope with your lost. My thoughts and prayers are with you all the way. "Hugs" .

Lesley - posted on 02/27/2014

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My name is Lesley, I found out I was pregnant on April 5th of last year 2013, and on December 5th which was my appointment they checked me, and the baby on the ultrasound, sadly the doctor told me that there was no heart beat. I was having a boy, his name was Ocatvious Omar Levia, He weighed 4 pounds. He was born on December 7th 2013 he was suppose to be born on January 3 or 4th. I left the hospital with no answer, According to Doctors they said my placenta was fine and so was the umbilical cord, my blood pressure was fine.. Doc till this day don't know what happen. There are no answers. They said.. "we don't know, its just something that happens" I do remember the last time I spoke to the doc it was on November 22, 2013, and she told me if the baby was moving... I said, no, She said, " Well.. he is suppose to be moving 10 times a day" I said, negative, impossible that he should be moving 10 times a day. he was my first child so I didn't know... I thought maybe it was the caused of my weight, or he was just going to be a lazy baby, and she said, No there are many chubby woman who can feel their baby moving . before I left she checked on the ultrasound, and said his heart beat was great. When I went back on Dec 5th, they told me he was gone, I LOST it. I completely lost my mind, I was confused, sad, Depressed, I just wanted to end my life right on the spot. I wanted to die with the baby. Since I got help ive been moving on for the better. I still tell myself if I can still do this again. Its soo hard! I just wanted to share my feelings.

Latandraqualls - posted on 02/22/2014

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Ok, now I see. Glad to hear that you are in remission with that. After going through that, you should be considered high risk. Your young, got plenty of time! Keep me posted on your journey hun! :)

Kylie - posted on 02/22/2014

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Hi Latandra, Ulcerative colitis is a chronic disease of the large intestine where the lining of the colon becomes inflamed and develops tiny open sores or ulcers. Before we found out why I was so sick, I went to the ER one night because I couldn't eat anything, became dehydrated and lost about 12 pounds, all when I was 14 weeks pregnant. I am currently in remission and my GI doctor says that if I'm in remission when I get pregnant again, I will more then likely remain in remission throughout my next pregnancy. I will be 27 in April. And yes, my OB said the cord was around her neck when I delivered her. But I'm glad ill be considered high risk next time so I can be closely monitored.

Latandraqualls - posted on 02/21/2014

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So what exactly is UC? Will it happen to you again in future pregnancys? How old are you? And yes, I was due march 27th. So we were just about the same on that. March 27th is also my wedding anniversary, sooooooo, every year will be a bitter/sweet day. So when your baby was born, they saw the cord around the neck?

Kylie - posted on 02/21/2014

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Hi Latandra, well at least you have some answers now! They did not do an autopsy on my baby. They just said it was the cord around her neck. Looking back I wish they would've done an autopsy on Brynn because it would help put my mind to ease a little more, rather then just assuming that was the cause. But I will still be considered high risk (I think the reason for that is because I was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis at 14 weeks and was very sick). I think that may have played a part in why this happened too, but they didn't even consider that to be the cause. They say mothers with UC deliver healthy babies all the time. I was 29 weeks to the day I delivered Brynn, but she was only measuring 21 weeks big. She just wasn't growing like she was supposed to be. So our due dates would've been very close together then, right?... And yes keep you fingers and toes crossed for a positive test here soon!!! I'll keep you posted for sure!

Latandraqualls - posted on 02/21/2014

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Yes Kylie, I'm beyond excited! It was a bitter/sweet moment when the hpt read positive. But I will say that my doctor called today with more info on the autopsy. He said there was a knot in her cord. I asked, why was that not seen at delivery, and he said because of the location of the knot. Apparently there was a knot in the cord up by the bellybutton so it was not seen till the autopsy was performed. That makes me feel a little better with going through with this pregnancy. So, my Dr. Said he will be treating this pregnancy as a normal one. I have 3 other children 17,13 and 9.I had my tubal reversal 4/13 and was pregnant with my Angel by 7/13. So, you can just imagine how excited we were for her arrival. Keep me posted when you finally get that positive next month! We can go through this journey together! 👍💝

Kylie - posted on 02/21/2014

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Hi Angel, I know exactly what you mean. I was very sick in my pregnancy (was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis at 14 weeks) but I didn't care how sick I was. I knew that it would all be worth it in the end when I got to hold my baby... but then to have your baby taken from you is the worst feeling in the entire world. She too was my motivation everyday, but we will both get our motivation back! I'm right there with ya, scared to death that this could happen to us again. But the way I look at it is that maybe our babies were not healthy and God decided he needed our special angels in heaven, even though we were not ready for them to be taken. Just remember we have very special angels watching over us and we WILL get our motivation back! Take care ;)

Angel - posted on 02/21/2014

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I lost my Chase two weeks and two days ago. He was 27 weeks. Everyday I cry for him, but he's not coming back. I haven't caught my breathe since. I miss his little kicks and movements. My heart is so heavy. He was my motivation and my reasoning that life was amazing. It's sad to have this happen, especially my first pregnancy. The only thing the doctor had told me is that the umbilical cord was weak. I want another baby, but I can't go through another loss. I will never replace my Chase. After experiencing a pregnancy it is amazing how God created us women and I loved the life that was growing inside of me. I love you Chase baby.

Kylie - posted on 02/21/2014

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Hey Latandra, CONGRATS on being pregnant!! I'm sure you're beyond excited! I can't wait to write back to you and tell you I'm pregnant again!! I'm sure it will be very soon (as it only took one month of us trying before I got pregnant the first time)! And yes, I think it will get easier after a few months. My baby shower was supposed to be this past Sunday, so that day was hard. And I know my due date, March 28th, will be a hard day too. I've just had my first cycle, so we might be trying this month!... But just scared. I will keep you in my prayers during this next journey in your life! You will have to keep me posted on how everything is going with this pregnancy! They told me that I will be considered high risk for my next pregnancy, are you high risk for this pregnancy?

Latandraqualls - posted on 02/20/2014

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Hi Kylie. I experienced all the emotions that you wrote. Hell, I'm still experiencing it and it's been 3 months since my Angel went to heaven. I wanted to be pregnant again right away too. My cycle didn't get back on track till Jan and now it's Feb and I'm 4 weeks pregnant! I say soon as your body is ready, go for it. I will keep you in my prayers. It does get easier with time, but I think a piece of our heart will forever be in heaven with our Angels. 🌹❤

Kylie - posted on 02/20/2014

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We lost our little Angel on 1-8-14. This was my first pregnancy. I went in for my regular checkup at 29 weeks on 1-7-14 and the they couldn't find the heartbeat. The nurse told me oh she's just hiding in there and searched for about 5 minutes for the heartbeat. They sent me next door to another room for an ultrasound and that is when my world shattered. No heartbeat. I have never felt pain like I had ever felt that day. I had never felt so empty in my entire life. I went in at 6am the morning of the 8th and delivered our baby, Brynn Elizabeth at 8:56 pm that day. She was perfect in every way and I miss her terribly. The doctors said the cord was wrapped around her neck. It has been 6 weeks since her delivery and we want to start trying right away for another. But I can't begin to describe how terrified I am. I know I wouldn't be able to handle something like this again. The doctor said wait for my body to go through 2-3 cycles then we can start trying again. But I don't want to wait that long. I feel like the only way I can feel happiness again is to be pregnant. I will never ever forget Brynn but I just so badly wanted to take my baby home with me. I know that many moms are terrified to get pregnant again after a tragedy like this happens. How did you all get through your next pregnancy without worrying yourselves to death?? And went on to have perfectly healthy Babies? My thoughts and prayers go out to all the parents that have had to go through this.

Latandraqualls - posted on 02/19/2014

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Hi Shaneka, I'm so sorry for your lost. I delivered my Angel at 20 weeks 11/14/13. Autopsy showed nothing, no cause. Exactly 3 months from the day I had her I found out im pregnant! 2-14-14. So my journey is starting again. This baby definitely will not replace my Angel but it gives me more faith in my God that he has a plan for us. Give it to God and he will give it to you! Your in my prayers huny. ❤

Mary - posted on 02/13/2014

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We lost our baby 27 years ago at 34 weeks. I still feel the loss but have learned to count my blessings. We had 2 daughters who were 2 and 4 at the time. We waited nearly 4 years to have another child. We were blessed with a healthy boy. It is scary to try again. We too did not find out what caused our little Nate's stillbirth. Time does bring healing but you will never forget this child of yours nor should you forget. We wish all of you peace.

Shaneka - posted on 02/09/2014

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I lost my baby girl at 34 weeks and im trying to have another baby ,the docter say wait 3 months but im to hurt to wait.im tryinh to make the best out of life without my baby.like right now Web im all into my feeling.and I was told that this time when I het pregnant im gonna be at high risk but I dont care not bring home my baby broken me . I know I cannn replace her but I need to see a baby thats mines in my arm's.

Katie - posted on 02/08/2014

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I have two boys 7&1 I lost my little girl Lauryn Rylee November 20th 2013. Stillbirth at 30weeks 5days. They believe my placenta ruptured but I didn't get the autopsy results back yet...but with not a lot of explanation my Doctor told me it is likely to happen again. I'm so scared it might happen again, but my heart wants to try again when I'm ready. Has this happened to anyone & they were able to still have a healthy baby?

Jennifer - posted on 01/16/2014

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I lost my daughter keila'nis july 24 2013 I was 36 weeks due to embilical knot I am still lost hurt mad ect I have 2 teenage boys I just found out im pregnant probably only a few weeks I was so happy to know I will be having a sibling of my daughter but I am so scared something will go wrong and im alone everyone is was against me trying to have another baby im so scared

Angela - posted on 01/11/2014

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I lost ma baby girl Pearl Unathi at 22 weeks and 6days. I went in for an ultrasound and her heart had stopped beating. I was induced and gave birth to my perfect little girl on the 7th of Dec 2013. I miss her everyday. I want to start trying as soon as possible not to replace her but to stop myself going crazy. The doctor s don't know what caused it and we have no answerz.l feel so empty inside l fear l might go crazy if l don't try again not to replace her but to keep sane and get hope

Emma - posted on 01/05/2014

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Hi all. I'm 27 my first pregnancy and at 21 weeks found out my baby had iugr and was told she was very very small and might not make it to a gestation where she can be delivered early to then have help in nicu. I did not give up hope and was willing her to keep growing trying everything I could!! On routine midwife app at28 wks she could not find heart beat so was sent to hospital where there conformed it. My world was shattered there and then! Had to go back next day which was 18/12/2013 to be induced and my beautiful baby girl ayla grace was born sleeping at 5.50pm, she was a tiny 12ounces but was fully developed,she just difnt have enough time to gsin weight and grow. we got to hold her and spend time with her,I miss and love her so much. But now I have an angel looking down on me. X

Jillian - posted on 01/04/2014

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I lost my son Colby Thomas on October 18, 2013 at 18 weeks. We went in for an ultrasound on October 11 and were given the news that I was carrying an anecephelic baby (no brain or skull). From that point on everything moved very quickly. We were sent to a specialist out of town the next day. The next week we were already making the funeral arrangements and after 18 hours of very hard labor he was born into God's arms 1 week after the ultrasound. No on can possibly imagine the pain one feels when they lose a child. It was very difficult for me since I had 2 healthy pregnancies and this one was not. I was going through a nasty divorce and this would have been the first child for my significant other. Telling my young daughters that God was going to take their little brother to live with him was heart wrenching. It has been almost 3 months and we are talking about trying again, I am so afraid that the same thing is going to happen again. I still have nightmares about it. But I want to give my daughters a little sibling that they can hold in their arms and my fiancé a child that he can play with. We have no intentions of replacing our little Colby, there will always be a hole in our hearts where he belongs.

Tiara - posted on 12/30/2013

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I lost my son, Elijah, on 12/19/13 at 23 weeks. He was 1lb 1ounce and 11in long. He had huge hands and feet and was beautiful. He had been sick and struggling with low amniotic fluid since 18 weeks (never more than 2cm) due to my membranes rupturing at 16weeks, Placenta Previa and SCH caused too much pressure. When he was born he had multiple contractures and hip dysplasia along with the cord being wrapped tightly around his entire body. He wasn't healthy, happy or safe. God intervened when I could not and granted me the Mercy of taking my son before he suffered and even if that Mercy entails me never hearing his laugh, falling in love with his smile or even learning his voice I am grateful. I'm not angry or bitter towards anyone, I don't feel regret (mainly because we fought HARD for him for as long as we could) or jealousy. What I do feel is an aching and a longing that I've never known. I am a mother, Elijah makes me one obviously, but it's more than that. I've been a mother since I found out he existed, since I felt his first kicks and saw his little heartbeat flickering on the screen. I am a mother with no child to hold, and my arms are painfully empty. We are trying again as soon as possible. Not because another child can replace Elijah; he will always be our son, he will always be present in our minds. I'm not trying to "get over" him with another baby it's just I don't see the lure in waiting...but then again I was born a whole 8 months after my mom's stillborn son. I think this decision is highly personal and people who haven't been there can't understand the desire and love associated with it. I'm very happy to have found this thread :)

Amanda - posted on 12/24/2013

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We lost our daughter Amirah Michelle Bennett on Dec 3, 2013 @ 22wks 2days. She was 1lb, 12 inches long and perfect! I had a premature rupture of membrane (water broke early). It turned into a breech delivery. It's been 21 days and I am all over the place with my thoughts and emotions. After looking through this site and all the messages, information and experiences it gives me hope and strength. I would like to say pls accept my deepest condolences to all the families that have lost their little angles. I know how it feels and wouldn't wish that on anyone. The one thing that I took from all of the post that I read was that it is really up to the individuals to decide when to try to get pregnant again and it will never replace the baby that was lost but it will help refill your lives with happiness again. We all have different opinions and do things differently and that's ok. Take all the time needed to grieve and/or try again. Also, a good support system (family, friends and medical) is needed to cope. We are now trying again and I am excited and yet full of fear!! I keep thinking something horrible will happen again. I go for my first blood work check for pregnancy in 2 days. I am a mess, full of emotions, but determined to try again (even thou I don't feel as strong as everyone says I am I pray and talk to God daily for strength and guidance). This pain and hurt will never go away, but one day I will be able to handle it better. Whatever it takes...taking it sec by sec, min by min, hr by hr day by day, wk by wk, month by month until eventually I can smile without crying about it. Best of luck to everyone!!!! xoxo

Brenda - posted on 12/19/2013

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I delivered my son stillborn at 16 weeks on 11/22/13.Everything was going great no complications with this pregnancy or my first and at our scheduled appointment we found he had no heartbea. We were induced the next day and after 10 hours of labor i deleivered my son Anthony Lazarus. Doctor said nothing was wrong with my son,he had no deformities, no infections and it could have been a cord accident we are waiting on chromosome results but doctor said more than likely they wont find anything because my son was fine. My husband and i want to try again and its not to replace my son but its something we want. Doctor said to wait 3 mmonths. I feel empty i dont think u can ever heal from this, i miss my son.

Roxanne Yvette - posted on 12/11/2013

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My daughter,Layla was born sleeping on November 22,3 weeks ago this Friday. I was 32 weeks that day,and had just been to the doctor for my weekly visit the day before. I toId my doctor,the RN and the ultrasound tech my concerns and worries about her not moving as much. The bpp looked good,and i had a score of 8 so they weren't concerned. The next day she was gone. It's been so hard,but I have an awesome God,husband and support system helping. I miss her and love her so much. I talk to her every day. It's devastating how common stillbirths are. I unfortunately have this in common with a lot of people my husband and I know. It's a horrible thing to have in common with anyone,but it helps to hear their stories of what happened to them and how they went on to have a healthy pregnancies and babies when they were ready,or at least when God was ready to bless them with another . I try to hold on to the fact that he is in control of everything and does things for his own reasons,and knowing she's in Heaven with Him gives me comfort. Although it's so hard to even begin to understand what those reasons could be. We aren't ready to try again anytime soon,but hope that if He does bless us with another pregnancy that we have a totally different outcome. I don't want to live in fear or with guilt if that day comes. I want another beautiful pregnancy experience. I just want us to be able to bring our baby home this time. We're blessed to have our son who is about to be 5 and my step daughter who is almost 17. My heart and prayers go out to you all. It's so hard to put all of our faith and trust in God,but we have to. Prayers going up!

Jamie Lee - posted on 12/04/2013

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Hi.. I to have jus had a stillborn at 38 weeks didn't pass away till labour I truley am deverstated and jus hope I can concive soon although I have in my head I won't I'm broken can anyone help.. Xx

Robyn - posted on 11/15/2013

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Elo excited moms who are probably moms by now I had a stilbirth at 34weeks really need ur advice unfortanetley I'm on my own going through this alone I'm now 24weeks pregnant having a girl really excited but can't stay calm,or focus on bonding cause I'm too scared I loosse this baby again please help I'm going through so much depression and can't go through this alone what can I do,I pray,I go church but my bby dad shut me out after all I've been through its just me and baby,I feel like dying cause he takes me as nothing but expects me to give him a healthy baby please just advice that's all I ask

Priscilla - posted on 10/06/2013

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hi ladies my names are Chikondi i lost my baby at 5moths last year October 2012 it was realy sad.i was not told the reason of passing on of the baby it was not easy up to now am still greaving. it's now a year now but we started trying already but up to now not yet am just believing in God.

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