Becoming irritated, not sure why

Libby - posted on 03/09/2009

Quoting Mary:

Contgrats Libby on your pregnancy. I was going to ask if she has acted like that before you were pregnant but it seems like you started sitting right about the time that you were pregnant. The only reason I say this is because it is believed that children can tell when women are pregnant. Everytime my friend was pregnant she said that her youngest kids became bratty and clingy. When I was pregnant, no one had told my niece and she hugged me and asked if I had a baby while pointing at my stomach. Maybe she senses something.

Thanks for the congrats.  I never thought of that.  I do know what you mean though, because my oldest knew I was pregnant with the daughter that we lost before I knew.  Even before I could possibly know because I wasn't expecting my period for about 2 weeks.  As for this little girl, perhaps she does sense something.  She didn't act like this when I first started watching her, but of course she was getting used to me.  I guess now she's comfortable and can show her emotions more.  Or like you said, she senses something, and maybe that's why she is craving my attention by doing her fake crying.  Who knows, but thanks for the comment, it gave me a different perspective.

Libby - posted on 03/09/2009

Quoting Trish:

hey girl your prego's eat the whole box no guilt lol

Don't worry, I still have a couple more boxes!!  There might be a day a couple days that I need a WHOLE box!!

Mary - posted on 03/09/2009

Contgrats Libby on your pregnancy. I was going to ask if she has acted like that before you were pregnant but it seems like you started sitting right about the time that you were pregnant. The only reason I say this is because it is believed that children can tell when women are pregnant. Everytime my friend was pregnant she said that her youngest kids became bratty and clingy. When I was pregnant, no one had told my niece and she hugged me and asked if I had a baby while pointing at my stomach. Maybe she senses something.

Trish - posted on 03/09/2009

hey girl your prego's eat the whole box no guilt lol

Libby - posted on 03/08/2009

Quoting Trish:

have you just recently, started feeling this way towards the child? if so i would have to chalk it up to your hormones. toddlers are alot more demanding then 16 month olds. you might be wearing yourself out, get some rest don't over extend yourself money isn't worth you health .

Well, I've only been babysitting for about 6 weeks now.  I guess I would say I've been feeling this way the last couple of weeks, which does probably mean just hormones.  I did have a good weekend, so maybe I just needed a little extra time to have fun and relax.  Yesterday we went to a movie and did some shopping and today after church we just hung out around the house, I even took a little nap.  And I don't have her again until Tuesday at noon, so perhaps I just needed a little break. 

I was also thinking that maybe I'm just not used to the moods of a little girl.  I am used to two little boys.  It seems like boys shake things off easier.  I can tell them to get over something and it's easy for them to shake stuff off.  Girls don't seem to do that.  They sulk more and are moody and less easy going.  I sorta don't know how to handle her min-meltdowns.  I don't want to give her attention for a negative meltdown of crying and whining over something.  And I've decided I am not going to allow her to be picky at my house.  I hear "I don't like that" a lot.  And I've just decided that's too bad.  She has to learn to accept things, especially when she does actually like it (food wise).  I am not going to make her a bunch of different things, especially when I know she likes what I've already made.  I just don't have the time or money to cater to that.  I guess it's just these little things that are frustrating that I don't usually have problems with when it comes to my boys.  Girls are different, that's for sure!!  I guess the way I look at it is if it were my daughter I'd be used to it, but I didn't know this little girl before now so I'm not used to her personality.  It's probably just all in my head.   I'm gonna go eat a girl scout cookie (or 2 or 3..haha) and get over it!!  LOL

Trish - posted on 03/08/2009

have you just recently, started feeling this way towards the child? if so i would have to chalk it up to your hormones. toddlers are alot more demanding then 16 month olds. you might be wearing yourself out, get some rest don't over extend yourself money isn't worth you health .

Libby - posted on 03/07/2009

Quoting Heather:

Libby, not to sound cruel, but maybe you just don't like her.  I mean, there's nothing wrong with not liking a kid (in my opinion) they're people too.  There are lots of people that annoy us, so why not a kid?  BUT, I think you're extra sensitive because you are hormonal.  Maybe you should rethink sitting her during this point in your life.

I don't know Heather.  She's a cute and sweet little girl.  My mom even said so.  And it's not that I don't like her in some way, it's just the little things that are annoying me.  I realized two more things yesterday...she keeps trying to take my boys' money out of their banks.  I have to keep telling her to put it back.  And when her mom is here and she's ready to pick her up (and I'm ready for her to leave), she runs away to play with the boys and doesn't listen very well when her mother or I call her down to get ready.  I know that's her mother's fault and not mine because she listens to me most of the time.  But I just hate that.  I feel like a 15 minute pick up could be done in 5 minutes.  Put shoes and coat on and say goodbye! 

You are right, I am hormonal.  Maybe I'm over thinking this.  I am going to tell the parents soon that I sit for that I am pregnant so that way if something were to happen (or I simply become overwhelmed) that they know there is a possibility they will have to find someone else.  And they will have to find someone else when I actually give birth to my new baby.  Atleast for about a month I would say.  I'm definetly going to keep sitting her for now.  I need the money and I watch her the most, so I make the most money off of her.  And I have a 3 day break from her now, so I think that time will be much needed right now.

Libby - posted on 03/07/2009

Quoting Dawn:

How old was your daughter? How long ago did you loose her?

I lost my daughter on December 21, 2008. She was nineteen. I find that I don't want to be around any of my friends that have their daughters that are around the same age as my Lauren. I seem to get a little irrated or maybe jealous is more the word that my friends have their daughter and are doing the things that she and I were starting to do and now I don't have that.

I lost my daughter on December 3rd, 2008, she was stillborn at 20 weeks.  So, I will always look at daughters and never be able to do the stuff with them that their moms can do.  But maybe that's too far of a leap for this situation.  I mean, she's gonna be 4 years old, she's not even close to being a baby, which a baby is the 1st stage I am missing out on with my daughter.  I don't know, I was just thinking out loud. 

Heather - posted on 03/06/2009

Libby, not to sound cruel, but maybe you just don't like her.  I mean, there's nothing wrong with not liking a kid (in my opinion) they're people too.  There are lots of people that annoy us, so why not a kid?  BUT, I think you're extra sensitive because you are hormonal.  Maybe you should rethink sitting her during this point in your life.

Dawn - posted on 03/06/2009

How old was your daughter? How long ago did you loose her?



I lost my daughter on December 21, 2008. She was nineteen. I find that I don't want to be around any of my friends that have their daughters that are around the same age as my Lauren. I seem to get a little irrated or maybe jealous is more the word that my friends have their daughter and are doing the things that she and I were starting to do and now I don't have that.